Do you intimidate people?

[Ink]

If you do; how much do you mind?

 

[B.C.P.]

If I do I'm not aware of it. I would love it if I did.

I think people find me more "weird"/"awkward" than intimidating.

 

[DrGregoryHouse]

"intense"

 

[EdgarAllnPwn]

Not on purpose.
I think most of the time its people being uncomfortable.
For whatever reason there are a lot of people out there who are not used to someone who prefers listening to speaking.
You would think they would be happy with the audience.
I am also very short with most of my responses, sometimes its like drawing blood from a stone.

 

[TimeAsylums]

If you do; how much do you mind?

unintentionally or intentionally?

Former yes, don't mean to, latter no.

 

[Jennywocky]

I like to be accessible, not intimidating, in general.

I think sometimes based on responses, though, I can be a little intimidating when I get tenacious or approach something head-on. People seem to like their cushion.

 

[Ex-User (5841)]

I apparently do unintentionally. I don't really mind unless it prevents open communication.

 

[Perfectly Normal Beast]

Yes, apparently i am quite intimidating. I don't mind because the cost of having to make an effort to unintimidate people i like is outweighed by the benefits/entertainment value of intimidating the ones i don't.

 

[just george]

More yes than no. I try not to. It's easier to get your way when they don't see you coming.

 

[TimeAsylums]

i expected these responses from a bunch of NTs lol


Generally because of the tert/inf Fe and Fi, I imagine...unless we're speaking intentionally

 

[Hadoblado]

Not at all.

 

[Lot]

I have in the past. When I was more bold and out spoken. It's funny how if you act like you know what you are talking about and dominating the conversation has that affect.

I did have some room mates that thought I was a grumpy dragon in his cave. So they were scared to approach me. Not sure if that counts though.

 

[Brontosaurie]

that'd be better than my current working hypothesis which is that i provoke disgust.

 

[ummidk]

^ I Don't think that hypothesis will do you any good

 

[The Introvert]

Yes.

I've had more than one person, after I've gotten to know them, say that I seemed "cold" when they first met me but then seemed to become much friendlier after a while.

I never noticed a difference in my behaviour.

 

[r4ch3l]

Yes, been told that a lot. Because I'm quiet and have a bad case of bitchy resting face I give off ice queen vibes but once people see that I am consistent and fair in my behavior they usually change their opinion of me. Or they see that I am extremely goofy, moderately intelligent, and mildly insecure/self-deprecating and get even more confused.

 

[Jennywocky]

Yes, been told that a lot. Because I'm quiet and have a bad case of bitchy resting face.

hee, I had forgotten about bitchy resting face.

Won't people please donate liberally so that we might fight this accursed affliction? Or else.

 

[DrGregoryHouse]

Yes, been told that a lot. Because I'm quiet and have a bad case of bitchy resting face I give off ice queen vibes but once people see that I am consistent and fair in my behavior they usually change their opinion of me. Or they see that I am extremely goofy, moderately intelligent, and mildly insecure/self-deprecating and get even more confused.

LOL resting asshole face!

I'll bet resting bitch faces and asshole faces have to endure the same annoying BS on a regular basis, i.e. people, even those closest to you, persistently asking you, "what's wrong"

...well, nothing was wrong until you just asked me! <-- is what immediately runs through my head.

 

[Etheri]

I've noticed I sometimes do when I really go up in discussions taking unconventional stances or playing devils advocate, I do end up intimidating friends slightly.

 

[SpaceYeti]

There have been times where I've intimidated people both without trying, and with trying (because they teasingly stole something of mine, for example). I'm pretty sure it's partially from my common "neutral" demeanor, where people apparently assume I'm pissed off or looking at them in a threatening manner, when actually I'm simply neutrally observing. The other part is from being in the military, where the frequent physical training has given me a muscular, straight-standing build and poise.

I'm going to enjoy meeting my daughter's boyfriends.

