BurnedOut
Your friendly neighborhood asshole
Despite my feminist rantings and the fact that I am aware that I come off as a complete hypocrite but I suppose this question warranted a presence on my behalf. With a few several miscommunications happening every other week, I have learned the following -
- Women and other genders tend to have an easier time with facing blame for serious matters such as negligence in relationships, abusive behavior, emotional neglect, goofing up important work, not being ambitious enough, justifying their victim status, etc
- The same cannot be said by men. From my parents to professors to pretty much any adult treat me differently and are very forthcoming about their umpteen disappointments regarding my life - from various interpersonal expectations being broken to poor performance. However, the same people provide women in general much more benefit of doubt and less vilification at the cost of them always perceiving the other gender as being weak.
- This whole bullshit of weak and strong genders tend to disproportionately benefit the 'weaker genders' because less expectations being placed on them. For example, after my sister moved on from her horrible relationship, she was glorified and I constantly hear my mum praising her post-relationship life, however when I came out of a relationship in my sister's age, there were nothing but a stack of ledgers of expectations and long lectures on how I abandoned my life, my responsibilities and chased after a useless relationship. I have seen men experiencing the exact same crap after committing relationshipcrimes where they are not let off the hook as easily as a woman or any other gender.
- Being looked upon as a 'masculine'-soldier parading emotionlessly with my interpersonal relationships with non-male peers and adults always being hostage to non-males' impeccable recall of my past relationshipcrimes. It feels like I am always walking on eggshells when it is anything that has not to do with recreation, general life or just the present. I have been completely unable to get any of my non-male loved ones to understand that my arse being on the line was indeed a terrifying experience and not just an expectation that males are meant to carry out in a robotic compliant manner. I find myself and oftentimes many other males around me either trying to endlessly explain themselves in the hopes of vindicating themselves or straight up ignore or you know, act all manly and violent.
It is nothing but the saddest irony that I made this post given how much of an SJW I have been but I suppose it was all in vain. Feminism might just be another -ism and the gender empowerment movement might nothing be but a manifestation of scientific breakthroughs because sure as hell men would not want to give away their apparent domineering position in lieu of peace and other genders their victim status and the lack of societal expectations that haunt men.
I understand the overall oppression that other genders face in their lives, their entire fucking lives. However, I think it's silly when all the aforementioned people lie on the same plane with the same tools for progressing in life in the same society (theoretically ceteris paribus for any gender to lead a nice life) and still take advantage of the haggardly ways of the past literally discounting all the progress in the world that makes them equal at the starting line in the race of life. I not only blame men but also every other single gender for continuing this poppycock of shoehorning inequality in societies (like a metropolitan city with a burgeoning middle-class) that otherwise has enough opportunities for people of all walks of life to compete fairly.
- Women and other genders tend to have an easier time with facing blame for serious matters such as negligence in relationships, abusive behavior, emotional neglect, goofing up important work, not being ambitious enough, justifying their victim status, etc
- The same cannot be said by men. From my parents to professors to pretty much any adult treat me differently and are very forthcoming about their umpteen disappointments regarding my life - from various interpersonal expectations being broken to poor performance. However, the same people provide women in general much more benefit of doubt and less vilification at the cost of them always perceiving the other gender as being weak.
- This whole bullshit of weak and strong genders tend to disproportionately benefit the 'weaker genders' because less expectations being placed on them. For example, after my sister moved on from her horrible relationship, she was glorified and I constantly hear my mum praising her post-relationship life, however when I came out of a relationship in my sister's age, there were nothing but a stack of ledgers of expectations and long lectures on how I abandoned my life, my responsibilities and chased after a useless relationship. I have seen men experiencing the exact same crap after committing relationshipcrimes where they are not let off the hook as easily as a woman or any other gender.
- Being looked upon as a 'masculine'-soldier parading emotionlessly with my interpersonal relationships with non-male peers and adults always being hostage to non-males' impeccable recall of my past relationshipcrimes. It feels like I am always walking on eggshells when it is anything that has not to do with recreation, general life or just the present. I have been completely unable to get any of my non-male loved ones to understand that my arse being on the line was indeed a terrifying experience and not just an expectation that males are meant to carry out in a robotic compliant manner. I find myself and oftentimes many other males around me either trying to endlessly explain themselves in the hopes of vindicating themselves or straight up ignore or you know, act all manly and violent.
It is nothing but the saddest irony that I made this post given how much of an SJW I have been but I suppose it was all in vain. Feminism might just be another -ism and the gender empowerment movement might nothing be but a manifestation of scientific breakthroughs because sure as hell men would not want to give away their apparent domineering position in lieu of peace and other genders their victim status and the lack of societal expectations that haunt men.
I understand the overall oppression that other genders face in their lives, their entire fucking lives. However, I think it's silly when all the aforementioned people lie on the same plane with the same tools for progressing in life in the same society (theoretically ceteris paribus for any gender to lead a nice life) and still take advantage of the haggardly ways of the past literally discounting all the progress in the world that makes them equal at the starting line in the race of life. I not only blame men but also every other single gender for continuing this poppycock of shoehorning inequality in societies (like a metropolitan city with a burgeoning middle-class) that otherwise has enough opportunities for people of all walks of life to compete fairly.