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Does anyone know why every time I attempt anything, it only results in me shaking my damn head and/or facepalming? I’m unsure if anyone else faces this problem, let alone what it may mean. It seems to be that people think I’m wrong then try and use the opportunity to show that, no, they could be smarter instead, and thus more aware of what’s going on in the world. It’s not just on this forum, I mean IRL as well. As far this forum goes, I thought about blocking people, but then they’d only think I was unable to match their wits and thus avoiding them, which would spoil my reputation, because people’d be like “he’s not as smart as so & so.”
 

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what sort of stuff have you attempted to do?
 

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Just use the block feature. I've blocked you people plenty of times. Nobody cares.
 

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what sort of stuff have you attempted to do?
Does anyone know why every time I attempt anything, it only results in me shaking my damn head and/or facepalming?
so you trying to, for example, clean your desk.. or preparing a sandwich.. results in you facepalming?
Well, sure, inevitably, because I'd end up thinking about the past and future occurrences, anticipating another go 'round this dilemma. People must be thinking I don't have experience with that, or they're super clever and the first to have thought of something, let alone using the opportunity to perform something, such a display.

But no. I meant mostly interacting with people, I guess, basically just going outside. I can't really talk to anyone because they just say or do the opposite, hoping it means they're smarter than me, at least. They don't care. People freely admit that they "want to switch bodies", whatever that may mean or imply.

You can't be sure that it'd be their mind in my body and vice versa. They'd become completely me, and not have their brain power included. Seems somewhat disturbing. I'm not sure what happened, nor when.
 

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Maybe you should look at what you're doing? I don't really feel like pulling quotes up because you'll only believe me if you want to anyways, but how about the fact that you went and said to one member that they "sucked" and should "tread carefully" and would get "what they deserve". Or how you basically went and said I was an egotistical piece of shit? Or told Adaire she was "cranky" (generally, a patronizing word).

People only went and argued against you after you started things. Maybe you're talking about something else when you say you always end up feeling shown up (I often have a hard time understanding what you're trying to communicate) , but if you're talking about what I think you're talking about you're the one making your own problem. I'm never a fan of flaming, but it really makes my eyebrows go up if you flame someone based on something tenuous and then flip out when you get rebutted. Yeah.

And if you do think your insults are well-founded before they get rebutted, maybe you should consider whether you're insecure and projecting onto other people?
 

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Maybe you should look at what you're doing? I don't really feel like pulling quotes up because you'll only believe me if you want to anyways, but how about the fact that you went and said to one member that they "sucked" and should "tread carefully" and would get "what they deserve". Or how you basically went and said I was an egotistical piece of shit? Or told Adaire she was "cranky" (generally, a patronizing word).

People only went and argued against you after you started things. Maybe you're talking about something else when you say you always end up feeling shown up (I often have a hard time understanding what you're trying to communicate) , but if you're talking about what I think you're talking about you're the one making your own problem. I'm never a fan of flaming, but it really makes my eyebrows go up if you flame someone based on something tenuous and then flip out when you get rebutted. Yeah.

And if you do think your insults are well-founded before they get rebutted, maybe you should consider whether you're insecure and projecting onto other people?
I already talked to a mod about that. I told them I felt I was being targeted and that I had to defend myself or else look weak in front of other members, which I couldn't risk my reputation to do. It also could have been paranoia, in which, taking deep breaths and simply ignoring would have been the better option. I don't start anything, merely defend myself, so.

I'm sorry, but I don't remember calling you an egotistical POS (does that mean I'm still guilty?

I was trying to be nice to Adaire and care for her by saying that. I only meant to console her or begin a process of talking through her problems, to help her solve them. I'm on her side. I'd never hurt her feelings or do her wrong on purpose. She seemed mad, and I just wanted to make her happy again.
 

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what sort of stuff have you attempted to do?
Does anyone know why every time I attempt anything, it only results in me shaking my damn head and/or facepalming?
so you trying to, for example, clean your desk.. or preparing a sandwich.. results in you facepalming?
Well, sure, inevitably, because I'd end up thinking about the past and future occurrences, anticipating another go 'round this dilemma. People must be thinking I don't have experience with that, or they're super clever and the first to have thought of something, let alone using the opportunity to perform something, such a display.

