A phenomenon regarding interracial couples

[Ex-User (14663)]

I have been seeing this for a while now. At first I thought it must be some confirmation bias or just randomness, but at this point I have been seeing it which such consistency that it seems to be a real pattern. The phenomenon is this: at a certain rate, I observe an interracial couple out there in the public. Nothing wrong with that, and so far so good. But here is the thing: if it is an interracial couple, then almost invariably it is a white woman and a black/brown guy, and never the other way around!

I find it an interesting phenomenon. Is there some explanation for this?

 

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[QuickTwist]

Ordell: “I told you, man. She my fine little surfer gal. You know she ain’t is pretty as she used to be, and she bitch a whole a lot more than she used to, but she white.”

Or something. Damn links not working. Annoying af.

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

"but she white" lmao.

I see from okcupid data that white men do have much more negative preference towards black women than white women have towards black men. Both genders have a preference for their own race, though

 

[Jennywocky]

I've noticed that too, anecdotally. I don't have any specific answers, although there are conjectures based on white American physical preferences, social power, comfort levels and all that.

As a corollary, I'm tall (around 5' 11") and I am invariably hit on by black guys, not white guys. Black guys do not seem cowed by me, but white guys do. Black guys (I guess I should be specific and say African-American, since it could just be that particular group; black men from other countries are socialized differently / have different backgrounds) don't seem to lack confidence and seem okay / attracted to larger women.

 

[QuickTwist]

"but she white" lmao.

I see from okcupid data that white men do have much more negative preference towards black women than white women have towards black men. Both genders have a preference for their own race, though

You should look to see what race black males prefer, just for shits and giggles.

 

[Haim]

Maybe some kind of fad?

 

[Hadoblado]

I was talking to someone the other day about this. They specifically found black women unattractive categorically.

I admit, I probably find them less physically attractive on average?

I once met a man from Africa who would only sleep with white women, because he didn't have enough rope to get past the typical black booty. He was a real odd unit.

 

[The Gopher]

I have been seeing this for a while now. At first I thought it must be some confirmation bias or just randomness, but at this point I have been seeing it which such consistency that it seems to be a real pattern. The phenomenon is this: at a certain rate, I observe an interracial couple out there in the public. Nothing wrong with that, and so far so good. But here is the thing: if it is an interracial couple, then almost invariably it is a white woman and a black/brown guy, and never the other way around!

I find it an interesting phenomenon. Is there some explanation for this?

Well sure if we are simply going black and white. However with other races at least in Australia it's much more white male/insertracehere that said could be availability bias.

Yeah I also saw the OKCupid story where black women were liked the least. Not sure why though.

 

[QuickTwist]

Well sure if we are simply going black and white. However with other races at least in Australia it's much more white male/insertracehere that said could be availability bias.

Yeah I also saw the OKCupid story where black women were liked the least. Not sure why though.

Prolly due mostly to stereotype.

 

[Pyropyro]

In the Phil. It is always the other way around. White guy and Filipina woman.

 

[TAC]

My kinda sorta girlfriend is black, and I'm quite white.
I've heard from a black friend of mine that black families tend to discourage black women from dating/being in real relationships with white guys, it seems perceived as a threat to their culture. kinda goes along the lines of "White people taking our women"/"Grandaughter, he's nice (White bf), but so and so (i.e. black guy at church) is really shaping up to be a promising member of the community"... dump your white boy and go after him sorta thing.
I say kinda sorta girlfriend because we're not officially together, and its seeming more and more likely that we won't be. Perhaps there is some truth to these rumors and that's what is happening to me in the present. It's a shame because there is a lot of chemistry between us, but I just thought I would share to perhaps shed some light on why it appears to be a one way street. I can't say I know much about black culture, but it appears they value men higher than women and that's why they date as they please because if they date a white woman, it furthers their conquest as black women already belong to them. Whereas for black women, their goal should be to win over a black man against the competition from the other side.

 

[QuickTwist]

I got a buddy (who is white) who married a black chick.

I don't really think black women are even unattractive (as long as they are not super overweight), and they hold their age better than whites I think.

