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(Didn't quite know how to phrase this).

Post a brief description of how each MBTI type makes you act, or how you act around each other. You don't have to use all of them, only ones of people whom you interact with fairly frequently.

I will go first (in no particular order):

ENTP: Brings out the worst of my humor. It's impossible to talk about something, because we keep taking each and every word literally on purpose to mess with one another. There are lots of finger guns involved in these interactions.

INFJ: I get intense. The entire conversation is always about some doomsday plan, or any other worse-case-scenario discussions.

ISFJ: I feel like I'm too intense around them. Their organization and precision turns me into an ENTP, because I can't stop messing with them and making horrible jokes.

INTJ: They only one who lets me use my insult-jokes, so they get the full-brunt and take it in stride. It's a beautiful dynamic.

INFP: I become a personal life coach with endless amounts of validation and encouragement.

ENFP: Silent monk with nods of acknowledgment, them responding to me without me having said anything based off my facial expressions throughout a conversation.

ISTJ: I am mean, because they (usually) annoy me.

ISTP: I feel like I am too much and too boring at the same time.

ENFJ: I can never respond quickly enough for them. I feel too boring. Same with ESFPs, except they'll wave my non-responses and fill them in or ignore me.
 

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everyone except INTs are losers. ENTP can be amusing , but are nevertheless still losers.

the shallowless/superficialism of people in society irks me deeply. Like this guy that tells me to invest and speculate in Bitcoin and pot stocks , but have no understanding what the topic is , and does not reseach and he just say things/give advice for the sake of saying it. "Are you F..King stupid"
 

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ive met two entps, both were awesome. entp girls humor is amazing, everything is an absurd argument/dark joke. we agree on 90% of our arguments, its very weird, absolutely terrible communication efficiency.

99% of esfp's hate me, and I hate 100% of them.
I had 1 espf teacher, for sure, and she broke all the fucking rules telling me how much she hated me, in front of the class. Not my fault, the assignment was stupid and I refuse to do meaningless things. Im mature enough now to just do it, but back then I couldnt.

INTJ- she liked me but It was evident my flippancy drove her crazy. She was great though, despite me driving her nuts, she was super helpful, letting me fly past every other student by allowing me to study alone.

ENTJ - I had a cryptographer substitute teacher once ( low level math class) , me and this dude were bros within 10 minutes, and that was back when I didnt talk. Not sure what the bs assignment was, but he was teaching me calculus and talking about apocalypse situations by the end of the class. I think he was


I think my best friend in highschool was an infp, she was a sweetie, she was the first girl I ever became attracted to enough to pursue.

I met one intp in person, he was a terrible person, but boi was talking to him EZ, our talk went from languages, to lasers, to neuroscience, to nothing being real. good talks. He literally sat down and started our conversation by asking if I was autistic, because he was in my psych class, and psych gets me PSYCHED. our psych teacher knew literally nothing about psychology, at least, not abnormal psych, which is all I care about, so I got to teach the class about disorders ^.^
 

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@sushi

Not all NTs I’ve met were intelligent, or interesting. Though I’ll admit, most lasting friendships I’ve formed have been with INTJs and INFPs. They’ve all been self-aware, genuine people. You won’t encounter that day-to-day or with many acquaintances.

But I know exactly what you’re talking about. It’s sad to see that people really do think they know what they’re talking about. I think part of it is the defensives people have when they don’t know you—they won’t risk appearing stupid, especially if they are secretly insecure about something. People will voice thoughtless “opinions” to make themselves feel important.
 

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He literally sat down and started our conversation by asking if I was autistic, because he was in my psych class, and psych gets me PSYCHED.

No you don’t ask that wtf
I would’ve responded something like: “i don’t know, but please, tell me about my diagnosis that you would be so obviously qualified to give as just beginning a psychology 101 course. And if I may ask, because I myself am also taking the class and am therefore an expert too, do you have aspergers? I’m curious, because such a colloquially insulting and presumptuous inquiry indicated that you have struggled to aptly learn simple social etiquette.”

our psych teacher knew literally nothing about psychology, at least, not abnormal psych, which is all I care about, so I got to teach the class about disorders ^.^

This is why a good text book is my favorite teacher when it comes to anything concerning psychology.
 