But no. I meant mostly interacting with people, I guess, basically just going outside. I can't really talk to anyone because they just say or do the opposite, hoping it means they're smarter than me, at least. They don't care. People freely admit that they "want to switch bodies", whatever that may mean or imply.
You can't be sure that it'd be their mind in my body and vice versa. They'd become completely me, and not have their brain power included. Seems somewhat disturbing. I'm not sure what happened, nor when.

I'm going to be clear before you read: i am NOT attacking you, NOT insulting you, and i am NOT trying to act as though I'm smarter than you.

You've not given any direct examples of IRL when people try to act smarter than you every time you communicate, so I'll just go off of what I've seen here.

From the few interactions I've had with you, I get the sense that you are very paranoid about what someone could be insinuating about you. From my observations, you seem very reactionary, and easily get defensive about things that may not have been there. Sometimes, I have thought that you were too harsh in the way you approached a response. If you struggle with communication or interacting with people, my guess is that paranoia will manifest itself in a way that makes you appear aggressive and antisocial.

I'm am responding to your inquiry by telling you what I, as an objective third party that doesn't know you and you don't know me, have witnessed in your interactions.

As far as outside: people who do not know you well enough will never understand precisely what you're saying. It doesn't matter if we all speak english, because we all use it differently and have different ears. To connect and really have a conversation, you have to meet someone where THEY are at and try to find a way tor relate yourself to them to give them incentive to hear you out.

If someone else is trying to act smarter than you, that's their problem. It's defensiveness, and it has nothing to do with you. Don't take it personally.

Maybe you should look at what you're doing? I don't really feel like pulling quotes up because you'll only believe me if you want to anyways, but how about the fact that you went and said to one member that they "sucked" and should "tread carefully" and would get "what they deserve". Or how you basically went and said I was an egotistical piece of shit? Or told Adaire she was "cranky" (generally, a patronizing word).

People only went and argued against you after you started things. Maybe you're talking about something else when you say you always end up feeling shown up (I often have a hard time understanding what you're trying to communicate) , but if you're talking about what I think you're talking about you're the one making your own problem. I'm never a fan of flaming, but it really makes my eyebrows go up if you flame someone based on something tenuous and then flip out when you get rebutted. Yeah.

And if you do think your insults are well-founded before they get rebutted, maybe you should consider whether you're insecure and projecting onto other people?
I already talked to a mod about that. I told them I felt I was being targeted and that I had to defend myself or else look weak in front of other members, which I couldn't risk my reputation to do. It also could have been paranoia, in which, taking deep breaths and simply ignoring would have been the better option. I don't start anything, merely defend myself, so.

I'm sorry, but I don't remember calling you an egotistical POS (does that mean I'm still guilty?

I was trying to be nice to Adaire and care for her by saying that. I only meant to console her or begin a process of talking through her problems, to help her solve them. I'm on her side. I'd never hurt her feelings or do her wrong on purpose. She seemed mad, and I just wanted to make her happy again.
I say this objectively: you have highly offended me in forums before when I've not said anything provocative or offending. Very highly. (Then again, I've made people cry before when I wasn't trying to offend or belittle them at alll, so IDK). I don't care to defend myself though, I don't owe you anything. You might be able to relax a little if you regard things that offend you the same way, as it says more about the speaker than you. They don't know you, and you don't owe them anything/
 

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I don't ever recalling offending you, if anything just conversation or discussion about social matters that got solved or mediated as much as possible. I don't think it's paranoia more so than it is provoked responses or deliberate tries to start fights. There's no proof it could be increased social awareness or caring. For an individual to be his or her ultimate self, there are only a few main subjects they need to master, to be considered "intellectual", or ready to enter the social sphere for either work or volunteer service. I'm not saying if you have a career or any other causes or credentials you could be qualified for anything, it's mostly about being able to take care of your basic needs irrespective of the outcomes you wanted.

