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Blake Belladonna
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This is not a coherent structure.
Please don't assume I am making anything definitive until I get to the concluding paragraph(s).
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If I were to put my finger on it I would say that the difference between guys and girls is the male power fantasy where girls it's having acceptance.
When you look at the stereo typically toys or activities for boys it is about control or something to the effect of having power over something.
Girl activities with toys are supposed to be taken care of not broken, kept clean and organized.
This made me wonder about what it is that the difference is when we look at feminine qualities that men can't have them or that they express in different ways.
Strengths and weaknesses come to mind.
Particularly physical emotional mental and psychological.
I mean that if you can do whatever you want and relying on not others you are considered strong and independent. But in the case of dependence it's easier to think of woman as needing this and not men. Men need intelligence, men need muscle, men don't need emotions. That's why they can take care of women who are seen as the opposite. Men without those traits especially physically strong to do work and fight would not be typically seen as able to raise a family.
So a power fantasy exists.
And females are seemingly drawn to that.
When you don't need to do heavy jobs at least not working in the type that requires the most stressful things. And you are with your mother early on as a child. Girls get trained to understand emotions boys not much. This requires observation of people and not physically activities of action oriented get things done type things. Girls think more about what people are thinking emotionally and not what objects are for mostly.
This gets at the heart of it.
Girls like girls things because of the warm fuzzies. Some don't like warm fuzzies but it's because they are powerful and don't need it often.
And guys that like warm fuzzies are picked on.
So there is an asymmetric expectation.
That empathy is more understandable by girls.
Which it is because they spend more time on it.
And guys spend more time on manipulation of objects.
The intuitive sense then of people,
The warm fuzzies is from childhood.
Yet it can also be said women are designed for it because of pregnancy and a baby can die without emotion intuition. Men can die from being physically weak because of other men.
The perspective I have is that I really like warm fuzzy things but I am not weaker that anyone else. I had emotional problems a long time. That there is a real difference between feminine and masculine has me thinking about myself in odd ways. I cannot relate to most people but I do have empathy to understand them.
Intuition is strange.
Self awareness doesn't always lead to empathy. People have looks behind what they think but it's not always true what they are thinking. There's a disconnect. And usually it's not about some kind of prediction of what they will do but about how they feel. Most men go into the prediction part and that's why they can't relate to others in the way to help them. It's all about a transactional relationship.
Nothing I say really is concrete I just may have explained it wrong. The point is that the majority of men and women think as men and women typically do think. Not many can do so in between. And this leads to confusion between them. Women that are typical get hung up on rationality and only focus on the emotion side, that's the bad part. Men can't understand why women don't want to get things done.
This realization told me why certain people act as they do in my life. Other factors may be at play but I did not know how to explain them yet so I wrote what I did here. I had to think about it.
Please don't assume I am making anything definitive until I get to the concluding paragraph(s).
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If I were to put my finger on it I would say that the difference between guys and girls is the male power fantasy where girls it's having acceptance.
When you look at the stereo typically toys or activities for boys it is about control or something to the effect of having power over something.
Girl activities with toys are supposed to be taken care of not broken, kept clean and organized.
This made me wonder about what it is that the difference is when we look at feminine qualities that men can't have them or that they express in different ways.
Strengths and weaknesses come to mind.
Particularly physical emotional mental and psychological.
I mean that if you can do whatever you want and relying on not others you are considered strong and independent. But in the case of dependence it's easier to think of woman as needing this and not men. Men need intelligence, men need muscle, men don't need emotions. That's why they can take care of women who are seen as the opposite. Men without those traits especially physically strong to do work and fight would not be typically seen as able to raise a family.
So a power fantasy exists.
And females are seemingly drawn to that.
When you don't need to do heavy jobs at least not working in the type that requires the most stressful things. And you are with your mother early on as a child. Girls get trained to understand emotions boys not much. This requires observation of people and not physically activities of action oriented get things done type things. Girls think more about what people are thinking emotionally and not what objects are for mostly.
This gets at the heart of it.
Girls like girls things because of the warm fuzzies. Some don't like warm fuzzies but it's because they are powerful and don't need it often.
And guys that like warm fuzzies are picked on.
So there is an asymmetric expectation.
That empathy is more understandable by girls.
Which it is because they spend more time on it.
And guys spend more time on manipulation of objects.
The intuitive sense then of people,
The warm fuzzies is from childhood.
Yet it can also be said women are designed for it because of pregnancy and a baby can die without emotion intuition. Men can die from being physically weak because of other men.
The perspective I have is that I really like warm fuzzy things but I am not weaker that anyone else. I had emotional problems a long time. That there is a real difference between feminine and masculine has me thinking about myself in odd ways. I cannot relate to most people but I do have empathy to understand them.
Intuition is strange.
Self awareness doesn't always lead to empathy. People have looks behind what they think but it's not always true what they are thinking. There's a disconnect. And usually it's not about some kind of prediction of what they will do but about how they feel. Most men go into the prediction part and that's why they can't relate to others in the way to help them. It's all about a transactional relationship.
Nothing I say really is concrete I just may have explained it wrong. The point is that the majority of men and women think as men and women typically do think. Not many can do so in between. And this leads to confusion between them. Women that are typical get hung up on rationality and only focus on the emotion side, that's the bad part. Men can't understand why women don't want to get things done.
This realization told me why certain people act as they do in my life. Other factors may be at play but I did not know how to explain them yet so I wrote what I did here. I had to think about it.