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He had aspergers, and he was at the far end of the spectrum. it was more of, "are you like me", rather than, "are you damaged".
I said he was terrible because he didnt understand people, and he didnt seem to want to try.
 

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He had aspergers, and he was at the far end of the spectrum. it was more of, "are you like me", rather than, "are you damaged".
I said he was terrible because he didnt understand people, and he didnt seem to want to try.

Well that will certainly explain it.
 

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@sushi

Not all NTs I’ve met were intelligent, or interesting. Though I’ll admit, most lasting friendships I’ve formed have been with INTJs and INFPs. They’ve all been self-aware, genuine people. You won’t encounter that day-to-day or with many acquaintances.

But I know exactly what you’re talking about. It’s sad to see that people really do think they know what they’re talking about. I think part of it is the defensives people have when they don’t know you—they won’t risk appearing stupid, especially if they are secretly insecure about something. People will voice thoughtless “opinions” to make themselves feel important.


@moody he is not an NT. I dont know what type he is .

If you dont know anything about the topic, dont give advice and say things for the sake of saying it. ( my assumption is one give advice if he knows 20 % about the topic at least) It makes the person looks like a bullshitter who makes things up and not follow through.
 

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@moody he is not an NT. I dont know what type he is .

If you dont know anything about the topic, dont give advice and say things for the sake of saying it. ( my assumption is one give advice if he knows 20 % about the topic at least) It makes the person looks like a bullshitter who makes things up and not follow through.


He was probably an SJ. I call everyone that bugs me an SJ, though. Because it's probably true.

Unfortunately, that's what most people are like. They put all their efforts into making it look like they're smart and good at what they do instead of putting more effort into actually being intelligent and skillful. You market more than you work on the product.
 

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@moody he is not an NT. I dont know what type he is .

If you dont know anything about the topic, dont give advice and say things for the sake of saying it. ( my assumption is one give advice if he knows 20 % about the topic at least) It makes the person looks like a bullshitter who makes things up and not follow through.


He was probably an SJ. I call everyone that bugs me an SJ, though. Because it's probably true.

Unfortunately, that's what most people are like. They put all their efforts into making it look like they're smart and good at what they do instead of putting more effort into actually being intelligent and skillful. You market more than you work on the product.


He is probably a P. P tends to bullshit more than J and make things up on the fly. He makes me look like a J in comparison, even though I am not. The most annoying part is his lack of logic and critical thought. But he constantly talks about the sixth sense and dimension, and justify his lack of coherence and logic, evidence by saying he is right brain person, right brain apparent justifying asspulling facts from nothing.

He constantly switch plans and say things without following through/taking action. I am guessing INFX or or NPish or a messed up ISFP. I really dont want to analzye him because we are like oil and water.

(If we are one difference in MBTI letter, he already irks me off severely.)

Then again, after meeting him changed my view of society and human nature. Alot of people in society just say things on superficial level without commitment nor understanding of the said subject.
 

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People who never taken math or terrible at elementary Math (calculation or computer coding) or any number computation courses when they are young also tend to have poor reasoning, and illogical when they become older. I am no spock but this is just a deduction.
 

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INTP: I think it depends on their intelligence/focus, but I see a lot of INTPs bouncing from one idea to another with a sense of "completion" like they've completed a chapter of a book and that's all the understanding they need. I do see this switching as they get older and they stop diverting their interest to multiple subjects.

INTJ: They speak on the few matters they know something about. They're not adaptable to subjects outside of their domain. Opposite of INTP in most ways, INTP-INTJ could form a good symbiotic relationship with each other.

ENTJ: Dynamic, interesting but business oriented. I find they have one of the better work-social life balances: They're not one for cute dates talking about emotions but they're very social, so businesswoman 101: Emotionally insensitive, social and work-oriented.

