Confessing your love for someone as an INTP

[CoryJames]

I stand corrected. There are too many damn kids running around dropping premature L bombs these days. Hard to keep track of who's who.

 

[Jesse]

I thought that was obvious. Unfortunately I got no help. I don't often have girls (or guys for that matter) confessing their love for me or the other way round.

 

[CoryJames]

I love you flailingtubemanwithgunrobotterrorist.

 

[CoryJames]

Okay I seriously need to get rid of the quote in my sig if I am to continue with all these discussions on love, it makes me feel like a bit of a fake. I just found it VERY funny when I first read it, and I wouldn't want to hurt Jared's feelings. What to do, what to do.

 

[Magnetosphere]

Unfortunately, although there are guys like this in abundance, I don't care for this type.

Any girl who could care for that "that type" is a girl I wouldn't want to be anywhere near.

 

[EyeSeeCold]

You don't want a girl that likes sex and sandwiches? I feel sorry for your taste in women.

 

[Dimensional Transition]

Haha, but sadly we won't stand a chance for those kind of women.
I wouldn't want a type of girl like that though, I think... Would get boring really fast.

 

[gephura]

Any girl who could care for that "that type" is a girl I wouldn't want to be anywhere near.

That immediately drastically limits your choice. But earns appreciation from me

 

[kantor1003]

whats wrong with beer, sandwiches and sex?
Besides, I don't think you'll find many people, male or female, where this is everything they are after. Most people want something more.. like drugs n stuff. But if it's all they are after, then just do those things with them if you fancy, and find someone else to fulfill whatever desire is left after 10 beers, two sandwiches and three hours of sex:P

 

[RobertJ]

So much of what is being said here seems systematic and confrontational. I find it sickening, actually.

 

[Demonic Flamigo]

I just texted her. I never bothered to verbalise something that we always have acknowledged; we always knew, it was sort of pointless to officially declare it. Sometime we may whisper it to each other in exclamation of surprise or joy but it's really not that hard. Well...coming from an intp at least.

 

[baccheion]

In a really lame way, but not bad enough that it was repulsive. I'd probably be better at now, as the last time I professed love was in high school (15+ years ago).

 

[ChainsofAssery]

Old ass thread. It depends on the dynamics of the relationship. If I'm not in a relationship with the person I'm in love with, and most likely will not be able to go into one with him, then I will avoid him like the plague and let my love fester inside me until it manifests into mental illness.

If I am in a relationship with the person, then generally I'll just wait until he says it and reciprocate.

 

[aiyanah]

I know most of us are no real Casanovas, but how do you guys do this? It's a real cliché concept, but almost all of us have to do it sometime... It's so scary. Finding the right moment, finding out how to bring it... oh boy.

you just do it.
iunno how else to explain it to ya lol

basically, if you're an intp, you'll be tuned in to the metaphysics at some level, so you'll know when you should just do it.
and when that moment comes you'll realise it wasn't all that terrifying.

 

[birdsnestfern]

Sneak your arms around someone from behind and then hold their hand and lead them to sit down and kiss. Or write secret admirer notes and make them wonder for a week then ask if they’d like to drive somewhere with you like National park or a theme park or a midnight sushi bar or something fun.

Or ask if they’d like to go on a bike ride in a park and bring a picnic. Or pick them up in a hired limo and tell the driver to take you to a theme park. Something a little different but extravagant. Or go hiking and maybe suggest poker strip hiking. Make it fun and a little hand holding and hugging if they are receptive to it.

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[Puffy]

I'd say don't profess love to them until you're actually dating and have been dating for a while.

If it's an infatuation, just say you like them and would like to go on a date. If they like you as well, they'll probably say yes and if they say no you can go cry in a corner "WHY WHY" and then move on.

 

[birdsnestfern]

But the first few dates should be very romantic and thrilling because getting someone’s heart pumping like on a rollercoaster or white water raft ride or fast driving is what many say what causes you to fall in love quickly. So plan something really thrilling at least on first few dates if you really like them. This will make the date unforgettable.

 

[Puffy]

But the first few dates should be very romantic and thrilling because getting someone’s heart pumping like on a rollercoaster or white water raft ride or fast driving is what many say what causes you to fall in love quickly. So plan something really thrilling at least on first few dates if you really like them. This will make the date unforgettable.

Noted, thanks for the suggestion.

 

[Puffy]

Imago'headan delete this quote so that people don't have links to the bad place.
~ Hado

I think you need to work on your technique when asking someone out.

 

[Myself]

Here is the thing: you make it as uncomfortable, hearthfelt and scary for yourself as you possible can -- not intentionally but because you cannot hold it back anymore... and you don't try to be "smooth" or try to fake anything because believe me you do not want to ever start a relationship faking things.

... and then she'll either reciprocate with what she feels for you or she won't. That is the event horizon you can't see beyond and you'll have to wait and see.

She will always respect your for following through on what you believe in and so should respect you regardless of the result. That I'm sure of. So you have nothing to lose and all to gain.