95% Introvert Club

[severus]

Me?

write quickly, post, sign off before you can delete it!

Anyways, I'd rather share my feelings with people who haven't got a clue who I am, who have no chance of meeting me IRL.... Why would I tell someone who I have to face everyday what my feelings are?

 

[Ulysses]

Anyways, I'd rather share my feelings with people who haven't got a clue who I am, who have no chance of meeting me IRL.... Why would I tell someone who I have to face everyday what my feelings are?

I wasn't suggesting that I find it easier to share my feelings with people I know. Both my father and I have a habit of keeping our feelings to ourselves whether there's anonymity or not.

Part of the reason I do this is because I don't want others to give me extra attention or treat me differently. Not to mention that talking about my feelings makes me feel like an utter idiot.

 

[Anthile]

I just did the test again:

That is NOT normal.

 

[Ermine]

Usually more extraverted, or was it something else?

k seriously now...

I don't get how some forum members can post an entire essay on their thoughts and feelings. I've written a couple myself, but I always scrap them when I'm done writing. The idea of sharing my thoughts and feelings with people I don't know personally seems silly to me.

Why do you guys do it?

Because the people I do know personally don't understand, or wouldn't take it seriously. And I believe I do know the people on this forum to a degree. I just haven't seen them. That being said, I keep most of my thoughts and feelings essays to myself in my journal. But if I think it's INTP-applicable, I'd be comfortable posting it here.

 

[Fedayeen]

k seriously now...

I don't get how some forum members can post an entire essay on their thoughts and feelings. I've written a couple myself, but I always scrap them when I'm done writing. The idea of sharing my thoughts and feelings with people I don't know personally seems silly to me.

Why do you guys do it?

Think of it this way, if you tell your thoughts to someone you know well, you have to deal with them on probably a day to day basis. Lets say you say something about your inner thoughts they find appalling. If it is someone you know well you have to put up with them knowing, or maybe you drift apart, if its a total stranger you can just "walk away" when ever. No real harm done, they are just some stranger.

 

[brain enclosed in flesh]

This place doesn't exist, really- that's how I can do it. And none of you know me, really. That's why I don't think I can post a photo, because then you will know what I look like and then I will be real in your mind, while now, I could just vanish and you could just vanish and that would be how it would be. I can talk about stuff that no one else in my life cares about and I don't want to bore them with it and I don't necessarily want their responses and I don't want them to know it about me. And I had a friend who I did this with and I soon fell in love with him because of it, because I could talk with him about things I couldn't talk about with anyone else, and then my falling in love with him completely killed our relationship and messed up my life so there you have it. This place provides an outlet and I don't have to worry about falling in love with anyone or losing anyone else.

EDIT: but I still feel like an idiot for a lot of what I write. Just not to the level that I do when saying things like this to people irl.

 

[severus]

Oh my God have I made a lot of posts today. And I saw my family! And emailed back my friend!

Way, way, way too much interaction. I shall hide in a book until this dissipates.

 

[EloquentBohemian]

^^ ...sounds like the onset of a case of the insidious Creeping Extravertitis.

Talk to your doctor. This can be surgically removed.
In the mean time, read much cynical dystopian literature, lock your doors and windows, pull the curtains shut and listen to Bauhaus continuously in the background.

... don't answer the phone.

... and the only light can be from the RPG you're playing on your laptop.

 

[Ogion]

Sounds like a good plan to me...
Oh wait, i already did that today, and yesterday, ..., and the day before, and actually the whole week.

Ogion

 

[brain enclosed in flesh]

I have a confession to make. I've... I've made... a... friend. She called me unprovoked last night and asked me if I wanted to smoke cigarettes with her. Then she told me she's been watching Freaks and Geeks on youtube like I recommended. She's an INFP, btw. Of course I declined her invitation, but I actually think she's pretty cool. I haven't made a new friend irl I truly thought was cool in several years. Who knows what shall come to pass but... I actually kind of feel like socializing with her.

 

[Razare]

Well she's an INFP... that pretty much says it all. Their introverted tendencies juxtapose with bouts of extroverted friendliness draw us INTP's out of our shell.

 

[Ulysses]

I have a confession to make. I've... I've made... a... friend.

You don't believe me!

Does it breathe?

 

[brain enclosed in flesh]

Yeah, she's fun. She makes me want to be fun. But she also has a brain in her head and we have good talks. I just kind of feel like a dork, because I don't want to mess it up and because I am almost 35 years old and I think I am worse at making friends than I was when I was 16- or it hasn't gotten any easier, anyway.

 

[Beat Mango]

This place doesn't exist, really- that's how I can do it. And none of you know me, really. That's why I don't think I can post a photo, because then you will know what I look like and then I will be real in your mind, while now, I could just vanish and you could just vanish and that would be how it would be. I can talk about stuff that no one else in my life cares about and I don't want to bore them with it and I don't necessarily want their responses and I don't want them to know it about me. And I had a friend who I did this with and I soon fell in love with him because of it, because I could talk with him about things I couldn't talk about with anyone else, and then my falling in love with him completely killed our relationship and messed up my life so there you have it. This place provides an outlet and I don't have to worry about falling in love with anyone or losing anyone else.

EDIT: but I still feel like an idiot for a lot of what I write. Just not to the level that I do when saying things like this to people irl.

