Creepy clingy people

[Dimensional Transition]

Do you find you often somehow attract these people?
I've noticed that for some reason(or maybe this is just my perspective because I don't appreciate having a lot of close friends, that actually seems the most likely) I attract a lot of annoying creepy people. Like I sat next to one guy a few times in class, and now he's actually trying to talk to me with normal boring chat in the breaks and such, it's annoying. I don't see myself as a friend of his. He apparently listens to stuff I tell my close friends, and it creeps me out when I find out he knows more about me than I told him. I don't trust people like this at all. And this is not the first time I find myself very annoyed with this sort of thing. They seem very desperate and annoying to me, and I don't have anything to talk about with them. Is this a general INTP thing? And what do you do against annoying colleagues/classmates?

 

[EyeSeeCold]

I think this has been discussed already. INTPs, or at least myself, tend to attract social rejects(being sort of an empowered one myself). Idk I think these people don't feel intimated being around someone who operates on low energy.

 

[Jesse]

It happened to me. Of course I could have ended it by saying I don't like you, but I'm too nice for that so she just annoyed me for ages.

 

[₲uardian]

I think INTPs are the ones who are less likely to spot them or reject them.

 

[Ombat]

Cats always gravitate to the one person in the room who is allergic or hates cats.
The more you show him you're disinterested, the greater the attraction.

Try waving a feather in front of him while cooing "Here kitty kitty" and I bet he leaves you alone.


Advice from experience:
I've found that people like this only react to brutal honesty.
Being subtle allows them to skew your words/actions to fit what they wish to see (which is that you actually like them)

Just an observation.

 

[Dimensional Transition]

I think this has been discussed already. INTPs, or at least myself, tend to attract social rejects(being sort of an empowered one myself). Idk I think these people don't feel intimated being around someone who operates on low energy.

Yeah, that seems the most likely.
But yeah... I've just started acting kind of cold. It at least seems to cut off any further attempts for conversation.

I'm not sure if the cat thing is true, it sounds likely though, as the person might want to attract even more attention... Hmm.

 

[Jennywocky]

I think INTPs are the ones who are less likely to spot them or reject them.

I think we're so open to lots of different things (even the macabre) and socially/relationally naive at least at first enough that we aren't wary or get warning vibes, figuring we can extract ourselves if something sours.

After the first bad experience or two, it's funny how quick one can retrain oneself to screen out such people.

Yeah, that seems the most likely.
But yeah... I've just started acting kind of cold. It at least seems to cut off any further attempts for conversation.

That's one way to do it. Just shut it all down; don't respond; keep it distant. If you don't feed the need, they won't show up to eat.

 

[shoeless]

only once can i remember being, essentially, "stalked" by somebody creepy and obsessive. i made the mistake of being too nice to him, i guess. i never voluntarily talked to him or particularly wanted to be around him, but he would still (literally) follow me around the school, and apparently as a response to an essay prompt he thought it fitting to write the entire essay about me and then tell me about it. it was kind of awkward.

at the same time, i just don't have the heart to outright reject those kinds of people. even if they're annoying, they're still just people who haven't learned how to socialize properly or pick up on social cues. my reaction is always to try to condition them to be less awkward. but that's just me.

i'm sure if you do just say "hey i don't like you" he'll get over it. it's pretty much your call.

 

[Dimensional Transition]

Yeah, I don't want to be like 'Hey I don't like you' because that's too mean, just acting distant seems to be helping enough now.