ENTP: Try to dominate the conversation, make arguments out of something for sheer entertainment. It's like they've just been told to enact a widowed character who lost their love, becoming relentlessly theatrical in their performance. I find they project the behaviour of a principled person for the time in which they're arguing, only for it to mean virtually nothing the next day. This rollercoaster of onslaught is particularly dreadful when they're drunk. In terms of tension, I think an INTP arguing with ENTPs is probably the worst for conflict resolution as both rely on their Intuition, Thinking and Perceiving.

ISTP: Noble-minded. Never the top of the class but they were well liked.

INFP: Instead of scattering their brains with thoughts and ideas, INFPs scatter their brain with thoughts of feelings and sensations. They'll create grand narratives on someone's emotional state from one little cue.

INFJ: Volatile but beauty in chaos, right? Do they like you or hate you? It can change with each passing day. Interesting but the volatility is hard to safely step around.

ENFJ: Like the INFP they're incredibly sensitive to people's emotions but this can cause them to make the simplest of things into a goal of retribution: "We must free them from gasp manipulation" , they see the side that's steeped in emotion not thought so rational thought, the toolkit in the INTPs arsenal is not very effective here.
 

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INTP: I think it depends on their intelligence/focus, but I see a lot of INTPs bouncing from one idea to another with a sense of "completion" like they've completed a chapter of a book and that's all the understanding they need. I do see this switching as they get older and they stop diverting their interest to multiple subjects.

Hm, depends on how ambitious the INTP. Most INTPs are told some point in their lives "you have so much potential why don't you do anything." (At least, that's the stereotype). The crux of the matter is how much direction you can derive form you're environment, and how much you're encouraged/allowed to do something. True for all kids growing up, but even more so for children as methodical and slow to act as young INTPs. Once we get to a place where we feel as though we've exhausted other directions or ideas, we're much better at being coherent and proactive. Just gotta be allowed that time to get there.

Also: maturity level and role-models, of course.


INTJ: They speak on the few matters they know something about. They're not adaptable to subjects outside of their domain. Opposite of INTP in most ways, INTP-INTJ could form a good symbiotic relationship with each other.

I wouldn't say they're not adaptable, rather they need good incentive to divert their attention or alter their line of thinking.

I've gotten along with INTJs quite well, once we become comfortable with one another. I haven't been able to click as well with other people as well as I have with them. There is always a but of underlying tension due before we've both determined where we stand compared to the other, but this comes with a lack of self assurance and experience. The older I get, the less these type of interactions are present in first impressions/new acquaintances/friends.

An INTJ friend and I did call ourselves the Dynamic Duo, to be honest. It's nerdy, yes, but what else do you expect? The INTJ was always over the moon about the fact that a childhood friend of mine of ours was an ISTJ, so that we could have the whole Sherlock-gang accounted for.

It's like they've just been told to enact a widowed character who lost their love, becoming relentlessly theatrical in their performance

Ironically, the ENTP I know very well is in the field of drama. Their life is a stage.

INFP: Instead of scattering their brains with thoughts and ideas, INFPs scatter their brain with thoughts of feelings and sensations. They'll create grand narratives on someone's emotional state from one little cue.

So they're the supporting character in an Anime show?

INFJ: Volatile but beauty in chaos, right? Do they like you or hate you? It can change with each passing day. Interesting but the volatility is hard to safely step around.

Depends on their maturity level. It sounds more like you're talking about a woman you like who happens to be an INFJ.

ENFJ: Like the INFP they're incredibly sensitive to people's emotions but this can cause them to make the simplest of things into a goal of retribution: "We must free them from gasp manipulation" , they see the side that's steeped in emotion not thought so rational thought, the toolkit in the INTPs arsenal is not very effective here.

You. Have. NO. IDEA. I have seen the dark side so many times...
 

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INTJ: They speak on the few matters they know something about. They're not adaptable to subjects outside of their domain. Opposite of INTP in most ways, INTP-INTJ could form a good symbiotic relationship with each other.

