From the female perspective of males, only to a small extent and on the outside. The one type that is the opposite match for INTP is ENFJ, and they help round out the INTP because they are everything you are not. They make life fun with adventurous dates, imaginative preplanned or spontaneous fun. But, who they are is all on the outside! They don't know or even dare go into themselves to know who they are at all! Its all an act! When you find that out, its like they are pure ego entertainer with no clue of the inner self. And, the E part can be too demanding and need to be out entertaining constantly, its exhausting, don't even want to keep up with that. Homebodies are so much easier, and just take a vacation to get out occasionally.
ENTP is a good conversationalist that does love to share ideas and can be a good friend, but is just a little too extroverted and they too need high recognition. I neither want to get or give that kind of neediness every day, ie, be relaxed, one day at a time, with lots of personal hobbies and keeps themselves occupied mostly is better for an INTP.
ENFJ though, you might never forget the dates you had with them. One picked me up in a limosine just to take me to Great America, then recited Bob Dylan songs on top of a roller coaster and that got my heart pumping for sure. Was in a seven year relationship with that one. These ENFJ types, super romantic and could plan things out and had the most amazing timing. I dated when I was young, and got it out of my system.
But, its why I crave INTP and people that know who they are and have thinking brains, this is utterly fantastic for INTP.
If INTP could adopt a little of the romantic and be adventurous and like camping then, it would be perfect. There is something impressive when someone cares so much about timing things, ie, when to say something, when to surprise you, holding back, that make things unfold in magical ways, that are so strategic, and its awesome to think anyone would be so meticulous about waiting until the time is right in each action to impress and it does, but how or why, guess it works.
E tends to be fun but shallow. I tends to be serious but deep. I can't stand overly talkative dates, you've got to leave space between thoughts to be pleasant. Go deep into philosophical bents, don't preach, don't wear cologne or strong antipersperants, even regular odor is better than that, find a good restaurant, a theme park, nature, do something out of the ordinary that is romantic and plan a little. That goes far.
Just start it with, hey, would you like to go with me to such and such. If they say no, try again another day.
Get your mindset in a good enough place that you can face reality directly and can ask directly, and receive a direct yes or a no
- because its just reality and you've got to push yourself in there. Have your expectations high, deserve love, and accept how others feel if they don't match up and let go.
I do recommend trying out the different types, but mostly ENFJ.
I haven't known an INFP yet, I don't have the emotional energy to keep up with most Feelers, they've got to be balanced T/F.
ESFJ is a terrible match.
Place an order for your perfect match to the universe, it takes time, but at least put your order in and ask.
