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I am unworthy of His grace
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Wondering what people think of this personality dynamic.
It seems to not really overlap with aggression, which is not what I would expect. It seems to just be something that causes people to take action or not (especially in discussions). This is considered a dynamic of extroversion in Big 5. So it is associated with positive emotion. So it is not a negative emotion such as anger which would be in Agreeableness and Neuroticism.
I tend to be a pretty assertive person, as is pretty evident to the regulars here. But I don't usually get angry. I just feel compelled to say something. In a room of a bunch of people, I am usually one of the first people to talk if being together is in any way goal-oriented. I will speak up more than others in a goal-oriented group, in other words. It's not that I am trying to control anything, I just feel compelled to say or do something. However, in my day-to-day life, I live a pretty sedentary lifestyle. I am not at all a busybody. I am much more like a homebody.
I have heard that most people are far less assertive than people like us who post on forums and such. The people who speak up are almost always more assertive. Most people on social media don't engage much. I have heard that 90% of people on forums and social media are just lurkers. I have never really been a lurker. I want to participate. I don't like hanging out on the sidelines.
But what causes assertiveness? Does anyone know? Does it have something to do with the brain? Or does it have to do with experiences? Or both? I'm most interested in the nurture that leads to people being more assertive. This doesn't really make sense to me. I was always a very shy kid growing up. But something changed for me, IDK what. I just started feeling more comfortable enough to "take charge" or whatever. So IDK what it was about my experiences that made me more assertive, but I know I wasn't really and then I was.
It seems to not really overlap with aggression, which is not what I would expect. It seems to just be something that causes people to take action or not (especially in discussions). This is considered a dynamic of extroversion in Big 5. So it is associated with positive emotion. So it is not a negative emotion such as anger which would be in Agreeableness and Neuroticism.
I tend to be a pretty assertive person, as is pretty evident to the regulars here. But I don't usually get angry. I just feel compelled to say something. In a room of a bunch of people, I am usually one of the first people to talk if being together is in any way goal-oriented. I will speak up more than others in a goal-oriented group, in other words. It's not that I am trying to control anything, I just feel compelled to say or do something. However, in my day-to-day life, I live a pretty sedentary lifestyle. I am not at all a busybody. I am much more like a homebody.
I have heard that most people are far less assertive than people like us who post on forums and such. The people who speak up are almost always more assertive. Most people on social media don't engage much. I have heard that 90% of people on forums and social media are just lurkers. I have never really been a lurker. I want to participate. I don't like hanging out on the sidelines.
But what causes assertiveness? Does anyone know? Does it have something to do with the brain? Or does it have to do with experiences? Or both? I'm most interested in the nurture that leads to people being more assertive. This doesn't really make sense to me. I was always a very shy kid growing up. But something changed for me, IDK what. I just started feeling more comfortable enough to "take charge" or whatever. So IDK what it was about my experiences that made me more assertive, but I know I wasn't really and then I was.
