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I am an xNTp looking to feed my debating addiction hopefully on these forums. People here seem to be open to discussing anything and I like the freedom of speech culture I see here.

Anyways I am one of the enneagram 3 types...For the longest time I thought I was an introvert until I started to live alone at which point I have been slowly deteriorating into madness. (albeit finishing up my engineering degree). To be honest I don't think I will ever know if I am an introvert or extrovert, but I do know that I lead with Ne as a kid. I was crazy, teachers called me a natural leader and said I should be a lawyer. (which for awhile made me think I was ENTJ). But I was far too wacky...I would make up crazy games and get my classmates to play along.

I was an extrovert forced into my Ti head by parents and peers around the age of 12-18. Now I have just turned 22 and things are looking up but there is one more piece of the puzzle missing...

Is there any way to reconcile the absolute boredom that comes with small talk? I kinda enjoy talking to myself in my head more than the average person. So maybe INTP is a better label for me even though people I like do energize me. Everyone else is SO BORING. In fact it feels like socializing with new people is something that I procrastinate on. I know I need to do it but that initial getting to know people is like a wall that I have to climb and am too (unknown adjective) to get over it. This here makes me think I am INTP because I think most ENTP would just socialize anyways(?) Maybe you guys know the adjective I'm looking for to describe my situation? Is it merely introversion?

I resort to just making jokes out of everything and then people either think I don't take them seriously or they think I'm a jerk. Or if I'm not in the mood I just put on the ESTP mask...it kinda sucks tbh.

Maybe some fellow NTP can sort me out? Either way, nice to meet you all, I look forward to quoting people, lots of ftfy, and tl:dr

 

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I am an xNTp looking to feed my debating addiction

Yeah, I think it's safe to dub thee ENTP at this point. (For the record, ENTP =/= doesn't belong on intpf. Otherwise I wouldn't be here. )

Is there any way to reconcile the absolute boredom that comes with small talk?

No. Just avoid it and drill them with substance. Eventually you'll form relationships based purely on information: asking and answering questions. After that emotion can truly come out.

In fact it feels like socializing with new people is something that I procrastinate on. I know I need to do it but that initial getting to know people is like a wall that I have to climb and am too (unknown adjective) to get over it. This here makes me think I am INTP because I think most ENTP would just socialize anyways(?) Maybe you guys know the adjective I'm looking for to describe my situation? Is it merely introversion?

Social introversion =/= cognitive introversion.

The comprehensive thread to read: http://www.intpforum.com/showthread.php?t=17128