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The Lethality of Loneliness

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http://www.newrepublic.com/article/113176/science-loneliness-how-isolation-can-kill-you#

Evolutionary theory, which has a story for everything, has a story to illustrate how the human species might benefit from wide variations in temperament. A group that included different personality types would be more likely to survive a radical change in social conditions than a group in which everyone was exactly alike. Imagine that, after years in which a group had lived in peace, an army of strangers suddenly appeared on the horizon. The tribe in which some men stayed behind while the rest headed off on a month-long hunting expedition (the stay-at-homes may have been less adventurous, or they may just have been loners) had a better chance of repelling the invaders, or at least of saving the children, than the tribe whose men had all enthusiastically wandered off, confident that everything would be fine back home.
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And yet loneliness is made as well as given, and at a very early age. Deprive us of the attention of a loving, reliable parent, and, if nothing happens to make up for that lack, we’ll tend toward loneliness for the rest of our lives. Not only that, but our loneliness will probably make us moody, self-doubting, angry, pessimistic, shy, and hypersensitive to criticism.
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Suomi was also excited about results coming in from peer-raised monkeys’ brain tissue: Thousands of little changes in genetic activity had been detected in their prefrontal cortexes. This region is sometimes called the “CEO” of the brain; it restrains violent impulses and inappropriate behavior. (In humans, faulty wiring in the prefrontal cortex has been associated with schizophrenia and ADHD.) Some of the aberrations were on genes that direct growth of the brain; modifications of those were bound to result in altered neural architecture. These findings eerily echoed the Romanian orphans’ brain scans and suggested that the lonely monkeys were going to be weirder than the others.

“The very fact that something outside the organism can affect the genes like that—it’s huge,” Suomi says. “It changes the way one thinks about development.” I didn’t need genetics, though, to see how defective the peer-raised monkeys’ development had been. Suomi took me outside to watch them. They huddled in nervous groups at the back of the cage, holding tight to each another. Sometimes, he said, they invite aggression by cowering; at other times, they fail to recognize and kowtow to the alpha monkeys, so they get picked on even more. The most perturbed monkeys might rock, clutch at themselves, and pull out their own hair, looking for all the world like children with severe autism.

Suomi added that good foster care could greatly improve the troubled macaques’ lives. He pointed out some who had been given over to foster grandmothers. Not only did they act more monkey-like, but, he told me, about half of their genetic deviations had vanished, too.
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Heckman has been analyzing data from two famous early-childhood intervention programs, the Abecedarian Project of the ’70s and the Perry Preschool project of the ’60s. Both have furnished ample evidence that, if you enroll very young children from poor families in programs that give both them and their parents an extra boost, then they grow up to be wealthier and healthier than their counterparts—less fat, less sick, better educated, and, for men, more likely to hold down a job.
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“One message I take away from this is, ‘Hey, it’s not just early life that counts,’ ” he says. “We have to choose our life well.”
 

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And yet loneliness is made as well as given, and at a very early age. Deprive us of the attention of a loving, reliable parent, and, if nothing happens to make up for that lack, we’ll tend toward loneliness for the rest of our lives. Not only that, but our loneliness will probably make us moody, self-doubting, angry, pessimistic, shy, and hypersensitive to criticism.
It's not entirely a poor deal, I was chatting with a coworker of mine recently after having seen the new Star Trek movie, he hadn't seen it, explained that it was because his friends didn't want to see it, so I told him to see it by himself like I did and his reaction was one of essentially fear, he said he'd be too nervous to go watch a movie by himself.

Seeing it by myself didn't bother me in the slightest.

In some ways I seem to be bolder than my more social peers, more independent, more willing to be weird and question authority, experiences I'm sure many of the introverts here could relate to, and I think this is because confidence and sociability don't directly correlate, rather we all have a measure of social and personal confidence, so even if a loner isn't confident around others they can still be confident in themselves.
 