And to be any clear, it's sometimes hard to understand you too, if anything. It isn't that it's difficult, I mean it's I should maybe put more time into reading what you "put on the table", is all. It makes the risk of communicating not even worth sometimes, because it could lead to a ban. I just come here for conversation mostly about smart topics, it's not my job to mod here or anything. If it means anything, I can't the amount of times I've been banned, it hasn't been that many then and has only been recent, even though I've been posting at the same pace or consistency since. You don't really know my personal life or me in person, so I don't think I'm as rude in reality. I could get along with anyone, it's only someone's personal reason why they wouldn't want to hang out or spend any time together, outside of the workplace or on personal time. Unless anyone can point out the instances where I had offended you highly, I'm not sure how big of a deal it is. This forum hasn't been as active recently, I think people just want something to talk about.
 

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@Pizzabeak First of all, if this comes across as "attacking" you, it isn't. If I understand correctly, you basically asked why you wind up in situations where you're socially humiliated. I'm providing my opinion on possible reasons.

Perhaps you see it differently, but I don't think there were attacks on you and don't believe most people would think so, either. At least in the cases I've seen, both ones that I have and have not been involved in, 1. nobody even addressed you directly and 2. your comments (i.e. "you suck") seemed to come out of nowhere.

You seem to be assuming that your perception is objective reality. Like, after you feel attacked or belittled by somebody, you assume that they were trying to attack or belittle you. Or that they were talking to you at all, which doesn't seem to be the case from what I've seen. You also said to moody,

pizzabeak said:
I don't ever recalling offending you
But it's not about whether or not you remember saying something that you'd consider offensive to moody, or whether you saw moody visible express offense (I get the impression that he/she is fairly passive, anyways). All he/she is saying is that (okay, imma just go with he, whatever) he found some of the things you said to be rude, which isn't something you would know without him telling you so.

You also seem to think that things have to do with you when they don't. Like, your signature? How do you know that people are acting "differently" than you or than the majority because they want to assert superiority over you? What if it has nothing to do with you? I'm not just bringing this up out of the void, though; it seems like the sentiment in your signature was precisely why you decided I was trying to put on airs over you (my thread on the #3). I was not.

Having different tastes or interests than the majority isn't always an attempt to assert superiority over other people. Being different than you isn't always an attempt to threaten you.

Tangentially, I think it's worth pointing out that you said you wanted to listen to and discuss people's interesting thoughts, but also disdained "excessive intellectualism" that you consider impractical. So, what, if somebody is interesting in something that doesn't appeal to you, that's not practical enough for you, it's too overly intellectual? It's an attempt to make you feel dumb? Again, other people are different from you and might be legitimately interested in things you're not. They're not trying to start a fight with you, and it's kind of self-centered to think it's all about you like that.

One distinction to make between your behavior and that of the people you're "retaliating" against. You're assuming things are targeted at you, whereas the things you say are undeniably targeted at people i.e. typing @ and a user's name before directly insulting them.). People get upset and rebut your insults, and you have no response, which makes you feel more shown up.

My suggested solution is that you try to keep things in perspective. Don't assume people are like you, don't assume people are doing things with you in mind. Actually, assumptions in general are something to be wary of. It's like when a friend doesn't text you back and you assume they must be mad at you, but it turns out they were just busy. It can be hard to remember that the latter is more likely true, but it's a lot better for your emotional health if you do so.
 

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People get upset and rebut your insults, and you have no response, which makes you feel more shown up.
What? This has never happened, I respond to inquiries towards me. That’s why I said sometimes I don’t respond, because they just ban me on purpose as planned. I don’t start insults first, and don’t intend to be shown up, so that’s why I’d respond.

My suggested solution is that you try to keep things in perspective. Don't assume people are like you, don't assume people are doing things with you in mind. Actually, assumptions in general are something to be wary of. It's like when a friend doesn't text you back and you assume they must be mad at you, but it turns out they were just busy. It can be hard to remember that the latter is more likely true, but it's a lot better for your emotional health if you do so.
Perspective only matters so much considering the way things balance out. It’s in people’s best interest to always look at the big picture. In fact, this conversation seems to serve a redundant purpose on the contrary, and you are trying to insult me. Doesn’t seem to matter, sounds like music to my ears in the long run as long as I can get a response and keep the discussion going.

