Dominance

[fluffy]

I am aware that I don't show it as I am more afraid too than others. But I think the reason a person would be this way is because it was reinforced in their psychology.

If you succeed in overpowering others there tends to be more motivated reasons to continue that behavior. They will do what you say or you feel you don't need them completely to advance or you have enough resources to not need the others respect. It makes things easier to be supported or you would not have anywhere to fall back on. And often learn the best ways to get what you want.

I have a constant fear others will abandon me if I act out because that's always been the case in my life. There is no room to assert myself or bad things happen to me all the time. This lowers my self esteem causes extreme stress and anxiety/depression. Fear mode is my basic state of mind and suppressed anger. I cannot tell people, no.

I think that this also means towards the case the person must find weaker people they can take advantage of. Or they can't release tensions. I think that with me it never seem to happen but instead I devolve into depression and losing my energy. I shutdown. My intelligence then I think lowers substantially. I don't know what to do about my problems.

I was told I could have become an alcoholic by an older gentlemen. But I don't like bitter drinks. I here is numbs pain yet I'd rather be shutdown.

Then there's the case that if you have more intelligence and emotional problems you can use that intelligence to dominate. Often I find it hard to compete with others that are this way. I gave up several times with different people who were unreasonable.

There could be more but I stopped thinking about it. I got too angry and defeated. My account of my emotional state at the moment is that I was numb but less so now. That is hard to deal with as well. Anger usually suppress my sadness but without it I just have sad feelings. Not that I feel helpless but I was numb a long time.

 

[ZenRaiden]

People gravitate towards things that are rewarded in their life somehow.
Often times dominance is rewarded in many ways.
I think its OK if people don't like you or you don't like them.
That is part of being a person.
If people try to dominate me I try to escape that.
I prefer to be my own person on my own terms.
I also don't really care about dominating others.
I do argue a lot tho, and that might seem like attempt at domineering, but I prefer truth over wrong, so I tend to argue.
Otherwise I am laid back. Unless someone crosses a line and tries to piss me off.

I suppose these issues of having strong ego require long term therapy really.
Building a strong ego also comes from experience even adversity and challenge, and self understanding.

But a lot of self understanding comes with human interaction.

 

[fractalwalrus]

I am aware that I don't show it as I am more afraid too than others. But I think the reason a person would be this way is because it was reinforced in their psychology.

If you succeed in overpowering others there tends to be more motivated reasons to continue that behavior. They will do what you say or you feel you don't need them completely to advance or you have enough resources to not need the others respect. It makes things easier to be supported or you would not have anywhere to fall back on. And often learn the best ways to get what you want.

I have a constant fear others will abandon me if I act out because that's always been the case in my life. There is no room to assert myself or bad things happen to me all the time. This lowers my self esteem causes extreme stress and anxiety/depression. Fear mode is my basic state of mind and suppressed anger. I cannot tell people, no.

I think that this also means towards the case the person must find weaker people they can take advantage of. Or they can't release tensions. I think that with me it never seem to happen but instead I devolve into depression and losing my energy. I shutdown. My intelligence then I think lowers substantially. I don't know what to do about my problems.

I was told I could have become an alcoholic by an older gentlemen. But I don't like bitter drinks. I here is numbs pain yet I'd rather be shutdown.

Then there's the case that if you have more intelligence and emotional problems you can use that intelligence to dominate. Often I find it hard to compete with others that are this way. I gave up several times with different people who were unreasonable.

There could be more but I stopped thinking about it. I got too angry and defeated. My account of my emotional state at the moment is that I was numb but less so now. That is hard to deal with as well. Anger usually suppress my sadness but without it I just have sad feelings. Not that I feel helpless but I was numb a long time.

As per Big 5 via wikipedia:
"Extraversion/positive emotionality
In Big Five studies, extraversion has been associated with surgency.[102] Children with high Extraversion are energetic, talkative, social, and dominant with children and adults, whereas children with low extraversion tend to be quiet, calm, inhibited, and submissive to other children and adults.[103] Individual differences in extraversion first manifest in infancy as varying levels of positive emotionality.[134] These differences in turn predict social and physical activity during later childhood and may represent, or be associated with, the behavioral activation system.[102][103] In children, Extraversion/Positive Emotionality includes four sub-traits: three of these (activity, sociability, and shyness) are similar to the previously described traits of temperament;[135][96] the other is dominance.

• Activity: Similarly to findings in temperament research, children with high activity tend to have high energy levels and more intense and frequent motor activity compared to their peers.[103][121][136] Salient differences in activity reliably manifest in infancy, persist through adolescence, and fade as motor activity decreases in adulthood[137] or potentially develops into talkativeness.[103][138]
• Dominance: Children with high dominance tend to influence the behavior of others, particularly their peers, to obtain desirable rewards or outcomes.[103][139][140] Such children are generally skilled at organizing activities and games[141] and deceiving others by controlling their nonverbal behavior.[142]
• Shyness: Children with high shyness are generally socially withdrawn, nervous, and inhibited around strangers.[103] In time, such children may become fearful even around "known others", especially if their peers reject them.[103][143] Similar pattern was described in temperament longitudinal studies of shyness[96]
• Sociability: Children with high sociability generally prefer to be with others rather than alone.[103][144] During middle childhood, the distinction between low sociability and high shyness becomes more pronounced, particularly as children gain greater control over how and where they spend their time.[103][145][146]"

source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Five_personality_traits