Anyone move across a country for love?

[Juno]

As the title says. Did you?

 

[Auburn]

you're in love, aren't you.

 

[Wish]

do it!

 

[Ska]

What do you have to lose? Or, I guess, what do you have to keep that's more important than love?

 

[Sparrow]

What do you have to lose?

You'll get to explore a different area of the country. Awesome. Change = good.

I hear the Atlantic provinces are nice...just don't move to Quebec.

 

[IfloatTHRUlife]

If you have the chance to do it, and you know that the relationship is worth it, the decision shouldn't be so hard.

Personally, i would move to be with my girlfriend without a second thought if i had the money to do so, but i dont.. so... wait.. LOL there is no cry face. Oh well, i will substitute sadness with anger

 

[Decaf]

I didn't move across country, but I left my job in Oregon to move down to San Francisco with my girlfriend. I'm still feeling the consequences to my career as I went from being a salaried engineer to my current swing shift technical support position. Do I regret the decision? Sometimes. I had understood even when I did it that the relationship wasn't going to last more than another year or two (ended up being 6 months, but that was accelerated by my inability to find work in SF).

But like I said, I only regret it sometimes. It was a leap of faith for me, and I don't take many of those. What better motivation can there be?

Recognize that you could put yourself in a position through this move that could take years to dig yourself out of. If things turn sour or if circumstances don't align the way you expect them to, things could get bad. Even a good relationship could turn bad under the pressure that this can inflict. If you remain more hopeful than scared in considering these things then I recommend it.

I became a stronger person through the experience even if my career is in the toilet and I'm single again. Good luck with whatever decision you make.

 

[Fukyo]

How about across the planet? >.>

 

[Causeless]

How about across the planet? >.>

Okay, so tell us the story already. You wouldn't have used the shifty eyes if you didn't have a situation! SPILL IT!

 

[Fukyo]

Okay, so tell us the story already. You wouldn't have used the shifty eyes if you didn't have a situation! SPILL IT!

We have different sets of breathing organs, it's just not meant to be. Besides, the ocean is cold, and I can't swim.

 

[drachenchen]

I did, 18 years ago. From California, and a pretty good job that I hated, to my hometown in Michigan, for a woman I'm still with. The economy here has gone from bad to total suckage, finding regular work has been a problem more often than not, we live in a trailer with 5 cats, and it has been mostly wonderful. Yeah, occasional problems, but I'm still in love.

Think it through rationally as well as emotionally. Then trust yourself. If you're wrong, you will learn and grow, and if you're right, you will live well.

Oh, and do spill it. We, as total strangers, may see some deadly warning signs that you are missing, what with being in love and all.

 

[Kuu]

We have different sets of breathing organs, it's just not meant to be. Besides, the ocean is cold, and I can't swim.

But, but... LOVE CONQUERS ALL

 

[AlisaD]

But, but... LOVE CONQUERS AL

 

[Anthile]

What is this thing you call love? Is it yet another form of this mutually exploitative joint venture in a socio-cultural context?


Anyway, I almost moved to Switzerland because of sentimental motives and a fiery redhead. Looking back, I'm not so sure how serious I was about that. I got better since then, though.

 

[Cognisant]

We have different sets of breathing organs, it's just not meant to be. Besides, the ocean is cold, and I can't swim.

But, but... LOVE CONQUERS ALL

Mad Science conquers all.

Spoiler

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Love just means I also get paid for it.

Spoiler

 

[Minuend]

I'M COMING FOR YOU ANTHILE! <3


Wait. You what with a redhead? D:

I'M COMING FOR YOU ALISA! <3

Norway is such a drag, I'd rather live among terrorists with you in Serbia! Who cares if there's an 85 ½ year age difference?!

 

[Fukyo]

But, but... LOVE CONQUERS ALL

What is this I don't even...

*hisses and throws holy water in Kuu's face*

 

[Cavallier]

I moved across the country twice but not for love. I had the option to move across the country for love once but decided that having to live in Texas was something my love could not conquer. (In all seriousness I didn't really love the guy and I would willingly move just about anywhere just for the novelty.)

Edit: Minuend! Are you cheating on me?!?!?!? I hate you.

