AureliaSeverina
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I've just had a brainwave about the role that our introverted functions play in getting attached to someone (as friends etc.). This might either be obvious to everybody else and I'm just retarded or it might be total nonsense. So here goes:
1. Theory:
To form an interpersonal relationship with someone, we need to integrate them into our concept of ourselves somehow. This goes together with our introverted functions, whaterver they may be... it could be Fi, if you've got Fi, but if you don't any other i-function will do. Extraverted functions won't do the trick, e.g. evil INTJs and ENTJs (Te) might see others as part of a plan, but that doesn't mean that they like them. ENTPs or INTPs might find it interesting to observe someone (Ne) and might be polite (Fe), but it doesn't mean that they like them.
2. Evidence
INTP friend and me: When I meet up with my INTP friend, there's always some initial uncertainty as to who has to sit where and who has to start talking etc. Last time we met up, he asked "Do we wanna sit here again?.... That's already a tradition." (Si). I said yes and he immediately seemed more at ease. He also asks me about the same topics everytime we meet up (Si). E.g. I can predict that at one point or another he'll ask me about the economic crisis in the UK, and voila: when we've talked about everything else, he asks about it. So he's probably thinking something along the lines of "She's the person who I always sit at this table with and we always talk about this and that topic, everything is fine because I've done it before."
As for me, that's a bit more obvious: Fi says he's a decent enough guy, Ni says there's some potential for a friendship, therefore we are friends and everything is fine.
ENTP boss and me:
Me (wants boss's feedback): Sir, you know about pupilX blablablablablablabla
ENTP boss: looks at me blankly or runs away
Me (tries again on a different occassion): Sir, you know about pupilX blablablablablablablablabla blabla THEORY blablablabla HUMANITY, blabla GEEKY, blablabla
ENTP boss:
, booohooooo, Miss.... booohoooo
Me (shouts): It's alright I've sorted it out. I just want to know what you THINK! (Ti).
ENTP boss:
, tells me what he thinks (3 times over)
Ever since then he's come up to me and said things like "Miss, when you've got a minute, let me give you the latest update on the pupilX situation." "Miss, I'll catch up with you." "Hum, I'm just trying to use creative thinking, could we ....." (Ti)
ESFJ best friend and me:
Her: I'm so spontaneous, I don't like routines, it's too much pressure blablablablab BS BS BS
Me thinks: Yeah, like hell.
Her: meets up with me every single Friday for 7 years and gets flustered when I don't have time. (Si)
OK guys, what do you reckon? Does this make sense? Have you got any examples about other types?
1. Theory:
To form an interpersonal relationship with someone, we need to integrate them into our concept of ourselves somehow. This goes together with our introverted functions, whaterver they may be... it could be Fi, if you've got Fi, but if you don't any other i-function will do. Extraverted functions won't do the trick, e.g. evil INTJs and ENTJs (Te) might see others as part of a plan, but that doesn't mean that they like them. ENTPs or INTPs might find it interesting to observe someone (Ne) and might be polite (Fe), but it doesn't mean that they like them.
2. Evidence
INTP friend and me: When I meet up with my INTP friend, there's always some initial uncertainty as to who has to sit where and who has to start talking etc. Last time we met up, he asked "Do we wanna sit here again?.... That's already a tradition." (Si). I said yes and he immediately seemed more at ease. He also asks me about the same topics everytime we meet up (Si). E.g. I can predict that at one point or another he'll ask me about the economic crisis in the UK, and voila: when we've talked about everything else, he asks about it. So he's probably thinking something along the lines of "She's the person who I always sit at this table with and we always talk about this and that topic, everything is fine because I've done it before."
As for me, that's a bit more obvious: Fi says he's a decent enough guy, Ni says there's some potential for a friendship, therefore we are friends and everything is fine.
ENTP boss and me:
Me (wants boss's feedback): Sir, you know about pupilX blablablablablablabla
ENTP boss: looks at me blankly or runs away
Me (tries again on a different occassion): Sir, you know about pupilX blablablablablablablablabla blabla THEORY blablablabla HUMANITY, blabla GEEKY, blablabla
ENTP boss:
, booohooooo, Miss.... booohooooMe (shouts): It's alright I've sorted it out. I just want to know what you THINK! (Ti).
ENTP boss:
, tells me what he thinks (3 times over)Ever since then he's come up to me and said things like "Miss, when you've got a minute, let me give you the latest update on the pupilX situation." "Miss, I'll catch up with you." "Hum, I'm just trying to use creative thinking, could we ....." (Ti)
ESFJ best friend and me:
Her: I'm so spontaneous, I don't like routines, it's too much pressure blablablablab BS BS BS
Me thinks: Yeah, like hell.
Her: meets up with me every single Friday for 7 years and gets flustered when I don't have time. (Si)
OK guys, what do you reckon? Does this make sense? Have you got any examples about other types?
