INTP Fe

[Loner]

Hey I've been trying to develop my Fe hardcore.

I find my Fi can really overwhelm me if I feel anything, but I often feel empty and drained, which makes it hard to use Fe.

I've been going to several social forums, and socializing as much as I can to meet people, but I haven't been doing so well. Especially with women, jeez.

The social forums are generally F types, so their advice is mostly tailored around F type life, like "think less, just do and have fun" and its like... I cant stop thinking... When I stop thinking, I lose my core, and I lose the ability to really DO much but sit there and zone.

I recently discovered I am an INTP and everything makes so much more sense to me.
How do I develop my Fe? Any help would be appreciated

Here's cthulu

 

[nanook]

I'm probably INFP and extraverting myself through the inferior has two aspects. The major aspect is that I explain stuff, which comes natural and isn't inferior at all, it's somewhat powerful in the right situation but it's not helping with strangers who are not interested. Your Fe, if you are intp, is the same, it works naturally to communicate values and connect through them (light banter), but unless you want to practice being dishonest you still have to find individuals who actually share your values, like i need individuals to my share interests (psychology). The second aspect of the inferior is allowing major life decisions to manifest from from it's point of view. For Te this involves things like making career choices (like actually getting a job), for Fe this may involve scene or family related decisions. This is where inferiority comes into play, because we will be inclined to insist to make these decisions from the viewpoint of our dominant function instead. With Fi i can only choose a job that earns my idealistic respect. Jobs like this don't exist. With Ti you may have a hard time, allowing yourself to do something that won't pay off logically, but would make you happy, because you would have nice coworkers or it would make you feel like more of an idealist hero. I would hate or fear to loose myself, if i made logically pragmatic career choices. You would probably be confused and annoyed by a more idealistic persona and feel alienated by resulting social relationships.


If we want to expand our socializing, i feel that it would depend on loosening up perception. Auxilliary Ne is completely different from dominant Ne. We would have to become less judgemental and experiment more and allow for more shallowness and not-knowing.

Now my problem is, when i look over to enfp or entp i am not really inspired by what they do. Sometimes i am envious but more often disturbed if not disgusted. I don't like their enneagram types so much. There is a really deep personality conflict that stops me from acting more like those other types. To use the possibilities of the wold like they do would rather require the unlearning of limiting personal judgements, than the developing of a function. Those other functions will come into your life automatically, if you only allow it. That requires good understanding of what it is, that you have to allow. What are those shallow aspects of acting out through Ne, that are tempered down in Introverts, who use it more like a holo-deck for understanding reality, instead of living through it in real time? What are the implications? How could you tolerate them? In stead of calling them out for being stupid (Ti) or disgusting (Fi).

 

[Cherry Cola]

I love your explanations, I want to probe you for information so hard.

 

[Jennywocky]

^^ Get a library, will ya?

... In stead of calling them out for being stupid (Ti) or disgusting (Fi).

That's actually a nice rule of thumb regarding Ti/Fi.

 

[TheManBeyond]

How could you tolerate them? In stead of calling them out for being stupid (Ti) or disgusting (Fi).

you hurted me :'(

 

[nanook]

i know *han solo face*. i also knew you would respond to this. if you try to prove that you are extroverted by contacting me or mentioning my name constantly, it's working.

 

[onesteptwostep]

I think one of the reasons my Fe developed so much is because I have so many aunts and female cousins. I guess it just rubbed off on me. Being around with older people might help too- but then again it might be the culture working for me. I live in Korea where politeness to older people is ingrained in the culture.

 

[TheManBeyond]

i know *han solo face*. i also knew you would respond to this. if you try to prove that you are extroverted by contacting me or mentioning my name constantly, it's working.

hhmm wat else I'm a esfj? Go fuck yourself dude