 

[Minuend]

What can I say? Alisa is just so attractive, the way she casually swings her cane, the way her teeth falls out when she gets excited about something. You can just see into the very depths of her soul, even though her eyes have completely drowned in all those sexy wrinkles.

She lured me into it! I'm innocent! I was under the influence!

 

[Words]

Across countries..hm...if we think about the weblike structure of what is "purpose", it is possible to interject a sub-purpose within a main purpose. So, by this reasoning, I could do x because of y

...but not mainly because of y.

 

[Fukyo]

Norway is such a drag, I'd rather live among terrorists with you in Serbia!

Wonderful! We can switch out residences!

I was prepared to trade several organs and my mortal soul to get the fuck out of this hellhole.

Free education here I come! <3

 

[Minuend]

Reversed psychology won't work on me, missy!

I already packed three briefcases and a bag that vibrates suspiciously!

I'm getting on that plane to Serbia! And I'm packing life jackets to survive the freezing water when the Al-Qaeda blows up my plane!

 

[typus]

I'd do anything if the affection was strong enough but I will not do that.

 

[Cavallier]

I did quit my (relatively speaking) nice job, get a much crappier job, and move about 70 miles away for love though. Not quite across the country but a little life changing nonetheless.

 

[Melllvar]

No, but I don't think it'd bother me at all. I'd move 2000+ miles for worse reasons than that.

Helps when you don't have any kind of serious career or commitments. You can just kind of say fuck it and do as you please.

 

[shoeless]

well i've considered it before, when it was actually... feasible (at least in theory), but i never did because, well, i was still underage.

currently if i had to move across the country to be with my feller, i'd do it in a heartbeat. i wouldn't think twice. but luckily i don't have to make that decision.

in short: DO IT ALREADY. and let us know how it goes. (:

 

[Minuend]

I wouldn't mind moving to the other side of the world if needed be. I think.

Not because I think love lasts more than, say 10- 15 years (perhaps love doesn't last that long, but I figure that's about where you get fed up with your spouse). But because I don't really have that great attachment to this place. Seeing new places, experience how other places are organized and function- I find that stuff interesting. After being married for 10-15 years, I should have been able to establish a solid social network and be able to manage on my own.

Moving across country, that would be even less of a problem. Unless we're talking about Finnmark. It's even colder up there than here. But then it's not really about distance.

 

[AlisaD]

Oh Min, those are the words I've been waiting to hear all my long, long, long miserable life.


Please hurry before the devil finally comes for me.

I'll be knitting you some woollen socks to keep your little Norwegian feet warm while I wait. That's Serbian love for ya

 

[Anthile]

Edit: Minuend! Are you cheating on me?!?!?!? I hate you.

You can always move across a country FOR HATE.

 

[Causeless]

You can always move across a country FOR HATE.

DAMNIT! Beat me to it.

Now I'm going to have to move to your town to bring my hatred to YOU!

I imagine it would go something like this.

 

[Words]

You can always move across a country FOR HATE.

"RACHE"

 

[Cavallier]

It's decided then. I'll be waiting in the bushes garbage heap outside Alisa's hovel. Now I just need to find enough duct tape.

I know a guy who moved across the country in order to be closer to his best friend who was male. They were both definitely straight. That's the definition of bromance. Not to long ago moving in order to stay with a friend wasn't actually all that strange. Guys still join the military together after all.

 

[cheese]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9X_ViIPA-Gc
It even opens with modes of transportation!

(credit to typus)

 

[Cognisant]

Anyone move across a country for love?

Move... to start at one location and end at another.

But what if you don't start at any one place, what if you make no distinction between one country and another, what if the world is your home, then it isn't really moving is it?

 

[Deleted member 1424]

Well I haven't, but I'm the type of person who would eagerly hitchhike across the galaxy if given the chance and never spare a second thought for Earth or humanity (though I might try to coerce one or two people into coming with me). Moving across a country doesn't seem like a big deal to me, you're still essentially in the same culture, law system, social structure, etc. Though I often find I crave drastic changes anyway, so I would conceivably move for many reasons less than love.

Ultimately, it's all very situational. There are some instances where I imagine I'd go in a heart beat, some where I'd be reticent and look for a third option, and in some I'd outright refuse. There are just too many variables to be certain.

Think about what's you holding back, is it worth love?

