Destination: Earth

[PassingWords]

Anyone else experiencing any negative effects from social isolation? I think it's part of my cognitive decline. For over ten years now my memory has gotten worse, and I'm only around 30.

For sake of health, I think I might attempt contacting the humans. There's this socialization thing coming up, that'll likely have like-minded, but extraverted, people. I've written down a few things to say, and possible responses. I'm also going to have a few shots of vodka before I go. And I rarely take edibles, but they do flip a switch for me, where I become more extraverted and interested in the things around me, and interested in conversation. But vodka is easier to hide its influence, whereas edibles are more obvious, where I often laugh over nothing or have a little trouble standing upright.

Anyone got an idea on how to communicate with the humans in a healthy way? I don't want to talk and share interests, but it is a nice idea to have 2 or 3 friends to mutter a few words to every so often, maybe lightly get involved in some projects.

 

[ZenRaiden]

I don't know what is healthy other than being yourself and communicating in a more genuine way.
Which is nebulous concept I myself struggle with, but ....
Here is the thing, accept your natural reactions that come up, you don't have to own them completely, but just let things happen, and possibly maybe accept the fact you are going to be a little out of practice.

Also interactions get better over sometime when you relax. When you are interacting at the start all interactions are a bit stiff and ampt up, over time about half hour to hour your mind gets to relax. So do not try to be perfect at the start, just give yourself time to be a bit nervous at the start, as you get into it, you will drop down some of that and start acting more inline with yourself.

Don't try to be a certain way or necessarily fit it. Just be there and listen and respond to what people say. Don't fill your head with nonsense, just be kind of easy going - almost like blanks slate.

Go out to get to know people. Instead of just focus on yourself, focus on getting to know people.

 

[ZenRaiden]

Also narrow it down, to what you want to know about people.
Likes, dislikes, hobbies, names, occupations, or interests, just go with what people talk about and accept what they say at face value, and make it a point to listen, not fill in the blanks.
Don't worry about liking disliking or whatever.

 

[Cognisant]

Don't rely on drugs or alcohol to socialize, be genuine.

 

[SteppeWanderer]

Sure I'll drink vodka under my breath before try and shakily socialize

 

[sushi]

talk about sports and movies.

there are general topics and there are topics for deep discussion.

 

[SteppeWanderer]

Talk about expensive things you have bought recently, talk about your job and also places you’ve traveled, thanks to globalism travelling is a big deal now you can be sure people will talk about travelling. And also I guess sports, yeah. Make sure to drop travelling experiences and where you studied in school or you might not be accepted into the ranks of the upper echelon.
I think the latest it thing like whatever is popular at the moment like movies? If this
Was a few years ago it would be game of thrones but that’s not relevant anymore. Do you go to the gym? Try to think about status conscious elements that will elevate you above those who you are around.

 

[fractalwalrus]

Yeah, I had a period of prolonged isolation once. At first I thought it was problematic because "muh science," then I reached out to randos I had screened based off of common interests in response. What I would recommend is that you find an Omegle-like site such as EmeraldChat and pose random questions in the beginning instead of a simple hello. Most people will skip you, but sometimes you'll get good convo if the person is receptive. I had a convo about Medieval History with someone there once. After a while, I determined I was fine and stopped really searching, though I'll probably drift back into human contact desire mode again. Maybe that's why I'm here.