Dating an INTP - Sharing feelings

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Well, I don't generally miss people either. My SO saying he'll miss me will probably generate a similar response as your girl. Actually, I'd probably say "I'm just going to blah, blah, blah, I'll be back". I am intrigued that an INTP feels how you feel honestly, I didn't know we were capable of it.

My significant other is not INTP and we battle with this emotional stuff quite a bit. I don't know how he tolerates me really. I am not a hold hands and say I love you or I miss you kind of a gal. I am not a verbally emotional person if that is such a thing. When I get that feeling, like miss someone feeling, I usually don't tell them that. I think my actions will show that I miss them. I hug them, I want to touch them, I want to be in their presence more than usual and talk to them and catch up on what I "missed", but I don't say I miss you.

My suggestion? Stop expecting a certain response. That way of responding is probably not comfortable or natural for her. Watch her. She is probably saying she misses you in other ways. Likely, she probably doesn't miss you everytime she leaves your presence, but when she does, she probably isn't SAYING it. She's probably showing it. I have great difficulty verbalizing emotion, I can mostly only show it.

 

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I posted the last comment without reading anyone else's first, but boy, you guys have had some discussion on this. Uhm, I just want add that I don't think saying I miss you makes you look needy. I agree that you took the wrong approach by saying it and feeling unsure or not clear on her feelings because she didn't say it back.

If you want to know how she feels, ask her how she feels. Don't try to guess at it by playing little games. You may not see it as a game, but it feels like one to me. Just ask her. The relationship is still really new so hopefully she has nothing to lose and will be honest about how she feels about you.