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TheManBeyond

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Hi, tomorrow me and my ex are going to met after a long time before we both leave this country to spend some time trying something else.
I was also invited for an interview for a job which only will last for 1 month and a half but it is well payed.
I know there's almost any other chance to get met her anytime soon since she's busy and so i am plus as i said before we're going to leave the country soon.
The guy who mailed me asked me if i was busy at that time tomorrow morning so i guess i can tell him to delay it until evening or even wednesday without much problems. Plus i already have a part time job and i'm pretty happy with it so far.
But i also feel that i should completely discard my ex for many reasons, like pride and because i know she wouldn't do the same for me.
At the other hand i want to talk to her so we can become some kind of weird long distance friends, those you know are there for you but you never talk to.
 

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You're Spanish right? I don't know if culture gets factored into something like this. I'm not close friends with any of my exes. I don't understand how other people do that. If I'm in their general vicinity (traveling), I might go and visit to say hi, but I don't think I would ever plan a trip just to see one of my exes. If you're looking for closure then by all means go and see her. Otherwise, forget it. Sounds like you got burned in some way and she doesn't really give a shit about you. People always want what they can't have. You're probably never going to talk to her again. It's no great loss. People come and go all the time in your life. Find reasons to convince yourself that it never would have worked anyway and then move on. Denial is surprisingly effective.
 

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On the other hand my wife and I finally got to go on a "honeymoon" vacation after 20 years of marriage, and when we did, we took my exwife along for several days simply because we were in the state where she now lives. I get along fine with her, simply because we did not separate with ill will, we'd simply grown apart and become different people from when we married as teenagers. We're not best buddies and we don't share confidences, we're just comfortable and still have two (grown) children in common.
We were married for 16 years. I'm not sure if what we do is possible in a much shorter relationship.

OP, I think you answered your own question. If I understand it correctly, you are wondering about delaying a job interview for the sake of a meeting with an ex. You noted she would not do the same for you. Isn't that your answer? Things need to be reciprocal, balanced, or it's not really a relationship or an important courtesy, it's more like exploitation although that word is a little more severe than I intend.
 

TheManBeyond

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You're Spanish right? I don't know if culture gets factored into something like this. I'm not close friends with any of my exes. I don't understand how other people do that. If I'm in their general vicinity (traveling), I might go and visit to say hi, but I don't think I would ever plan a trip just to see one of my exes. If you're looking for closure then by all means go and see her. Otherwise, forget it. Sounds like you got burned in some way and she doesn't really give a shit about you. People always want what they can't have. You're probably never going to talk to her again. It's no great loss. People come and go all the time in your life. Find reasons to convince yourself that it never would have worked anyway and then move on. Denial is surprisingly effective.

Venezuela is not spain although i have both nationalities.
No, bro, perhaps i expressed myself incorrectly, i just want to know we have solved hard shit we had to pass through when we were together and now if there's something we could do for each other well we know we are cool, friends or whatever the word is.
It is not about travelling to visit anyone, i'll do my thing and so will do her.

@EditorOne, finally i could rearrange both dates so they don't interfere with each other. So even if i might regret my behaviour tomorrow i'll do my last and final try.
 
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