Tangentially, I think it's worth pointing out that you said you wanted to listen to and discuss people's interesting thoughts, but also disdained "excessive intellectualism" that you consider impractical. So, what, if somebody is interesting in something that doesn't appeal to you, that's not practical enough for you, it's too overly intellectual? It's an attempt to make you feel dumb? Again, other people are different from you and might be legitimately interested in things you're not. They're not trying to start a fight with you, and it's kind of self-centered to think it's all about you like that.
I never said anything about any subject being too intellectual. I said take your pick, then once you get good enough, you could talk to people about it, it’s better if you do some research first so you know about something before just telling people what they want to hear, you don’t need to be an expert to act or pretend to be one.
 

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pizzabeak said:
you are trying to insult me.
That's my point. You felt insulted, so you assumed I was trying to insult you. I wasn't.

pizzabeak said:
I don’t start insults first
Okay. I suggested that maybe people were arguing with you and making you feel like they were trying to be "smarter" because you start insulting people. You said you only ever do it in defense. Here is a concrete example otherwise.

pizzabeak said:
You suck, I don't relate to this at all. You're probably an "INFJ", not sure why you're here, seems like you just want social manipulation every chance you get. I've never paid attention to you at all until recently, not surprising in your little awakening that you're starting to yearn more for what you think you deserve, except, you should really just tread lightly.
Bolded by me for emphasis. I think you can probably agree that this would be considered rude/insulting? Was it in defense? Well, Niclmaki never addressed anything towards you and he never insulted you. If you felt like what he was saying was insulting to you, most people would consider that an unreasonable interpretation of what he said.

People began to question you, presumably you were approached by a mod over that and/or other similar incidents. You did not respond to this questioning, so I assumed that's what you were talking about in your original post, but also gave you the opportunity to say otherwise.

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Maybe you're talking about something else when you say you always end up feeling shown up
You didn't take that opportunity to say otherwise, so I'm still operating under the belief that that's the sort of thing that's been giving you difficulty.

Also, mentioned something about paranoia. My advice about "perspectives" was basically just me saying that, if you know you're prone to paranoia, you should if possible try to not take your feelings of being attacked as proof that you're actually being attacked. And, again, not attacking you. Haven't been trying to insult you this whole post.
 

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I didn't feel insulted at first, only until after a certain excessive, extensive point. I think it's just cognitive dissonance or having a spiritual emergency, if someone felt more in line with who they truly were and achieved what they could, or were destined to, they'd have more confidence inherently and be less neurotic or able to live a better life. I didn't say I wind up socially humiliated, just that it would awkward and take too long to explain the correct way of thinking about it, and that you have to hope people understood, or just relate to where they're coming from.
 

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I was trying to be nice to Adaire and care for her by saying that. I only meant to console her or begin a process of talking through her problems, to help her solve them. I'm on her side. I'd never hurt her feelings or do her wrong on purpose. She seemed mad, and I just wanted to make her happy again.
mmhm such warmth and support. I think I might swoon.

Let's get married Pizzabreak!
 

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I was trying to be nice to Adaire and care for her by saying that. I only meant to console her or begin a process of talking through her problems, to help her solve them. I'm on her side. I'd never hurt her feelings or do her wrong on purpose. She seemed mad, and I just wanted to make her happy again.
mmhm such warmth and support. I think I might swoon.

Let's get married Pizzabreak!
Okay. I might change my username to break instead of beak so it'd make more sense as it would refer to a communal act of inetivable human interaction instead of just something else.
 

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I already talked to a mod about that. I told them I felt I was being targeted and that I had to defend myself or else look weak in front of other members, which I couldn't risk my reputation to do.
Cog's advice to being cool:
1. Stop smoking weed.
2. Do what I say not what I do.
3. I don't smoke weed either so don't get any funny ideas.
4. Before posting consider "what would Cog do?" then don't do it.
5. Be cool. (there is no try, or do, only be)

This was my sincere attempt to prevent you being as much of an abject failure of a human being as I am, I probably failed, I am a black hole of failure and there is no escape, you will now suck forever, resistance is futile.