I wouldn't say they're not adaptable, rather they need good incentive to divert their attention or alter their line of thinking.

I've gotten along with INTJs quite well, once we become comfortable with one another. I haven't been able to click as well with other people as well as I have with them. There is always a but of underlying tension due before we've both determined where we stand compared to the other, but this comes with a lack of self assurance and experience. The older I get, the less these type of interactions are present in first impressions/new acquaintances/friends.

An INTJ friend and I did call ourselves the Dynamic Duo, to be honest. It's nerdy, yes, but what else do you expect? The INTJ was always over the moon about the fact that a childhood friend of mine of ours was an ISTJ, so that we could have the whole Sherlock-gang accounted for

Yeah I have like two references for INTJ behaviour, one is my old friend Damien which I liked, the other was this russian/kazekhstan guy called sergey, he wanted to go out with my polish girlfriend at the time (Y'know restore the soviet union), and then later on I was attracted to his sister. Damien is nice, Sergey is nice but wasn't the friendliest to me. I kinda want to meet more INTJs to update my model of the personaltiy type, it's not the best.
It's like they've just been told to enact a widowed character who lost their love, becoming relentlessly theatrical in their performance

Ironically, the ENTP I know very well is in the field of drama. Their life is a stage.

Soul-draining individuals at times.

INFP: Instead of scattering their brains with thoughts and ideas, INFPs scatter their brain with thoughts of feelings and sensations. They'll create grand narratives on someone's emotional state from one little cue.

So they're the supporting character in an Anime show?

Smooth response, 7.5/10.
INFJ: Volatile but beauty in chaos, right? Do they like you or hate you? It can change with each passing day. Interesting but the volatility is hard to safely step around.

Depends on their maturity level. It sounds more like you're talking about a woman you like who happens to be an INFJ.

Yeah, it was my friends girlfriend. I didn't like her sexually but I got along with her very well, but she was in a loop: My friend joe was quite social, well-liked guy, he had a decent amount of friends. Anyways, we all hung out pretty much weekly as we lived right beside each other, joe would usually sleep at 1am , me and her would talk for a few hours. Kiera was the in-depth one, joe didn't like big discussions. ENTP above was also in this concoction, both the ENTP and INFJ spent hours evaluating me, it was kinda weird. AHH. y'know I'll leave it there. Long story.

But basically, when I got close to her I could sense she felt I was trying to get into her. It was quite paradoxical: She was always insistently friendly one day and then not the other. She kept saying she had no friends and that I was just joe's friend even when I tried with both of them, even in the face of rejection from her. The friendship was quite jarring really: they got into arguments a lot, and if I tried to console her she'd see it as a move to get into her. I don't even know how to explain, but if we were two sides of the coin, one being friendly and the other being standoffish, the universe demanded that there had to be a balance/duality: If I was friendly, she was standoffish, and if I was standoffish not to invoke the feeling from her she would persist.

Lovely girl very intelligent she obviously had a lot going on her plate but I wish it was simplified.
ENFJ: Like the INFP they're incredibly sensitive to people's emotions but this can cause them to make the simplest of things into a goal of retribution: "We must free them from gasp manipulation" , they see the side that's steeped in emotion not thought so rational thought, the toolkit in the INTPs arsenal is not very effective here.

You. Have. NO. IDEA. I have seen the dark side so many times...
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One of my roommates is an ENFJ, lovely girl but I'm getting warning signals in a few areas. I think I imagined to escape ther first emotional insurgence, given that I won't be drinking and we only exchange kitchen talk I should be safe... for now.
 

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Yeah, it was my friends girlfriend. I didn't like her sexually but I got along with her very well, but she was in a loop: My friend joe was quite social, well-liked guy, he had a decent amount of friends. Anyways, we all hung out pretty much weekly as we lived right beside each other, joe would usually sleep at 1am , me and her would talk for a few hours. Kiera was the in-depth one, joe didn't like big discussions. ENTP above was also in this concoction, both the ENTP and INFJ spent hours evaluating me, it was kinda weird. AHH. y'know I'll leave it there. Long story.

