Acting Like Your Opposite

[TimeAsylums]

in these regards, I simply mean reversed function usage, not I/E

e.g. ENTP -> ISFJ, INTP -> ESFJ
NeTiFeSi ->SiFeTiNe, TiNeSiFe -> FeSiNeTi



For some reason Because I was bored, I attempted to act like an ISFJ for three weeks. (I am dating an ISTP lol).

These are the results:

I cried three times in front of my girlfriend (obviously I wasn't anywhere near as authentic as a real ISFJ, just shittily using the functions), and ended this week with saying "fuck that shit, I aint nobody's bitch!"

Being alone wasn't the hard part, as we know how not-extroverted teh Ne's can or can not be. But even I can only handle so much tert Fe, mah god.

...and she really likes me as an ISFJ. ...LEL


...also, I can definitely see how an ISFJ may be horribly overused and taken advantage of

 

[Cherry Cola]

Try acting like an INFJ instead man

ugh that sounded narcissistic, nah but INFJs are not as easily taken advantage of, especially not in the long run

 

[TimeAsylums]

Try acting like an INFJ instead man

ugh that sounded narcissistic, nah but INFJs are not as easily taken advantage of, especially not in the long run

lol, well I would imitate other types, except you know - it would be full imitation by observation because I can't just queue Ni/Se on demand.

 

[DelusiveNinja]

How exactly did you act like your opposite? Did you just cry three times in three weeks?

 

[TimeAsylums]

How exactly did you act like your opposite? Did you just cry three times in three weeks?

Dive into the inferior (Si), disregard my Ti and just feel.

Like I said, it was ACTING and an ATTEMPT, I by no means became one or was even close, aka the "shittily using functions."

 

[Pyropyro]

When things go to hell I can "naturally" shift to ESFJ.

I think switching to other personalities is like controlling your heart rate. You can't directly control your heart but you can induce it slow down or go fast by relaxing or exercising.

In a way you're still using your Ne and Ti to mimic/induce the more subconscious functions so that's why it fails big time. This would probably explain your biased conclusion against ISFJ's as well. If you felt vulnerable while using an ISFJ mask then it's quite easy to conclude that all ISFJ's would react the same way (even though your theoretical research proves otherwise).

Since the weaker functions are more at the subconscious level, I think we can do a better ISFJ/ESFJ imitation by not thinking about it. A safe environment will trigger traditional values (you won't like good factors to change) and be interested with social norms (you'll want to enforce the people who keep said factors as is), two of the hallmarks of SFJ's.

 

[Brontosaurie]

i don't think i ever do that

i can relate to having some kinda inferior function but it gets vague

 

[sushi]

I thought you mean our J counterpart INTJ.

 

[DIALECTIC]

Take MDMA and you will change into an ESFJ; take cocaine and you will change into an ENTJ...
But do watch out, a few days later, when you do change back into an INTP and you realize the things you said / promised / did !

 

[Grayman]

Try acting like an INFJ instead man

ugh that sounded narcissistic, nah but INFJs are not as easily taken advantage of, especially not in the long run

I thought Fe was key to being manipulated and manipulating through emotion.

 

[Grayman]

Sounds like someone who tries to pretend they're good at singing. They can train their voice and make decent show in some small settings but they would likely emberass themselves if the showed up on American Idol.

It is good to excersise your lower functions but I would refrain from putting yourself up on stage as a real INTJ or whatever.

 

[bbrave]

Don't you think you are lying to her? You aren't being yourself she should like you because you are you, you are unique. And not because you are faking her ideal. But it's your choice, good lucky with whatever you choose. Btw I'm a INFJ.