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Birthdays
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My most memorable birthday was my fifteenth. I had a panic attack.
It was my birthday a few weeks ago, and I had been dreading it for a while. I felt (and feel every year) pressurised into doing something "out there" because "that's what everyone does for their birthday". I became very sensitive about it about a week beforehand, and ended up having a huge fight with my mother because she kept suggesting things I could do. I basically had an emotional breakdown. The prospect of hosting a party - revolving around me - is almost too terrifying for me to post on a forum, let alone talk about.
In the end I took the day off school and stayed at home. I just relaxed. (Guess what Es! I enjoyed it.) On the weekend I went to the cinema with two friends.
It was my birthday a few weeks ago, and I had been dreading it for a while. I felt (and feel every year) pressurised into doing something "out there" because "that's what everyone does for their birthday". I became very sensitive about it about a week beforehand, and ended up having a huge fight with my mother because she kept suggesting things I could do. I basically had an emotional breakdown. The prospect of hosting a party - revolving around me - is almost too terrifying for me to post on a forum, let alone talk about.
In the end I took the day off school and stayed at home. I just relaxed. (Guess what Es! I enjoyed it.) On the weekend I went to the cinema with two friends.
nemo
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That sounds like a nice birthday, ckm. When I was younger, I'd have birthday parties. Friends would come over or my mum would take us out for lunch or something. Nowadays, I can't be stuffed, I live miles away from my school so no school friends live nearby, AND my birthday is always in the summer holidays, which is when everyone goes away. However, I'm thinking of organising a picnic on my upcoming birthday. A teddy bear picnic!! *cackle*
What did/do you do for your birthdays, Crimson Knight?
What did/do you do for your birthdays, Crimson Knight?
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My family makes me an elaborate breakfast complete with whipped cream and french toast. But other than that, I contemplate how I've matured over the years and maybe invite some friends over and I make myself a cake. Nothing special.
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My birthday is right after the school year starts(here) in mid september, so it's easy not to invite anybody over except close friends, we have a small house so my mom doesn't like more than 1-2 people coming over anyways. My most memorable birthday was my 15th, I went over to my friends house and watched them smoke weed for about 10 hours and then I went home, I think it was most memorable just because there was absolutely no point in going if I wasn't going to smoke but I went anyways
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birthdays? Haha I haven't had a birthday party probably since about middle school (7ish years ago). I don't think any of my friends even know when it is, since I don't have a facebook or anything that informs them and I never bring it up. It's a lot less mental and emotional stress that way, and I really like to run on low-stress.
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I can relate to alot of what you are saying. It's weird, but I think birthdays are sometimes more about allowing other people to celebrate you than you celebrating (I might be wrong though). I usually deal with it by having an actual birthday celebration on another day. My birthday falls during exams, so it made a lot of sense to me growing up to do it this way. I'm still in the habit of it, mostly because of the social awkwardness that comes with being celebrated. It feels somewhat out of place: I don't think that a person should be celebrated on one specific day. It leads to a weird birthday syndrome where people act differently around you for something that you can't control. But expectations are there, so that's that.
When I first started this thread, I was interested if other forum members had any experiences with birthdays that also came to a similar conclusion or a situation where the celebration itself was examined.
Celebrate them on a different day other than the actual thing (old habits), and try to enjoy nature during the day (something I don't get to do often). I also take stock of what has changed over the year, and how things are going. I looked up into the sky tonight and noticed how clear the stars shone. I usually don't do that, so I decided that I'm going to try to watch the sky at night at least once a week. I think that it's funny how we are so caught up in our lives that we miss out on the little things.
If I do go out I usually go for some sushi. Being lazy and doing nothing is nice too though
I love breakfast in bed. It never happens anymore, but it's something that I would love to start up again.
Wow, that's pretty interesting. Why did you stay over for 10 hours though; didn't you get bored eventually?
My friends didn't know when it was during the freshman year of college. That birthday wasn't much fun anyway though (too many exams in a new school).
nemo
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That's an interesting take on birthdays. I guess it is just another excuse to have fun and celebrate, but maybe we need it? Birthdays just remind me of the futility of life. I'm sorry for not saying this before, but Happy Birthday Crimson Knight!
<----You enjoying nature and the simple things in life 
<----You enjoying nature and the simple things in life