The middle of three sons. Elder brother is INTJ, younger is ENFP (him having borderline personality makes him a bit hard to type, though).
For more info to help with any claims about birth order and progress:
My older brother was a nerd, most his life. Not very social, but he had his friends and did well with the ladies. Got a chick pregnant at 17, surrendered custody, then went into depression and then meth addict. He is now a good 8 years sober and starting to really get his life together and a series of botched relationships. Avid atheist.
My younger brother. Always a problem child. He'd always look for some way to get into trouble and find adventure. Very social. He had a pregnancy when he was 17. Baby was born ,turned out to be a 0% chance it was his. That wrecked him and he became more of a drug addict, and a raver. Several years later and he's still battling an opiate addiction.
I was the "good son". Always cautious, nerdy. I never did well in school, and I kept to myself, but made friends easily. No pregnancy scare. Kept the same religion as my parents. Only son to complete one semester of full time college. Only son to get AA. My depression hit me at 23. I also deal with addictive behaviors. Dropped out of college.
It seems like parenting might be more of a marker for success. Then again none of my brothers or I have gotten out of our 20's. So it's probably too early to tell.
Yes:There is a general theory about birth order + the sex of your siblings, if you have any. There is also much opportunity for research I've not seen done. For example, is the inclination to hetero/homosexuality related at all?
EyeSeeCold said:Order relative to mother or father?
What matters according to personality formation is your arrangement for your formative years ... which would be age 0 to 5. After that it's just history. The OP is not clear.
True. It assumes what one is most experienced with is the easiest to do. Doesn't HAVE to be that way though. One could be very experienced at driving a car or packing groceries and it wouldn't be energizing.But that assumes that what you have always been used to is always energizing...
Birth order sibling theory? Answer: Your order relation and your sibling's sex (combined) is what you will discover most energizing. Anything else you will find difficult or draining. You will have to stretch yourself to overcome this.
For example if you are male and 2nd of two brothers, you will be familiar with males and get along well with them. Females will be more difficult for you. You will find it easy to relate to more dominant males and won't try to directly compete with them. Check this out with yourself. Check it out with anyone. It's not a hard and fast rule because you could have experienced a mother and father and perhaps other peers when you were age 0-5.
Well the average family size is 2 children - so of course most are either oldest or youngest!
Alfred Adler was a major force in promulgating the theory of birth order as an influence on personality. I think he was the one who said youngest children were lazy and spoiled. As the youngest of three, I can vouch for that.
Now days, yes. Back when I was born almost every family had 3 or more. Four, five, and six was quite common, even 10 and 11 was still common enough (so in their 40's now). When I grew up "an only" was a very rare thing, considered an oddity.
I purposely had more than two children because so many of the families I'd known had lost one. I didn't want to saddle someone with (suddenly) being an only. It's quite lonely.
Of course, there is no guarantee siblings will like each other.