How to overcome overwhelming Fe?

[Idunno]

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[Tannhauser]

Yeah, that sounds reasonable.

 

[onesteptwostep]

By expending it by the use of Se.

 

[Grayman]

If you have too much iron in your diet you might consider eating less red meat.

 

[Cheeseumpuffs]

k

No, I don't think bananas will really help all that much.

 

[Frankie]

Try nuts.

 

[JimJambones]

Try using the Force?

 

[WALKYRIA]

by developping Fe perhaps? lol

 

[Inquisitor]

k

More specifics?

 

[Shieru]

Punch it in the face and tell it it's a whiny worry-wort, then throw it in the back seat and let Ti drive (Ti's dispassionate, y'know.. all Fe's flustering in the back won't bother him ^^)

*shuffles through notes looking for a more constructive answer*

I don't know if this applies, but I recently watched one of Michael Pierce's videos on INTPs. He talked about the over-emphasis of cliche Fe social memes as a compensation for a lack of ability to authentically express emotions. Is this the sort of thing you're experiencing?

I know in the past, I've dealt with overly guilty Fe. Guilty Fe may make you feel so guilty about not conforming to others' expectations that you'll do so at the expense of your own principles or comfort. It's also a pain when it makes you over-apologetic (degrading to one's self-esteem and rather annoying to other people :P)

If you're talking about overwhelming emotions, that doesn't necessarily have anything to do with Fe. From what I've come to know, Fe is about one's social persona, and the method one uses in moving social dynamics. Modulation of emotion may happen through Fe, but emotion itself is a separate phenomenon. Emotional overwhelm can be caused by a lot of things.. stress and/or anxiety is one of the culprits that comes to mind.

As mentioned, though, more detail would prolly help

 

[Ex-User (11125)]

Shove all the Fe up ur anaïs then turn around exactly three times and clap

 

[Rualani]

Lay down and let your Fe express itself all at once. Wait a bit as your tumultuous psyche seeks stability. Chastise Fe, "Look, it didn't solve anything, are we in agreement yet?" The sheer waves of emotions that follows will obliterate your psyche. Without a psyche you won't have to worry about Fe.

P.S. Don't do this.

 

[mu is mu]

What exactly did you have in mind?

 

[Sir Eus Lee]

What I have found recently is that while Ti demands you sort through things and make sense of them, Fe demands expression in some sort of way. If you find a friend that you can have deep conversations with, Fe and Ti can both be satisfied in the right circumstances, as Ti will gain a new perspective on an issue (well, Ne too I guess but more so in ye sense that) allowing it to come to some conclusion, and Fe will be able to express some of the things Ti was holding back for some time. I also recently just took a walk. It was a windy day, so I just walked out of my house barefoot and all, and just went around my neighborhood. It was near empty, and I've been in this neighborhood most of my life. So I felt that doing it engaged all my functions in some way, and it was a really great way to recharge. After that, and a night alone just listening to music, meditating, and grasping hold on life, I felt like a had a grip on myself again. I had found that Fe was likely driving me to feel nervous in social situations, like I needed to say something, and to do things that didn't feel like me. After doing some of these things I felt that I had released something I was holding onto, or grabbed hold of something I had lost before, and although it hasn't fixed a lot, I think it has but me back in the right mindset, and it's a first step.

That's not to say these things are permanent solutions, but done every once in awhile, they can ensure that you maintain hold over your functions and that they each stay satisfied and balanced.

 

[Aposiopesis]

Fe tends to like other people. The problem with that is that other people do not necessarily like Fe, particularly underdeveloped inferior Fe. Having a friend/individual who understands and can deal with your Fe even at its worst moments is invaluable.

Failing that, I tend to find throwing easily breakable things to be a good outlet. For maximum effect, I recommend objects of little to no value (such as an icecube), appropriately sturdy surfaces to impact, preferably away from possible subjects of possible collateral damage. This Fe outlet is best utilized away from the eyes of others, as they may incorrectly perceive this as worrying/hostile/malicious.

 

[xbox]

hold ur breath and count to 5465384654

then when ur about to die then u can be like oh and then proceed to resume normal business

 

[enfpf]

Agreed with what is said above based on minimal detail from OP.

Identify someone who operates as a sounding board of sorts, a caring support source who is able to recognise when Fe (or rather, lack of healthy engagement with Fe) is overwhelming. That is critical to be able to alleviate this feeling. Try and notice when they are giving you little bouts of encouragement.

What this looks like practically however is specific to the individual, I believe. Give yourself time & space to figure out what that first step off 'the cliff' would be, as that's usually the hardest/most painful.

 

[ENTP lurker]

Seek for ESFJ and ENFJ company. You'll love it and you can work as their brain. It is a win win situation.