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Do you like your family?

drugsandpizza

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Overall,

I'd have to say I genuinely dislike my mother most of the time.
None of my siblings and I are very close.
Don't know my dad.
I love my grandma. Loved my grandpa.
Everyone else I'm kind of just ehh with.

I honestly can't wait to move out, though.
I really just wanna get away from everyone I'm related to.
If I never saw them again, I think I'd be alright..

I feel so much different than them. Like. I don't fit.

Idk, how about you? Do you like your family?
 

CoryJames

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I don't always like my family, but I love them unequivocally. I would step in front of a bullet for any member of my family, immediate or otherwise. (Though I believe that sentiment may be related to my own issues of self worth.
 

Jesse

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Kind of. I love them but most of the time I don't like them ;). I get along with my brother and sister. My brothers two years younger so we grew up together. My sisters 7 years younger so I treat her like a kid, take her to the movies and such.

My relationship with my parents is complicated. Mum and Dad fight a lot and are divorced. I don't talk much with my dad and my mum is usually hostile or loving. With my extended family it's a crap shot. I only have 1 grandparent and I feel guilty that I don't spend more time with her. I have a ton of uncles, aunties and cousins on both sides and they go from not on speaking terms to seeing them every two weeks or so but most of them I just see at Christmas or family gatherings.
 

gruesomebrat

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Overall,

I'd have to say I genuinely dislike my mother most of the time.
None of my siblings and I are very close.
Don't know my dad.
I love my grandma. Loved my grandpa.
Everyone else I'm kind of just ehh with.

I honestly can't wait to move out, though.
I really just wanna get away from everyone I'm related to.
If I never saw them again, I think I'd be alright..

I feel so much different than them. Like. I don't fit.

Idk, how about you? Do you like your family?

God, no. Well, I can't exactly say that... can't stand my mother, my sister and I aren't really close, most of my aunt's on mom's side are completely insane (few of them are the good crazy though)...

On the other side, I only just met my father a year ago, and so far he seems half-decent; met my paternal grandfather on Thursday, haven't formed an opinion of him yet; and haven't met any of my extended family on dad's side yet...

All in all, the family I grew up with, I can't stand, for the most part. The family I'm meeting now isn't too bad, but that's no guarantee that they're not just as bad. The family I'm most comfortable with are those few friends of mine who are close enough to be considered family.
 

gephura

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I love my family, I would pretty much do anything for them. No, I would do anything for them. We had our problems, but no more than a normal family.

If anyone watches Modern Family here, I come from the Phil-Claire family type.
 

Words

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How can I hate my main provider of resource? That said, I show no care most times, but in crisis, I panic the most. When in an instinctual situation, the sustainer of instinct matters most.
 

Stoic Beverage

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I'm not sure, but it's rather chilly.
No, I don't particularly like my family. I'm grateful to my mother and step-dad for basically feeding and clothing my sorry self until I finish high school, college and the like; however, I'm not very close to them. In fact, they're polar opposites from me (Most are ESFJ or similar.)
I'm quite close to my dad, though. Interestingly enough, he's an INTP.
 

Stigmata

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I only have strong feelings for two or three people in my immediate family; I'm indifferent when it comes to the rest of them.
 

Omelas

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I love my family. My mom can get overbearing, but she cares. My dad could seem distant occasionally, if I wasn't the same way. Although she can be trouble, I would protect my younger sister to the death.
 

Jennywocky

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I love my family, otherwise I wouldn't try so hard to work through all this crap with them. My mom's got a good heart, my dad can be a good teacher. My sister's built a good life for herself and I'm happy for her. And I don't want harm to come to the extended family.

But there's a lot of crap that has happened over the years, and often I have to fight to want to continue to invest. They're pretty close-minded and unimaginative, even aside from issues of decades of alcohol abuse by my dad. Much of the time, it hasn't been worth the pain and trouble to try to connect, and I'm not sure it ever will be... except for maybe it's helped me grow and become stronger as a person.

There's family of origin vs family of choice, and I know who can and will be there for and who won't... and it hasn't been my family of origin, even though I had wished for that for a long time.
 

