Speaking from a cultural perspective, greeting is quite important for Japanese, so if I greet people using the correct language, socializing is not difficult on the face level. I also try to smile with good timing..
But in any case, I try to get myself out of the house by making a simple task.
Basically Japanese use certain phrases for certain social situations. For example, after work, one would say "Otsukaresama deshita", which means "I appreciate your hard work." Or simple expressions like "Good morning/Ohayogosaimasu", "Thank you/Arigatougosaimasu", "Sorry/Gomennasai", etc, are good enough to pass. But there are many many other "Kimarimonku".How does one greet using the correct language in Japan?
Agreed!It is very difficult to describe all the possible methods as it is different with the situation and person you speak with. The rules of socializing are dynamic.
One thing that I can say is that there is a communication system built into each of us that is instinctual. As illogical as our emotions may seem, they are a key to communication, expression, and understanding. When understanding ourselves more we can understand others. We have to be able to open ourselves to the illogical emotional values we often try to ignore in ourselves and listen. Often we will face situations that this is not enough. The values of each individual are different and not always your own, but the method mentioned provides a good starting point.
As an INTP my feelings are a lot harder to find and gather to be used as a reflective pattern to how others think. I am not like them and the makes it much more difficult. Simply listening to them and paying attention to the connections of how they act and what they say can be enough to complete that pattern and get a more accurate reflection of the individual than a simple self reflection.
One important factor to consider is that the values of others are worth listening to and 'accepting' as true at least for them. If a person complains about his boss not asking about how things are going. He values the idea that others are concerned for his well being and he is emotionally uplifted with the reminder. It is likely that if you ask them how they feel and how their personal life is coming along the person will begin to bond with you. If a person always jumps in to help and volunteer for things it is likely the person finds the action of working together to be a bonding experience it also likely that talking during the action is not likely a requirement. In fact talking is rarely a requirement for socializing, it is more listening that is important. As Introverts that is not an issue so I will not go to much into that. Although talking is not as important as listening, saying the right thing is. That is where we trip up all the time.
Saying the right thing is best described as targeting positive values and avoiding the negative values, but how do you be real with them? How do you tell them something that will spark a negative value and cause a negative reaction? The answer is to provide them with the understanding that you do care about their point of view. That is the first step. You may not agree with what they are doing or thinking but it is important for them to know that you are interested in their well being. You must be real about it also. This requires some sort of empathy. So dig deep and find it. When the person knows that you care about them and that you mean well it would be hard for them to get mad at you when you tell them they are wrong.
Anyways, I could go on but I think this is enough for now.
yeah.It is very difficult to describe all the possible methods as it is different with the situation and person you speak with. The rules of socializing are dynamic...
haha.I spit at people. If they turn away in disgust, I punch them in the kidneys, steal their money, and run like hell. If they just smile and wipe it off, I buy them a beer... which I spit in.
Hmm. unless your kidneys are superhuman (or you get additional staff to help you stream more product), you might have to stick with a nanobrewery.
do no good (esp. in the realm of offering problem solving ideas up for use by others) unless compensated for the fruits of the mind (can be money or any number of other things of value/ worth to me).