It would appear that we share experiences that way. I suppose, just like you, it's just that I never really know what to say when that happens. I've asked many people, even as recently as a few days ago, about what to say when in this sort of situation. No luck, really. Everything I've been told to say is, well....bizarre to me, really. One guy who I do respect as someone more skillful in the arena than myself (not difficult to be) told me to compliment them back as a programmed response, but a lot of times women don't even say anything (like that particular downtown club instance) and when they do, it just feels awkward in action...especially if I'm not sure if i believe it to be true. What if I don't also find them attractive?