Cognisant

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My Dad is a cross between Alan Harper and that photographer guy from the second Fable game, I think he's an INTP, a great guy to have around, a great friend, a somewhat pathetic father.
He's in Japan.

My Mum just came home, blind drunk as is usual for a Friday night, is ranting & raving at her boyfriend who honestly doesn’t deserve half of it, lol, I think he's an INTP too. I'm wondering if I should stop typing and go sit with her, she has this funny habit of trying to kill herself every now and again, she's been doing it for so many years it's more annoying than anything, I know she's going to die one day, sooner than later it seems; cancer, heart-condition, or suicide, anyone want to place a bet?
Don't misunderstand, I love her, but loving her really hurts.
 

cheese

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I think I've been ridiculously lucky in the family department. Yes, I like them a lot. Love as well, but that's a different matter; it's easier to love than like I think, when it comes to family.

I see a lot of posts about people, especially kids, having a really tough time growing up in a family that doesn't understand them at all (and vice-versa) which is pretty disheartening. I think so much about us generally could be different given a more stable, accepting, loving, nurturing (in the ways useful for us, which I'd guess are quite different to the norm) environment.
 

Polaris

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I adore my ten year younger sister and her nine year old son. I like my dad too, even if his childhood rendered him incapable of relating to his own children. I understand why.

I have to say I have no specific emotion towards my mother. Most of the time I am angry with her, which I resent. Working on it.

My older brother frightens the hell out of me. Hence my exile to Australia for the last 16 years.

I guess in a sort of twisted way, I love them all. Their personalities don't allow for significant closeness, though.

My dabbling in spirituality/meditation is the result. It has been a necessary coping strategy.

Edit: I'm sorry about your situation Cog. You seem to have a lot on your shoulders. *hugs awkward robot-thing*
 

Taniwha

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I love my family, dearly.

I come from a large family of 10 siblings, so there is never a dull moment.
My father (INTP) is a hard working man, I have a huge amount of respect towards him. He's a great father, he's extremely accepting and caring but maintains his stern INTP thinking.
That's how I've always known him to be.
My realtionship with my mother (EXFJ) is rocky, but I am slowly beginning to understand her. My love for her will always be there, regardless of what happens.

I really like hanging out with my sisters, we do all sorts of cool stuff. My brothers are definitely introverted and closer to home in nature. My extended family is really cool too. My brother in law reminds me of Severus Snape (INTJ). ;)
 

Melllvar

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I can't stand my family.

They're generally horrible people. They've been the cause of immeasurable torment and psychological damage my entire life. While I don't like thinking this way, at some point I couldn't help but realize I'd probably be better off never seeing them again. That it would be a kind of relief that would perhaps be one of the happiest days of my life (and yet it makes me feel really bad just to say this). The thought that I'm genetically linked to them and was raised by them and hence can't help but share many of their traits sometimes keeps me awake at night. It makes me want to never reproduce. It makes me wonder if it's something I can ever overcome, or if I'm just doomed to cause as much damage to the world as they seem capable of.

To be fair, they've done some not so horrible things too, but overall I don't think it really comes close to making up for it. In general they're just selfish, short-sighted, ignorant, and even when they mean well (which isn't often, really) they're just incapable of being anything other than what they are. I can't relate to them. They're perhaps the most alien group of people I've ever known. They've always treated me like some kind of mutant, even openly referring to me as being fucked up and needing to be institutionalized. They're authoritarians, bigots, control freaks, hypocrits, conventional, mainstream, image-obsessed workaholics who put their career before everything else, who constantly fight with each other as well as me. There's very little happiness in their lives, and they bring it on themselves (and the people around them).

I could keep going on, but what's the point...
 

Döden

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I love my parents but we're not particularly close. The things I talk about or take interest in are bizarre to my mom. They creep her out.
My dad is pretty overbearing. He thinks any interests I have outside of school (and by school I mean science and math) are bullshit.

Hoping this improves when I move out.
 

Dimensional Transition

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I love all of my family members in a certain way.
Some of them I have a less close bond with than others.
For example I can't talk to my mom very well. She's a very nice person, but we're just too different. The way she acts is extremely annoying to me(She's an ESFP I think). I still love her though.
 
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