Although I think it wise to have a decent back up plan, in case everything isn't quite wine and roses.

 

[Auburn]

Anyone move across a country for love?

Spoiler

yesh... -o.o-

How about across the planet? >.>

this.

i got on a plane and went a third of the way across the world to be with my love.
it's harder to change citizenship than it is to move states, so i only visited for a few weeks. but i'd definitely do it again. <3

 

[giaduck]

Actually, I have. I moved to a whole new continent!!
I was born and grew up in california, fell in love with an Aussie and now I live in Australia and we have a beautiful little girl. It was very sudden, and very fast, but we are totally happy!!

 

[cheese]

^How'd you meet this person?

 

[giaduck]

^How'd you meet this person?

Interestingly enough, we met playing World of Warcraft some four years ago. Though, I am happy to admit that we met because we were both quitting :P

 

[Lex]

I think I'd need to fall in love first, and see what the whole thing is all about.

Only THEN would I consider moving across the country- after all, maybe being in love totally sucks.

Personally, I think I'm way too picky for that to be happening any time soon.

 

[s0nystyle]

But, but... LOVE CONQUERS ALL

oh dear god not the dolphins again :X

 

[EditorOne]

Didn't move, while in college I did hitchhike from Syracuse to Philly and walk the final 15 miles after getting a girlfriend's breakup letter. Didn't say a word, just showed up. Pretty much stopped the breakup. On the other hand, I wasn't out anything except some exercise and some time. A move across the country should entail a lot more THOUGHT because we all know what emotions can do to an INTP's judgment. We are liable to appreciate the romantic self-sacrifice of such a continent-spanning move; others are liable to ascribe it to idiocy.

We are different, you know.

 

[lightspeed]

I did. I moved from Alabama to Kansas for the mother of my children. Then we moved back to Alabama, and then decided it would be best to raise our family in Oklahoma City, because it's the most family friendly place we've found.

We are all still here in Oklahoma.

 

[vash22]

I was a young, ambitious kid who couldn't tell the difference between being a horny teen and being a hopeless romantic. At age 18 I moved half-way across the country for my love interest, a 16 year old girl who I had hung out with/dated for 2 months during summer. Though the move was from San Diego, CA (Heaven) to Albuquerque, NM (Hell), so even if it isn't that far a distance, the radical change in environment compensates.
I had nothing waiting for me in Albuquerque except for her. But I figured during the California Gold Rush, people left behind everything and walked across the United States to California with nothing waiting for them but uncertainty, opportunity, and possible death. So, compared to them, I had no reason to be worried about migrating to Albuquerque.
Luckily, we both turned out to be a couple of horny teens AND hopeless romantics. We are still together and in love with eachother. Best decision I ever made, even if it was a big risk. Even if it didnt work out though, I would have been happy I had broken out of the normal life I would have been doomed to in San Diego.

TL;DR version - life is too short, people in history have done more dramatic things for far worse reasons than love, big risk=huge reward=love & lots of nooky, love and nooky are the point of life so chase it and damn everything else.

 

[Fukyo]

But, but... LOVE CONQUERS ALL

oh dear god not the dolphins again :X

Maybe Sony is more of a squid fellow.

YouTube - Oktapodi

 

[Dansk]

Yes.

I moved from Ottawa to Calgary, and then back again four months later after we broke up.

It was poorly planned and hardly even qualifies as 'thought out', I just did it. I was supposed to go to Japan for a year to teach English, but realized that our relationship wouldn't survive the year apart--should have been my first warning sign--so I moved out west with her so she could go to school and I could do... something. I ended up in a menial customer service job with no plan for the future, broke, and by the time I got home again, very indebted to my parents.

Now, two years later, I'm teaching English in Korea. Strange the way life works out sometimes.

I have nothing against moving across the country or even the whole damn world for love, I would do it again myself in a heartbeat, but the second time I would put a little more thought into it. Make sure you're not just moving to save the relationship; go with some kind of plan for YOURSELF so you don't show up in your new home with nothing waiting for you. At the very least know what kind of job you want. More than anything else it was the stress of having no money and working a disappointing job, with no plan for the future, that killed my relationship. It wouldn't have survived in any case, but the bad living situation pushed it off the edge of the cliff it was teetering on.