But basically, when I got close to her I could sense she felt I was trying to get into her. It was quite paradoxical: She was always insistently friendly one day and then not the other. She kept saying she had no friends and that I was just joe's friend even when I tried with both of them, even in the face of rejection from her. The friendship was quite jarring really: they got into arguments a lot, and if I tried to console her she'd see it as a move to get into her. I don't even know how to explain, but if we were two sides of the coin, one being friendly and the other being standoffish, the universe demanded that there had to be a balance/duality: If I was friendly, she was standoffish, and if I was standoffish not to invoke the feeling from her she would persist.

Lovely girl very intelligent she obviously had a lot going on her plate but I wish it was simplified.

Ah, I understand. She was probably conflicted about relaxing with you as she liked your company and thought of you as her friend, didn't want to give you false signals she wasn't sure she could commit to, but also had an underlying insecurity that you wouldn't want to be friends anymore if she broke the ice and rejected you.
 

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Yeah, it was my friends girlfriend. I didn't like her sexually but I got along with her very well, but she was in a loop: My friend joe was quite social, well-liked guy, he had a decent amount of friends. Anyways, we all hung out pretty much weekly as we lived right beside each other, joe would usually sleep at 1am , me and her would talk for a few hours. Kiera was the in-depth one, joe didn't like big discussions. ENTP above was also in this concoction, both the ENTP and INFJ spent hours evaluating me, it was kinda weird. AHH. y'know I'll leave it there. Long story.

But basically, when I got close to her I could sense she felt I was trying to get into her. It was quite paradoxical: She was always insistently friendly one day and then not the other. She kept saying she had no friends and that I was just joe's friend even when I tried with both of them, even in the face of rejection from her. The friendship was quite jarring really: they got into arguments a lot, and if I tried to console her she'd see it as a move to get into her. I don't even know how to explain, but if we were two sides of the coin, one being friendly and the other being standoffish, the universe demanded that there had to be a balance/duality: If I was friendly, she was standoffish, and if I was standoffish not to invoke the feeling from her she would persist.

Lovely girl very intelligent she obviously had a lot going on her plate but I wish it was simplified.

Ah, I understand. She was probably conflicted about relaxing with you as she liked your company and thought of you as her friend, didn't want to give you false signals she wasn't sure she could commit to, but also had an underlying insecurity that you wouldn't want to be friends anymore if she broke the ice and rejected you.
Unfortunately it wasn't that simple, we'd been friends flat out for a year. I rarely messaged her on Facebook or anything we'd just talk in person, all 3 of us would be sitting in the room, either me and Joe playing games or Joe playing and me and kiera watching videos.

It just persisted for a long time and it wasn't just me, she felt other people were trying to hit on her too. She wasn't vain or anything acting like everyone was attracted to her it was just habitual, I guess she must've got hit on a lot when she was young and it just stuck with her, she didn't detach the straight male from being a friend. Maybe it was the SSRIs or alcohol/weed for her. Anyways, it's a weird feeling to emotionally invest in someone that isn't consistent in their reciprocity, always feeling on edge as you're constantly evaluated, and we are not ourselves when we feel watched.

Was supposed to go to her birthday recently but had to call it off unfortunately, still friendly with each other but it'd be nice not to have to look over my shoulder. The projection was too strong, or maybe my perception was too intense. Do you ever get those people that are on level with your perception? You can see how people piece things together and loop based on your analysis, it's all quite crazy, endlessly recursive.

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It felt like a new type of rejection, one that I hadn't experienced before. It's probably why it's stuck with me.

It wasn't rejection of advances, or a rejection of a friendship, it was a rejection of allowing me to become close to her.

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It just persisted for a long time and it wasn't just me, she felt other people were trying to hit on her too. She wasn't vain or anything acting like everyone was attracted to her it was just habitual, I guess she must've got hit on a lot when she was young and it just stuck with her, she didn't detach the straight male from being a friend. Maybe it was the SSRIs or alcohol/weed for her. Anyways, it's a weird feeling to emotionally invest in someone that isn't consistently in their reciprocity, always feeling on edge as you're constantly evaluated, and we are not ourselves when we feel watched.

