UCLA loneliness scale.

[Prion]

This quiz is simple and short. It's meant to gauge your level of loneliness, and determines if it's normal or not.

http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/loneliness.htm

 

[Prion]

I scored a 37: extreme loneliness.

"You answered this quiz consistent with people who are suffering from extreme and severe loneliness.

A certain amount of loneliness is a normal part of most people's lives. But when your feelings of loneliness can become a bit overwhelming or more serious than usual -- like now -- it may be a sign that something isn't quite balanced in your life."

 

[Jennywocky]

I got a 31. Marginally "extremely lonely."

Overall I'm okay, there's some peace and calmness in solitude.
But I hate feeling like I have no options.
Virtual contact fills some gaps but not nearly all.


EDIT: For scaling reference, from the results page:

Most college students, nurses and school teachers score between a 19 and 20. Surprisingly, most older adults score lower than you might have expected -- a 16.

 

[peoplesuck]

Normal Loneliness

You answered this quiz consistent with people who are having a normal experience of loneliness. This is usually not something to be concerned about, as everyone can feel a little lonely from time to time.

It can become a problem, however, if these feelings are long-lasting and don't seem to get better on their own, even when you're with others, friends or family

honestly dont feel alone enough!

 

[QuickTwist]

Results of
The Loneliness Quiz
You scored a total of 25


Moderate Loneliness

You answered this quiz consistent with people who are suffering from moderate loneliness.

A certain amount of loneliness is a normal part of most people's lives. But when your feelings of loneliness can become a bit overwhelming or more serious than usual -- like now -- it may be a sign that something isn't quite balanced in your life.

You may find that you could benefit by trying to reach out to others in your life -- right now. A close friend or family member whom you trust and talk to can go a long way in helping to relieve feelings of loneliness in many people.

I have felt lonely my whole life. Loneliness is a part of my life. Better to accept it and move on. There have been times in my life I have been so lonely I cried; mostly when I was younger. Pretty soon that deep loneliness turns to such pain that it becomes an uncontrollable outburst of emotion. Then acceptance of this fact comes. Like I said, just accept that loneliness is a part of your life and move on. Pretty soon you won't even notice it.

A Few Effects of Loneliness

People can be depressed and not lonely and lonely but not depressed. Loneliness, like other stresses on the brain, results in impaired concentration and performance.When people are lonely they react more intensely to the negatives experienced in life and experience less of an uplift from the positives. Chronic loneliness can lead to depression, premature aging, and health problems.

Loneliness is a serious, difficult experience.

Relief from loneliness requires the cooperation of at least one other person and the longer someone is lonely the less able they are to get that cooperation. Thus the frustration may lead to diminished personal control and a desire to escape the emotional pain with food, drink, unwise sexual encounters, avoidance, or accepting relationships that aren’t healthy. (This is never going to happen for me.)

 

[Ex-User (9062)]

33

 

[Ex-User (9086)]

29.

it may be a sign that something isn't quite balanced in your life.

Don't tell me I am not balanced...I am going to balance you...test

You may find that you could benefit by trying to reach out to others in your life -- right now. A close friend or family member whom you trust and talk to can go a long way in helping to relieve feelings of loneliness in many people.

Loneliness isn't the cause. Bad temporary solution.

 

[Pyropyro]

22 - Moderate Loneliness

 

[Grayman]

20 - I think this test is dependent on when I take it.

A few weeks ago and the results would have been really high, a few months ago and the results would have been 16 maybe 14.

 

[Polaris]

You scored a total of 20

Normal Loneliness
You answered this quiz consistent with people who are having a normal experience of loneliness. This is usually not something to be concerned about, as everyone can feel a little lonely from time to time.

It can become a problem, however, if these feelings are long-lasting and don't seem to get better on their own, even when you're with others, friends or family.

~~~

I'm quite happy in my own company, as well as occasionally with a few chosen others. I probably notice a 'need' to catch up with friends every few months or so, but mostly because I don't want to get stuck in my own head too much.

Edit: I should elaborate on this. Sometimes I have a sense of disconnect, even though I am in the company of people who care for me. It is a strange space to be in. One part of me is appreciative of their company, while the other part whispers existentialist mantras in my ear. As a child I felt largely disconnected to humans while having a strong connection with nature and animals.

As I have grown older I have come to understand humans, so now I can appreciate their company more.

I am lucky to have several friends who are very devoted and also respectful and understanding of the fact that I seem to have an emotional distance.

However, sometimes old Zappfe gets to me...

 

[TimeAsylums]

people on the internet take loneliness quiz

click here to find our their results

...

they're lonely

 

[QuickTwist]

http://youtu.be/DnGdoEa1tPg

 

[paradoxparadigm7]

You scored a total of 20

Normal Loneliness
You answered this quiz consistent with people who are having a normal experience of loneliness. This is usually not something to be concerned about, as everyone can feel a little lonely from time to time.

It can become a problem, however, if these feelings are long-lasting and don't seem to get better on their own, even when you're with others, friends or family.