 

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It could be an interaction of gender passivity in courting and population proportions. Men are stereotypically more active in courting and in many Western countries black men are exposed to more white women than black women. A black or white man with no preference would therefore more likely court a white woman due to numbers. A black woman is potentially less likely to initiate pursuit of a man because she is a woman and is assuming a passive role. Pure chance does not favour them, so they are dependent on other social pressures such as family or cultural pressures. What you might actually be seeing is more single black women and more black men in relationships. This is all based on the assumption that women are more passive/reactive in courting than men.

 

[QuickTwist]

It could be an interaction of gender passivity in courting and population proportions. Men are stereotypically more active in courting and in many Western countries black men are exposed to more white women than black women. A black or white man with no preference would therefore more likely court a white woman due to numbers. A black woman is potentially less likely to initiate pursuit of a man because she is a woman and is assuming a passive role. Pure chance does not favour them, so they are dependent on other social pressures such as family or cultural pressures. What you might actually be seeing is more single black women and more black men in relationships. This is all based on the assumption that women are more passive/reactive in courting than men.

In the current society, It is the women that choose the men, not the other way around.

 

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In the current society, It is the women that choose the men, not the other way around.

What I said is not much about choice, but about active vs reactive. The active role means that there is a high chance of rejection as opposed to reactive where there is minimal chance of rejection. With this model women still choose which suitor they want and which to reject.

 

[Ex-User (14663)]

It could be an interaction of gender passivity in courting and population proportions. Men are stereotypically more active in courting and in many Western countries black men are exposed to more white women than black women. A black or white man with no preference would therefore more likely court a white woman due to numbers. A black woman is potentially less likely to initiate pursuit of a man because she is a woman and is assuming a passive role. Pure chance does not favour them, so they are dependent on other social pressures such as family or cultural pressures. What you might actually be seeing is more single black women and more black men in relationships. This is all based on the assumption that women are more passive/reactive in courting than men.

It's correct that a black male is more likely to end up with a white woman if he pursues both races equally, but I don't see how this implies you are more likely to see a interracial couple where the male is black than the reverse. I think then you would have to assume a white male is generally less likely to pursue a mate altogether or that a black male is more likely to successfully pursue a white woman than a black, or that white males have preference for white women.

 

[Minute Squirrel]

Having moved around a lot my observation(at least for the US)

White men and black women have a mutual....unnatraction for each other(on average of course). Most black woman I know just aren't really attracted to white or Asian guys.

While it probably is somewhat(mostly?) biological there is a cultural element to it as well. I say this because I grew up a Seventh Day Adventist and the SDA church is a fairly close nit group to the point where some people think its a cult(it's not). So as a result it has a sort of culture of its own and I've noticed that within the SDA bubble there are a lot more Black female white male relationships than in the general population. Like A LOT more. I was kinda shocked when I noticed. i think a lot of it has to do with the sort of shared culture and values SDAs(in the US) have.

I suppose one could say that black culture is more masculine than white culture in America(whether that's a good or bad thing is up to you(and I know that there's not a single shared black culture or white culture but I think you get what I mean)). And I think that sort of turns black females and white guys away from each other. The white guys arent masculine enough while the black girls are too masculine(in each other's eyes).

white males have preference for white women.

I'd say that's a safe assumption.....


Also what blank says does make some sense to me. If men generally pursue and it's true that a black man is more likely to encounter white women than a white man is to encounter black women then it would still make sense that interracial couples with black males would be more common than ones with black females.

 

[blank]

It's correct that a black male is more likely to end up with a white woman if he pursues both races equally, but I don't see how this implies you are more likely to see a interracial couple where the male is black than the reverse. I think then you would have to assume a white male is generally less likely to pursue a mate altogether or that a black male is more likely to successfully pursue a white woman than a black, or that white males have preference for white women.

I think you have a point. If there are equal numbers of each gender and everyone is paired off then you would expect black women to be paired with white men more than with black men. There are most probably other factors involved between white men and black women.

 

[Jennywocky]

In the Phil. It is always the other way around. White guy and Filipina woman.

White guys here in the US seem more attracted to Asian women as "exotic" while African-American women are seemingly not to them... although dark-skinned women with exotic accents might be more palatable. Asian women are typically also much smaller than white guys.

FWIW

 

[baccheion]

I'm a black male. Since starting college (graduated almost 10 years ago), the majority of any attention has come from Caucasian women. Based on raw probability and U.S. demographics (ie, ignoring any racial biases), only ~12.6% of white males would end up with black women, while ~73.6% of black males would end up with white women.