You know damn well what your sexual preferences are.
*Wags finger...
Flirt.
THIS! Some sex scenes are just silly and almost unwatchable. I think it probably has something to do with the actors and directing.
yeah, sometimes I just laugh and laugh... and then laugh harder because I realize they were trying to be steamy and failing miserably.
It would be fun to do MST3000 overdub voice tracks on some of these things.
This is one thing I differed from demisexual, but it might have to do with the definition of a crush. When I'm single (which is almost always) I crush often. How I develop a crush is always from personality, though, not looks. Say a coworker suddenly shows me a side to them I never knew and really connect with, I will often crush on them a bit. When in a relationship, I never crush or even have vague interests in others. I never understood the concept of cheating since I find the thought repellent.
Yeah, I tend to screen pretty heavily and am careful, so by the time I make a commitment to someone, I'm in. Sometimes it makes it hard for me to break away if things go bad, but that's just the way it is. I become attached to the person, and the looks kind of fade into something I just accept regardless. I realized at some point that there are multiple people around the world who I could make a relationship work with, so then it becomes about this particular person and my investment in them and the things I know about them that have drawn us closer together, etc.
I always laugh when I meet someone and suddenly realize I'm laughing a lot, and my voice becomes more melodious, and shit like that. I'm not trying, it just happens. It's like I recognize I'm attracted to someone on that early level by watching myself from the outside. But those are initial meeting kinds of things.
I like to see people being themselves, in general -- someone who is comfortable as themselves. I can become delighted to see them say and do things that show me better who they are. (Although maybe that goes out the window if who they are is an asshat, but... hey, this is such a ramble now.)
I think physical still plays a factor for me, but it is muted. I love the female form, voice, energy, etc.
Yup, the physical manifestation does play some kind of part, but it's a part of the person and not necessarily the main draw. I guess the big picture provides a general answer to the question of attraction.
Guys all call me crazy for not being attracted to females generally considered to be aesthetically beautiful. I need to know her and, more than that, I need to love and respect WHO she is to really feel anything.
I don't really get the hookup thing. That was one of the questions I didn't have an ambiguous answer to... an overnight hookup isn't really my thing... pure carnality, and no real sense of who the person is.
Only a percentage of the populace is above the "average" block on the bell curve anyway, physically, and we don't really get a ton of control over how we rate on that scale. Plus, people are attracted to different things.