~~~

I'm quite happy in my own company, as well as occasionally with a few chosen others. I probably notice a 'need' to catch up with friends every few months or so, but mostly because I don't want to get stuck in my own head too much.

Edit: I should elaborate on this. Sometimes I have a sense of disconnect, even though I am in the company of people who care for me. It is a strange space to be in. One part of me is appreciative of their company, while the other part whispers existentialist mantras in my ear. As a child I felt largely disconnected to humans while having a strong connection with nature and animals.

As I have grown older I have come to understand humans, so now I can appreciate their company more.

I am lucky to have several friends who are very devoted and also respectful and understanding of the fact that I seem to have an emotional distance.

However, sometimes old Zappfe gets to me...

I read something and thought of your existentialist loneliness...
"To love is to be lonely. Every love is broken by illness, separation, or death. The exquisite nature of love, the unique quality or dimension in its highest peak, is threatened by change and termination, and by the fact that the loved one does not always feel or know or understand. In the absence of the loved one, in solitude and loneliness a new self emerges, in solitary thought. The loneliness quickens love and brings to it new perception and sensitivities, and new experience of mutual depth and beauty." Moustakas, 1961

More...It is the acute awareness of one's isolation and finiteness as a living entity that motivates intensely intimate contact. The ability to be alone is a crucial precondition tot he ability to love. It is not loneliness that separates the person from others but the terror of loneliness and the constant efforts to escape it. We must learn to care for our own loneliness and suffering and the loneliness and suffering of others, for within pain and isolation and loneliness one can find courage and hope and what is brave and lovely and true in life. Serving loneliness is a way to self-identity and to love and faith in the wonder of living.

At it's very essence, existential loneliness is inherently paradoxical

Strange as it may seem, the individual in being lonely, if let be, will realize himself in loneliness and create a bond or sense of fundamental relatedness with others. Loneliness, rather than separating the individual or causing a break or division of self, expands the individual's wholeness, perceptiveness, sensitivity and humanity.

 

[Evolutionmine16]

38- Extreme Loneliness

I would count myself as lonely, but I try not to have a problem with it. I think that having a "this is just how it is" mentality when it comes to loneliness has helped me deal with it in some ways. For example, I don't try to be something I'm not. I'm not a social person. I just don't understand if I'm not a social person because of the fact that I experience this loneliness, or if I'm lonely because I'm not a social person.


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[TBerg]

Evolutionmine16,

I have had some pretty dark periods in my life, too. Please just remember that there is always more to learn and do and experience, that you deserve to have some of your deeper desires fulfilled, and that others deserve your attention as well. Try to have some special meditative alone time to try to figure out how to bring your self into at least simple relations with others, and then try to dedicate some special time to relating to others as well. Or is there just no part of you that desires any connection to others?

 

[Evolutionmine16]

Evolutionmine16,

I have had some pretty dark periods in my life, too. Please just remember that there is always more to learn and do and experience, that you deserve to have some of your deeper desires fulfilled, and that others deserve your attention as well. Try to have some special meditative alone time to try to figure out how to bring your self into at least simple relations with others, and then try to dedicate some special time to relating to others as well. Or is there just no part of you that desires any connection to others?

I think that everybody has a desire to connect with others, and it is not different for me. I just have an issue with recognizing what is actual human connection and what is just fake human connection (the other person is just trying to talk to me because they feel some kind of pity). That is my primary problem. I want to have connection with others, but I don't know if it's real or not.



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[TBerg]

I think that everybody has a desire to connect with others, and it is not different for me. I just have an issue with recognizing what is actual human connection and what is just fake human connection (the other person is just trying to talk to me because they feel some kind of pity). That is my primary problem. I want to have connection with others, but I don't know if it's real or not.

