about actually starting feeling lonely being alone

[youkneeburst]

ive lived independently for some time now. i had no particular deep connections with anyone, probably just a couple of friends, whatever. but after graduating in high school, parting ways into different colleges, this loneliness somehow started gripping into me with cold hands. of course this phase is the time when people actually realize how unavoidably social we are. this society functions as a result of everyone's collaboration, or maybe im just a repressed extrovert, i dont know.* im pretty aware of my depression which exacerbates my asociality but somehow it puts a weight on me when i miss notes in college and i have completely no one to borrow from or when i take an absent in class i have no one to ask what happened. its too awkward and not nice to ask from anybody when you hardly even acknowledge their presence when theyre around. its probably just my depression but thanks I had somewhere to vent my thoughts.

 

[onesteptwostep]

Filipinos tend to have a warm culture, meaning they're more people oriented than 'to the individual'. They tend to be more collectivist rather than individualistic.

But realistically speaking freshmen year just sucks. If you get through that first year of hell things should get better later on. Things take time.

If you want advice, I'd tell my younger self to focus on eating and sleep habits.

 

[_whispers_]

You shouldn't stress about it so much. You should just bite the bullet and talk to them. You take the same classes and you have a common topic. Start small - ask them to clarify something about the lecture, ask them if they understood what the teacher was talking about. If you are nervous about approaching groups then try someone who is also sitting alone. Who knows? Maybe they are lonely as well.

People tend to be too preoccupied with their own lives to judge you. If they don't actually have anything better to do then you probably don't want to socialize with them in the first place.

Aren't there groups and events you can go to? Those are good places where people would be more open to meeting new people.

 

[Pyropyro]

_whispers_ gave lots of good tips for you.


Anyways, since I guess we're both Filipinos I'll give you a great tip for socializing with others: Bring salty or sweet food to meetings/hangouts every now and then.

The people from my social circle have a variety of likes and dislikes but everyone bonds over food.