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It's not entirely a poor deal, I was chatting with a coworker of mine recently after having seen the new Star Trek movie, he hadn't seen it, explained that it was because his friends didn't want to see it, so I told him to see it by himself like I did and his reaction was one of essentially fear, he said he'd be too nervous to go watch a movie by himself.

Seeing it by myself didn't bother me in the slightest.

Fascinating (seriously!). Almost frightening. "Normal" people seem to be so... pack-minded. It's like each person is connected to his/her peers, and cannot function without them.

This "I want to do what my friends are doing" mind-set could be dangerous. I went to a course for Certified First Responders (CFR) about active shooters a few weeks ago. It discussed what happens if you are, say, in an office building when an active shooter comes in and starts shooting. Apparently, many accidents can happen because everyone wants to do what his/her friends are doing (regarding running or hiding), and everyone gets shot.

Each person didn't want to be lonely, so everyone stayed together. And they all were inlethal danger because of that decision.

Lessons, anyone?

Conclusion: Loneliness is lethal, yes. But what makes it lethal? Loneliness forces people to lose track of priorities, like survival.

SW
 

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In a situation like that, assuming I'm trapped with the shooter between me and the exit and there's nowhere sufficiently good to hide I'd throw something or use a bit of small furniture as a shield and rush the guy, of course I'm not likely to survive, but if I'm fucked anyway I'd prefer to have a shot at throwing a paperweight into his temple or strangling/stabbing him while my bullet riddled torso bleeds out.

I have no illusions about a chair letting me get close enough to take out the shooter and survive, it just needs to keep my vitals protected for a couple of seconds so at very least I can barge into the guy and hopefully pin him down with my soon-to-be corpse.

Spiteful to the end.

Conclusion: Loneliness is lethal, yes. But what makes it lethal? Loneliness forces people to lose track of priorities, like survival.
Survival comes before spite on my priority list.

I just don't think I can outrun bullets.
 

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In a situation like that, assuming I'm trapped with the shooter between me and the exit and there's nowhere sufficiently good to hide I'd throw something or use a bit of small furniture as a shield and rush the guy, of course I'm not likely to survive, but if I'm fucked anyway I'd prefer to have a shot at throwing a paperweight into his temple or strangling/stabbing him while my bullet riddled torso bleeds out.

I have no illusions about a chair letting me get close enough to take out the shooter and survive, it just needs to keep my vitals protected for a couple of seconds so at very least I can barge into the guy and hopefully pin him down with my soon-to-be corpse.

Spiteful to the end.

Yes, that's essentially what you're supposed to do. In an office building, though, it may be possible to get out by hiding behind stuff and dashing for emergency exits. Remember, the shooter will be preoccupied with the other people – the people who are still deciding what to do so that everyone is happy and no one is alone. During this time, the spiteful loners can get out.

SW
 

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Or get a big knife from the office kitchen and hide behind a corner the shooter will likely pass.

I have misanthropic frustrations just waiting for the right excuse.
Life is pointless, so why not indulge in a little... irrationality? :twisteddevil:
 

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Wrong subforum... oops
 

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Or get a big knife from the office kitchen and hide behind a corner the shooter will likely pass.

I have misanthropic frustrations just waiting for the right excuse.
Life is pointless, so why not indulge in a little... irrationality? :twisteddevil:

Use a boomerang, mate! 'Straya!

... :D But I think that a T.A.S.E.R. would be most beneficial. Point, shoot, and he's down. Guaranteed. Not even a .600 Nitro, the most powerful handgun in the world, has that kind of stopping power, for while even people blown in half or missing limbs have been known to continue the fight, a T.A.S.E.R. prevents the target from using his or her muscles no matter where it hits.

-Duxwing
 

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But I think that a T.A.S.E.R. would be most beneficial. Point, shoot, and he's down. Guaranteed. Not even a .600 Nitro, the most powerful handgun in the world, has that kind of stopping power, for while even people blown in half or missing limbs have been known to continue the fight, a T.A.S.E.R. prevents the target from using his or her muscles no matter where it hits.
I have my doubts. Can you provide a demo if I hold Cognisant up in front of me?:D
 
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