What makes you think that others are being fake and you are not? Could you go through more possibilities than simply assuming the alienating reasons for people's behavior, yours and ours? Everyone ultimately does many things for many reasons. I don't think you can call something real or unreal simply based upon a variety of impressions. Everything is ultimately a perception. What matters is our ability to makes sense of them, thereby creating useful meaning.

 

[EyeSeeCold]

I think that everybody has a desire to connect with others, and it is not different for me. I just have an issue with recognizing what is actual human connection and what is just fake human connection (the other person is just trying to talk to me because they feel some kind of pity). That is my primary problem. I want to have connection with others, but I don't know if it's real or not.

Beware self-fulfilling prophecy. Just give people the benefit of the doubt as long as your safety isn't at stake. Otherwise you may give off signals that the other person interprets negatively, which reinforce your suspicions/doubts when you notice it.

 

[Polaris]

I read something and thought of your existentialist loneliness...
"To love is to be lonely. Every love is broken by illness, separation, or death. The exquisite nature of love, the unique quality or dimension in its highest peak, is threatened by change and termination, and by the fact that the loved one does not always feel or know or understand. In the absence of the loved one, in solitude and loneliness a new self emerges, in solitary thought. The loneliness quickens love and brings to it new perception and sensitivities, and new experience of mutual depth and beauty." Moustakas, 1961

For many years I did not know or understand love. So I never felt lonely. Long story....

More...It is the acute awareness of one's isolation and finiteness as a living entity that motivates intensely intimate contact. The ability to be alone is a crucial precondition tot he ability to love. It is not loneliness that separates the person from others but the terror of loneliness and the constant efforts to escape it. We must learn to care for our own loneliness and suffering and the loneliness and suffering of others, for within pain and isolation and loneliness one can find courage and hope and what is brave and lovely and true in life. Serving loneliness is a way to self-identity and to love and faith in the wonder of living.

At it's very essence, existential loneliness is inherently paradoxical

The sense of existential loneliness I am describing (poorly -- sorry, my bad) is more the sense that any connection is pointless. As a child I would sit near the window and watch the beautiful afternoon light and sunset -- and I would be overcome with this paralysing sense of alienation. Everything seemed foreign and grotesquely ironic in it's pompous display -- it was like the universe was shoving death down my throat by flaunting the obscene beauty of this world and overwhelming my senses with something I could not fathom. I saw the pointlessness of existence as a very young child -- and the feeling never really left me, although my rational side knows what I should be doing. But what I saw cannot be unseen. I often regret that I had to experience this, but something tells me my life may have been a lot poorer had I not experienced it. I guess I will never know, and meanwhile I will have to convince myself that it was indeed for the better....and just try to live my life as if it matters.

So, in my dealings with people I have always had this under-current, cutting away at the foundations of what could become something.

I don't know if this seems strange but I have never sought not to be lonely. In fact, I've done everything to avoid people, including friends. I should explain....my sense of disconnect from people is not something that really bothers me. It used to bother me when I was younger because I thought I was abnormal for not wanting to be around people, or being able to relate to them. For a good while I thought I was insane as I could not get the sense of joy that others seemed to have around people -- all I wanted was to escape so I could go back to my books and pondering. People bothered me, for the most part.

I don't miss people. I never missed my family, friends or even partners when we were separated. I was married for 8 years, and spent a great deal of time away from my husband: up to 6 months at a time. It never bothered me, but it bothered him to the point where we ended up breaking up. I subsequently ended up leaving several long relationships as I was unable to live up to the emotional expectations; it confused people.

I have later realised I loved these people -- but I did not recognise it at the time (yes, I do have/have had serious attachment issues. You may want to check my alexithymia thread for more details....).

Strange as it may seem, the individual in being lonely, if let be, will realize himself in loneliness and create a bond or sense of fundamental relatedness with others. Loneliness, rather than separating the individual or causing a break or division of self, expands the individual's wholeness, perceptiveness, sensitivity and humanity.

I have taught myself to bond with people in the last few years. It has been an arduous journey -- one that I almost wish I hadn't embarked upon at times. It's fucking scary, this thing we call love, these emotions...

But I think I feel more human as a result.....so I guess you are right, if understanding the human condition and all that it entails is what gives life meaning....

 

[DelusiveNinja]

So, in my dealings with people I have always had this under-current, cutting away at the foundations of what could become something.