I know someone like this. They were very self-destructive with their decisions, especially about relationships. Very chaotic home-life growing up.

Sometimes I'd see them, it's like we're family. Other-times, I'd just be "there." I think she has borderline. Maybe ask for @peoplesuck's opinion, since he mentioned he had experience with individuals who've have this condition.

Do you ever get those people that are on level with your perception? You can see how people piece things together and loop based on your analysis, it's all quite crazy, endlessly recursive.

There are several different ways I'm interpreting this. Anyway you could be more concise?

it was a rejection of allowing me to become close to her.

Probably a fear of intimacy. It's good that you're able to acknowledge what is your doing versus her behavior. Lot of people antagonize over what they could be doing wrong, which is rarely the problem.
 

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Since you didnt ask for my advice, and it wasnt very insightful, I just decided to delete it.
 

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I kinda want to meet more INTJs to update my model of the personaltiy type, it's not the best.

It's not uncommon for INTJs to develop a magic system or way of looking at the world. In there mind everything fits. To others, they seem to know things uncommon to normal folk. I once explained how a space UFO could work to someone here and they were curious how I did it. It is, in fact, to do with the unconscious. Ideas just pop up in me. And also it is the ease and clarity of my ideas as they come that define the INTJ. The world is a puzzle and I am a wizard. I know of far off lands and journey to gain knowledge. Worldbuilding is a very import skill an INTJ has.

I am not trying to convince anyone I am INTJ.
I understand I look like a candy rainbow vortex.
I just so happen to best describe in my ability how the archetype is structured.
 

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Do you ever get those people that are on level with your perception? You can see how people piece things together and loop based on your analysis, it's all quite crazy, endlessly recursive.

There are several different ways I'm interpreting this. Anyway you could be more concise?

Yeah I'll re-explain that.

Typically speaking in a conversation there are people that over-analyze the situation and others that don't. I pick up on how others analyze the situation, via phrasing, announciation and body language. This usually brings me to a simple understanding.

This becomes different when the person you're analyzing is aware that you're observing them. As you see them analyzing you, you have to analyze your behaviour through the lens of them. I become aware they're analyzing me to this degree, and they're aware that I'm aware of them.

Usually what happens when you analyze a situation results in this model:

Observer -> Situation (People's behaviour) -> Observer's understanding (Observer's exhibited behaviour).

What actually happens with people that you encounter someone in a similar perceptual boundary:

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The recursive stage from 5-6, 6-5 changes the subject from analyzing a person's behaviour to analyzing a person's analysis. It's like you're getting integrated into the other person's mind. My mind has been invaded, yo.
 

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Ah, flow chart was very helpful!

I have to say, I don’t experience enough to have categorized it as you have. Most of the time I can see when someone else is analyzing me, but my face, body and eyes are so controlled that their analyzing turns into searching. My body language and facial expressions don't easily sync up with what I'm thinking or feeling. It's not on purpose, but it's made me get anxoious or irritated when someone tries to make an assumption about what I think of feel based on what they think they're reading from me.

I'm also not normally in social settings/engagements where people would have a reason to read into me. The rare times I am, I don't give them much to work with. I hate it when people are trying to figure something out, instead of just taking my words and vibe at face-value. I don't feel compelled to change my behavior or language for anyone.

The rare times I have had your described phenomenon happen, it's made me feel less connected with a person. It's usually been barbed with an awkward competitiveness were we're trying to figure out how competitive the other one is, see each other doing the same, and then trying to figure out if that means that they're sizing us up, unsure, or a combination of both.

There have been a few times where someone I've closely interacted with voiced something that I projected, and if it's in the right context, I fell as though I've been slapped. I hadn't know I'd projected that, and suddenly a weird dynamic in our communication will become clear to me. It makes me get very distraught sometimes, but it's what I need to be clarified because I don't naturally project what I think and want.

Idk. I'm weird with people.
 
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