What happened there? (I won't tell anyone ) I'm curious because I have just started telling people when I like them and find it really difficult. I always fear the worst, that it will ruin everything, like it seemingly did in your case? :/

 

[sheepie]

right on 95%... definitly not schizoid though
this club kind of reminds me of mensa...

 

[brain enclosed in flesh]

What happened there? (I won't tell anyone ) I'm curious because I have just started telling people when I like them and find it really difficult. I always fear the worst, that it will ruin everything, like it seemingly did in your case? :/

Hmm, yeah. Well, we had history to begin with and I'm married so that probably affected things a bit as well, but...

Opening yourself up like that is always rough. For non-introverted people I suspect it isn't so much- there's people who are always telling other people how they like them and whatever and it doesn't seem to be that big of a deal. And then my guess is he (the one I was referring to) is an INTP as well so of course he wasn't going to come straight back with 'I like you, too'- there was a lot of rambling explanation in the form of mumbling that could have been interpreted one way or the other- loaded with qualifiers- if you catch my drift. But I still think it was mutual... for awhile, anyway.

That's what is frightening about like or love: it seems to be so vulnerable and inconstant. Like one false step and that person who you want to reciprocate the like or love will no longer share the feeling. I always feel like I lay it on too thick or not enough and it is incredibly hard for me to find the balance or use moderation or do it properly. In my case with the aforementioned person, the proper thing to do would have been to take it easy and just be low-maintenance friends and expect very little from him or from our relationship. It's just I feel this ridiculous cosmic connection with this kid that I can't explain or rationalize as much as I try and I love/loved talking to him so it was very hard to restrain those feelings and I just kind of exploded all over the place. I don't know what his power is over me and why it exists, but it is tremendous. He's like the best song in the world blaring at maximum volume.

Anyway... that was a digression, I suppose, but yeah... sharing feelings is scary.

 

[Razare]

Welcome, sheepie!

brain, kinda sounds like how I am. I'm either 110% into a girl or not at all. There's no in between. Trying to start a relationship at 110% doesn't work, though....

 

[Beat Mango]

Were you married when this happened? Because otherwise I don't know how you could put up with a "low-maintenance friendship" - I just told a girl I've liked her for the last two years we've been friends. There's every chance we'll have to stop being friends now (at least in terms of meeting up etc), but I feel good about it.

That's what is frightening about like or love: it seems to be so vulnerable and inconstant. Like one false step and that person who you want to reciprocate the like or love will no longer share the feeling. I always feel like I lay it on too thick or not enough and it is incredibly hard for me to find the balance or use moderation or do it properly. In my case with the aforementioned person, the proper thing to do would have been to take it easy and just be low-maintenance friends and expect very little from him or from our relationship. It's just I feel this ridiculous cosmic connection with this kid that I can't explain or rationalize as much as I try and I love/loved talking to him so it was very hard to restrain those feelings and I just kind of exploded all over the place. I don't know what his power is over me and why it exists, but it is tremendous. He's like the best song in the world blaring at maximum volume.

Anyway... that was a digression, I suppose, but yeah... sharing feelings is scary.

Oh, I like that, I think I'll use it

 

[EloquentBohemian]

I'm either 110% into a girl or not at all.

Ah, the phrases I can take out of context in a purely pornographic and hedonistic sense.

 

[brain enclosed in flesh]

Were you married when this happened? Because otherwise I don't know how you could put up with a "low-maintenance friendship" - I just told a girl I've liked her for the last two years we've been friends. There's every chance we'll have to stop being friends now (at least in terms of meeting up etc), but I feel good about it.

Yep, I was- hence the goodness of low-maintenance. Good for you about feeling good about it! I wish I could feel good about things like that... (wow, I used the word 'good' 4 times. Yeah, vocabulary!)

Oh, I like that, I think I'll use it

Thanks.

 

[Beat Mango]

Yep, I was- hence the goodness of low-maintenance. Good for you about feeling good about it! I wish I could feel good about things like that... (wow, I used the word 'good' 4 times. Yeah, vocabulary!)

Actually I just got a delayed reaction having just seen her on msn - it does kind of hurt.

 

[Razare]

Ah, the phrases I can take out of context in a purely pornographic and hedonistic sense.

...

We could start a game on the forum, where we insert innuendo into all of our discussions, making it look like it was a mistake. It could be the secret signature of belonging to the 95% introvert club. Yes... I like this. I deem it so!

 

[Razare]

I just did the test again:

That is NOT normal.

You do realize Griffith, your avatar, is an INTJ ?

 

[Cassandra]

I scored 96% introvert on the real test. Sometimes much higher, occasionally slightly lower.

 

[Cegorach]

I just did the test again:

That is NOT normal.

Wait, seriously?!
This is mine from when I took it ages ago...

WTF, Anthile‽

 

[Anthile]

Yeah, WTF, Cow?

 

[Wish]

I belong! O joyous day!

 

[nickgray]

Can I join?

 

[Wish]

Can I join?

If you can shave off 5% by the end of the week..

We can't have shy people in the club!

 

[Nicholas A. A. E.]

Nowhere near that introverted. :P I will contribute this, though

Spoiler

YouTube- Styx - Lonely People

 

[Subotai]

100% here

 

[asdfasdfasdfsdf]

as a strong intovert, i would rather not join this group, because what actions would this entail? i mean.. i have no idea what to do once i join, and i will probably do things wrong.. and.. ugh it would be awkward, and people would be looking at me, and judging me, and ugh, id rather just sit in my room, listening to music or reading.