I don't know if this seems strange but I have never sought not to be lonely. In fact, I've done everything to avoid people, including friends. I should explain....my sense of disconnect from people is not something that really bothers me. It used to bother me when I was younger because I thought I was abnormal for not wanting to be around people, or being able to relate to them. For a good while I thought I was insane as I could not get the sense of joy that others seemed to have around people -- all I wanted was to escape so I could go back to my books and pondering. People bothered me, for the most part.

I don't miss people. I never missed my family, friends or even partners when we were separated.

Lately, I've been trying to connect with others, but the feeling of disconnect eats away at me. I don't think the feeling is inborn within me (anymore). It seems like it comes from the people that I come into contact with.

Words, experiences, feelings, topics, and ideas are the things that usually assist with connecting people. But now, they seem like objects from another realm that phase through people, never able to make an impact. They are made empty, arbitrary, and pointless by this feeling of distance and lack of synergy.

In the end, there are those that create and influence its existence and those who perceive or defy it. Having been on both ends, I am unsure which side suits me more.

 

[Koosy]

[FONT=arial,helvetica]You scored a total of[/FONT] [FONT=arial,helvetica][SIZE=+2]37
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No surprise there. I'm alone most of the time and I don't really have "real" friends. At all.
Might be a source for my depression.
​

 

[Dr_Chroot]

Results of
The Loneliness Quiz
You scored a total of 26​

I don't mind being moderately lonely. Most people are freaking idiots who have no clue what is going on or how their epistemology is causing adverse affects in their lives. Why would I want to associate with them?

 

[walfin]

29, moderate loneliness.

 

[Debase]

34

 

[Brontosaurie]

35

 

[8151147]

This test has no schizoid level for me.

 

[dark+matters]

I tested as moderate. I would've thought I'd score higher, since I moved away from my home town and I find that it's increasingly difficult to relate to the people I once connected with, and still can't find basically solid, secure friendships in my new city. Why can't I find any other NTs to nerd out with in college? No one wants to counter my rants and tell me what they really think about the topics I want to bring up, or they either don't talk about anything substantial, or I'm so rarely sincerely interested in the things that seem so important to them (like finding the perfect man, etc.). I'm more lonely than moderate, damnit! LOL I need to find my mind mates.

 

[Yellow]

[FONT=arial,helvetica]You scored a total of[/FONT] [FONT=arial,helvetica][SIZE=+2]21[/SIZE][/FONT]​

 

[sandy]

I scored a 37: extreme loneliness.

"You answered this quiz consistent with people who are suffering from extreme and severe loneliness.

A certain amount of loneliness is a normal part of most people's lives. But when your feelings of loneliness can become a bit overwhelming or more serious than usual -- like now -- it may be a sign that something isn't quite balanced in your life."

I got 36
Extremely lonely

 

[Ex-User (11125)]

Spoiler

extreme...though...idk...maybe its just my mood on this particular day.

sometimes i feel myself relax into the epiphany that i probably will always be alone, and i am at peace with it. other times, feelings of loneliness become violent and overwhelming and all i know is i really really do not want to be alone. i open my mouth to attempt to communicate sth honest or heartfelt and something goes awfully wrong...like with the sisters from bergman's the silence.

idk...often i feel like i am only alive through the efforts of others and not my own. people in my life push me to do better and believe in myself and yet i am unable to truly appreciate what they do for me and still feel alone

 

[Seteleechete]

35

 

[DrGregoryHouse]

" 35 Extreme Loneliness

You answered this quiz consistent with people who are suffering from extreme and severe loneliness.

A certain amount of loneliness is a normal part of most people's lives. But when your feelings of loneliness can become a bit overwhelming or more serious than usual -- like now -- it may be a sign that something isn't quite balanced in your life.

You may find that you could benefit by trying to reach out to others in your life -- right now. A close friend or family member whom you trust and talk to can go a long way in helping to relieve feelings of loneliness in many people."

Yeah, I've known this for awhile.

I recently started my own personal campaign of making a concerted effort to reach out to friends in my network to do things together. Last week I interacted on 4 days outside of work with people doing things I normally wouldn't be doing. Felt good.

For the long term I'm also trying to find new friends to add to my network and trying to discover the ideal relationship with a female companion.

By nature I'm just a lonely isolated INTP Owl man. I have to really remember to reach out and be social. Push myself. Isn't easy.

 

[Urakro]

28. Which is in moderate range.

Loneliness used to be a big thing for me before. At that time, I was still holding hope that I could make strong connections with other people. It's ironic how hope can cause despair.