 

[TheScornedReflex]

I am a teddy bear.

 

[DelusiveNinja]

Unintentionally. I don't know why but people always seem to put me in violent scenarios when they meet me. This happens at least twice a week during the school year. Here is an example:

Ex.
Group of people: *silently talking about me*
Random person 1: Hi!
Me: Hey. (silently)
Random person 2: He doesn't wanna talk to you. / He doesn't like you.
Random person 1: Do you like me? / Do you wanna be my friend?
Me:..........
Random person 2: Now what if he turned around and (insert violent action) you.
Group of people: *Laugh*

I'm not sure if it's intimidation but it could be. Regardless of what it is, I am grateful for Random Person 2 being there. Either I have Asshole resting face or I'm just an asshole, which is highly possible. I don't mind.

 

[ZenRaiden]

I have had all types of reactions. Including this one. Basically I rarely evoke the corect respons. Or the one I would most likely see. It stoped bothering me, but tends to bother me a little anyway.

 

[Cherry Cola]

Nah I try to foster an open atmosphere so that people behave geuinely around me. I can make people uncomfortable though, sometimes do if someones is being a fucker. Not very good at handling direct conflicts so the subtle routes what I pref.

 

[kantor1003]

I have in the past. When I was more bold and out spoken. It's funny how if you act like you know what you are talking about and dominating the conversation has that affect.

This point deserves emphasis. Life is complicated. The only honest position (not necessarily, and likely not, the most suited towards accomplishment or happiness) I can see is one that is constantly questioning and exploring, accepting no dogma. Naturally, then, a question mark has been annexed (by means of body language, tone of voice etc.) to most utterances I've made with the resulting effect that simpletons all too easily mistake it for ignorance, even myself. On the other hand, by letting yourself believe what you are saying - letting the constant voice of doubt rest for a while - the very same people will become awe struck and believe you are a wo/man of great wisdom. Perhaps you'll even believe it yourself. It's funny.

A great example (and a beautiful interview in its own right), for those curious, of a man of wisdom that isn't intimidating, but who easily could be if he weren't as honest about the complicated nature of things would be David Foster Wallace. This uncut interview is especially revealing because it shows the deep seated insecurity of an honest man confronted by this chaos we call existence that is, as far as possible, if I remember correctly, cut out from the cut version. The video is long, but watching the first minute of it would be enough to get the point.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FkxUY0kxH80

 

[Oddity]

I doubt it.

 

[serenesam]

I guess I do before I was fully aware of it.........

 

[Pugsly]

I don't intend to, it just happens. Probably helps that along with INTP I'm a 6'3" white male engineer

 

[DrGregoryHouse]

I don't intend to, it just happens. Probably helps that along with INTP I'm a 6'3" white male engineer

they b rollin'

they b hatin'

prepare yourself for the troll hordes mate.

 

[OldCoyote]

The people that are intimidated by you are actually intimidated by themselves. They're just worried that you'll see through the deception and expose their intimidation as: intimidation of the self...


Intimidation

 

[Grayman]

If you do; how much do you mind?

I can if I want to. I don't do it, generally, but I am curious if I do and don't realize it. Any tips for recognition of your intimidation in others?

 

[Hawkeye]

I can if I want to. I don't do it, generally, but I am curious if I do and don't realize it. Any tips for recognition of your intimidation in others?

Do you start talking in a raised deep voice, darkening your surroundings, dimming candlelights and stating your distaste for being compared to a conjurer of tricks he bought on sale? ^^

Perhaps their facial expressions of fear or sheepishness when talking to you could be a give away? They could be short with you for fear that you may lash out?

 

[Grayman]

Perhaps their facial expressions of fear or sheepishness when talking to you could be a give away? They could be short with you for fear that you may lash out?

Then no, as of yet. Only my dog reacts sheepishly but it's expected as me being the alpha.

I never lash out.

 

[dream&bass]

People have told me I am very intimidating to talk about music around.

:?