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Thank you for your response, that is correct. Sizing the effect of something is very different depending on the person. This message was better to hear than the previous one. I am open to criticism in general and that is why I posted, because I don't want to do anything out of proportion.

Ow, that was not easy for me to hear. I understand rationalizing and can see myself doing that, but cognitive dissonance: could you elaborate on that a bit? I myself might be in this loop, and being emotional. This is too complex for me to think about now, but I will get around the idea. Thank...

Pretty sure, kind of like a half assed attempt - perhaps mildly. I didn't answer to see how he would react, and then he called again and said: "trying to make sure you're doing good". Honestly, I am pretty precise in my language and do not understand emotions manifesting in conversations to...

My 2 cents, from reading your post only: (think of it as a general reflection, perhaps you could find something in it that could be helpful) I think you should be glad for the broadness of experience, it is a good thing to get that much exposure and insights into people and into yourself...

In my culture, people generally make excuses for those who "offend" them, in some sort of special way (like minor offenses or they meant well). I have cut it with my father for about 3-4 years. Then we reconnected again, although we kind of agreed that we will move on from happened before (the...

No one said that different parts of the brain have the same goals, I'm talking on a higher level of abstraction. U just stated what I said differently, "collective neural network" implies all the properties u mentioned. A person's mind is consciously controlled by thoughts, the internet...

The internet can be viewed as a collective neural network enabling nodes to interact according to rules set for them. In order for this to work like "one mind", then I guess there has to be a defined purpose for all the people surfing, which will never be true since people want different things...

Very practical advice, unfortunately I realized this after graduating from college a little while ago. Definitely Mr. Know it all is undesirable to most people. :D

Let me explain. As you probably know the human psyche is very complex and people react differently to different stimuli. From experience, I have tried to attain deep relations with people, they were my friends of course at that time. Maybe my definition of deep is different than yours but is...

Very true, from my limited experience I do think that 3/4 is the magic number. Dyads rarely last (up until now at least). :D Thanks, it's always encouraging to hear that. In addition, we do not have the luxury of time in life to fear rejections. Fear is a waste of time, and is limiting...

It really is, but next to the difficulty in explaining something that deep is the challenge associated with language as a tool to transmit information as precisely as possible so that the other person can give an accurate evaluation in return, as you just did :D Well put, but the extra...

Good point, some people did not choose there lives. Looking for such people requires one to step aside from all appearances and superficiality and put him/herself in another person's perspective and feel how it is like to be that individual. Such friendships if found, would be priceless! To...

Life is very complex, the meaning of life is an integral part of each individual's perspective. This fact, makes it almost impossible to attain an objective meaning to life. Thus a smart strategy is to make assumptions that will maximize one's living experience! It definitely is the most...

Very true, one has to maintain balance in his/her preference to feel content. It is a natural tendency to be dragged out of the sensory world as an intuitive. I found that the main problem is that one looses touch with reality, and that was the primary drive for me to take conscious control of...

There are people with exactly the same passion you have. They like to collect information about a wide variety of things. Those people would be interested in exchanging different kinds of information. It's definitely not a lack of motivation, and has nothing to do with it.

I like how you look at it, strategic placement! Sounds like an excellent strategy, but I hate it when some people interact with you while they have implicit-biased assumption about you that you can see. For example: I ask a co-worker about something at work. He says, "Are you still having...

Excellent idea, and is definitely worth thinking about. Hanging out with people who have similar interests is a win/win situation because you feel that every minute is an investment and not a waste. It is also a great idea for me to develop some passion about something!

And, even if you aren't saying it out loud, you are subconsciously creating a biased view of this person and this consciously makes you more aware of their flaws which will most likely cripple or destroy the potential of the relationship. Very true, thank you!

"Another thing: are you sure you are an introvert? Or perhaps just a shy extravert?" "Shyness and Introversion [how they do not necessitate each other or imply each other]." I am well aware that shyness and introversion are not related, and I am also sure that I am not shy. However, from...

I like self-smart people, especially people who have the ability to fool themselves. People will judge them as unrealistic, I judge them as flexible people. Thanks for the advice my friend!

Sounds like a great idea, but the problem is that there is a limit to how much your extraverted friends can offer in terms of introducing you to people in their community. You have to appear as powerful and have as many friends, or make them think that at least, so the relationship can be...

That is an excellent idea, and does not require people. Do you mean like subconsciously visualizing yourself having more friends?

Do you have a suggestion on how to make more friends? One of the problems with having few friends is that of stability problems. I tend to be very critical of people and judge according to high standards, which makes it difficult for most people to meet my criteria. I have a few friends, deeper...

Thank you for your reply, you have highlighted two important points and they are: 1. The mental exhaustion associated with such change 2. It is wiser to build on strengths Do you have a suggestion on how to make more friends? One of the problems with having few friends is that of...

Can someone change his/her preference? :confused: I am intuitive by nature, and approach life theoretically by reading and reading. More knowledge is more power, but I am beginning to feel that this knowledge is useless unless practically applied. I have recently (first time 6 years ago)...

Some country in Middle east region, in my opinion is experiencing a strange social phenomenon over the past decade: I am referring to the highest social class in the country, those people are the richest and go to the most expensive places. For reasons that I am not well aware of, a lot of...

I think you are right, unfortunately the world has to be that way. There has to be a dominant type and they are the extraverts! I would love to see a society which is mature enough to encourage both types, and the worst message that is being sent day by day is that it is not okay to be you...

Get him out of his context and talk with him, that is the only way of knowing what he truly is. He can be a dead fish floating with the current, or a smart guy putting an act with some purpose in mind. Can't remember any personal stories, but I think INTP's are very independent by nature and...

Instead of a warm welcome to the community, that is what i get :D I agree that making rules could be an INTJ control trait, but giving a judgment on the onset of a discussion is the more genuine (INTJ) - control trait. Not all INTP's are misunderstood, because I believe that some of them have...

I think the major problems that faces INTP’s on a social and personal level is due to their nature, “our nature!” Let me explain: Let’s assume that life is a game and that there are two kinds of people in it. Natural players vs. non-natural players. I guess that people who belong to the first...