Eventually, I've come to accept that I'm far too removed from people to make connections and the effort is futile. My ideals, cognitive paradigms, and orientations are not geared or set up for closeness. I've learned to connect introspectively with myself, and find fulfilment in my interests and hobbies.

Like peoplesuck, I also find I can't be alone enough.

 

[Dalyth]

18. Only scored higher on the last two questions after thinking about work but I'm not exactly distressed by it when I work alone.

 

[xaerxon]

"You scored a total of 32

Extreme Loneliness

You answered this quiz consistent with people who are suffering from extreme and severe loneliness."

And then later, "A close friend or family member whom you trust and talk to can go a long way in helping to relieve feelings of loneliness in many people."

Haha, such a thing exists?

 

[Jennywocky]

"You scored a total of 32

Extreme Loneliness

You answered this quiz consistent with people who are suffering from extreme and severe loneliness."

And then later, "A close friend or family member whom you trust and talk to can go a long way in helping to relieve feelings of loneliness in many people."

Haha, such a thing exists?

Here, you can borrow one of mi --

Oh. Sorry. I don't have one either.

 

[Intolerable]

16

Normal Loneliness
You answered this quiz consistent with people who are having a normal experience of loneliness. This is usually not something to be concerned about, as everyone can feel a little lonely from time to time.

It can become a problem, however, if these feelings are long-lasting and don't seem to get better on their own, even when you're with others, friends or family.





_______


Not a surprising score for me to be honest. I don't feel alone even though I am. Heh.

 

[dutchdisease]

24

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=loblNGCSo78

 

[al.otakupunk]

34.

It makes sense. I don't exactly despise being alone-- in fact, I often thrive in that state-- but I do often feel disconnected from other members of this species, as well as a nagging feeling that I'm being judged. I want to be understood, but I can't understand others, nor do I really possess the emotional facilities to connect in the first place.

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[marybluesky]

I got 27: moderate loneliness.
I find it better to accept that fact without trying to change it. The biggest gap between me & others in this damn traditional society where I live is personal values, it is frustrating .Furthermore, I`m not interested in topics of conversation for example in my work place. I have tried to be more social but found that being alone & even feeling lonely is far more better than spending my energy to socialize with others who don`t understand me & my values - the latter is really, really exhausting, not at all satisfying any of my needs. This is the reason I get distant even in friends groups that some day I loved so much. In average, for every two groups of peoples I enter, I get along well with them in one, and I am a total stranger in the other. Getting along does n`t mean being well understood, but rather being comfortable & not judged harshly.

 

[PmjPmj]

I scored 12, and then it congratulated me on being connected with the other people in my life...

... except I'm FAR from 'connected'. I'm disconnected, but I like it that way. Solitude is my cocaine. I have my family unit and a few close friends, who I will (often begrudgingly) spend time with.

That being said, before meeting my now wife and having kids, there was a definitely loneliness which permeated my existence. I still preferred solitude, but there was an absence of 'something' at my core. That absence has since been filled, and I'm very content.

My wife is Spanish and therefore takes herself and the kids to Spain a few times a year to see her family. I can be on my own for up to six weeks at a time (when she goes in the summer holidays - she works in education, so gets awesome hols) and although I do miss them (the kids terribly), I am never lonely. I very quickly snap back to my MO, which is a complete lone wolf. I achieve maximum effectiveness when left alone to my own devices.

Also, it is one of my goals to go to America one day (probably around age 40; I'm currently 30) and venture into one of the many vast wildernesses over there. I aim to 'lose myself' for at least a month, and I'll definitely be going off the beaten path.

Samsquatch is a potential issue of course, so I'll be hitting the steroids etc. for at least 5 years before my visit. Maximum prep. By the time I'm done, I'll be able to fuck a bear up with my bare hands

 

[Sinny91]

29.

I'm a popular person . Unfortunately I hate most people.

 

[Esrever]

25, Moderate Loneliness

I live what many would describe as a lonely lifestyle but people don't seem to understand that I'm (mostly) content this way

 

[Happy]

14 (Little to no loneliness)

 

[Brontosaurie]

Redid test, got exact same score as in december 2014

Funny since things are really very different but it evens out i suppose.

 

[deathvirtuoso]

31 extreme loneliness

 

[leictreon]

36

 

[smithcommajohn]

Results of
The Loneliness Quiz
You scored a total of 37

Extreme Loneliness

Well, duh.