Seriously though just use way to many commas, it makes everything your write, sound breathless, and, dramatic.

 

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The universe is actually made of pizza and the olives are black, sucky holes, surrounded by event horizons made of cheese, while supercharged tomato sauce is flung out in every direction towards the ever-expanding crust, faster than the speed of light. Pizzabeak is sitting at the centre of Pizza universe facepalming and wondering why the hell everyone is nibbling tentatively at the crust and avoiding the olives. He's worried that he may actually be an anchovy, when truth be told, anchovies could be the secret answer to the origin of Pizza universe.

Sorry, I'm really tired. This was all my confused brain could muster up at this point.
 

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all this confusion can be traced back to when someone put pineapple on pizza. That was the "big bang" of facepalming and shaking-one's-damn-head
 
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smh my head
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I dug a moderate sized hole in my back yard once, confirming we are on a thin crust pizza. On the other side was like vast desert similar to the one in the movie "symmetry" about the Large Hadron Collider. Large Huge Crust is a deception, thin crust is the TRUTH.

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Forget Pinaple and Anchovies, Cog is right, don't smoke weed, eat it on pizza. This is the ultimate implication of Flat Earth Theory. It's been in our faces the whole time.
 

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Unfortunatley Serac due to the state of Australia in which I was born and raised I am now honor bound to kill you, but I will show you heaven before I send you to hell.

There's pineapple pizza and then there's pizza with pineapple on it and there's a world of difference between the two. That frozen "Hawaiian" pizza you get from the supermarket is garbage, fast food pizza places use canned pineapple so they're lemon scented garbage.

On a real pineapple pizza the pineapple slices (absolutely not chunks) are cooked separately (in a frypan or grilled) and added just before the cheese, understand that cheese doesn't need to be cooked (it's cheese you fucking cheese cooking morons) you only put it in the oven long enough for it to be melted onto the pizza, and you use Camembert, obviously.
 

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I get my pizzas half and half. One half Hawaiian with egg, and the other half Aussie with pineapple.
 

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Yesterday my bf boiled lentils with apples, then served it with cashews, bananas and fresh spinach and it was fucking delicious and it turned my perspective on taste combinations upside down and now I'm the biggest supporter of pineapple pizza you'll ever meet.

(Disclaimer: there were various spices and such in this dish, do not attempt at making this using only the things i listed here as it will probably be very bad, a failure and something you'll feel ashamed over for years to come)
 

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I think my taste buds are defective; I just get all-you-can-eat buffet at Cici's pizza for about six bucks.

And enjoy it.
 

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long have I wondered.. what is this dark force out there that perpetuates the evil of pizza pineapple. Deadly. Vicious. Yet elusive and imperceptible to the eye. but now I know.. I stand today face to face with it
 

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I say this objectively: you have highly offended me in forums before when I've not said anything provocative or offending. Very highly. (Then again, I've made people cry before when I wasn't trying to offend or belittle them at alll, so IDK). I don't care to defend myself though, I don't owe you anything. You might be able to relax a little if you regard things that offend you the same way, as it says more about the speaker than you. They don't know you, and you don't owe them anything/

I vote moody for moderator and banhammer
 

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this is excellent; allegiances have been revealed, alliances shall soon be formed, ancient wounds will soon be healed and dark castles will be stormed
 

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Too bad, the new moderator moody is banhammering your catty ass.

I'm not sure what the competition is, but I am sure I'm winning.
 

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all this confusion can be traced back to when someone put pineapple on pizza. That was the "big bang" of facepalming and shaking-one's-damn-head
I don't like all kinds of pizza, but I remember when I was more poor (I'm not in poverty atm), and I'd have to settle for most, even with my standards. I haven't eaten everything, but I don't waste food.
Pineapple is one of the worst, but if I'm in the mood I'd eat one, although I don't deliberately choose it ever. I think the worst are the chocolate, dessert "pizzas", that are really like brownies in the shape of one.
I used to be a "picky eater" until I grew up. Me and my siblings would never eat the "butt of the bread" in a loaf, to be safe (I forgot who started it, but the younger siblings just started copying the older ones rather thoughtlessly and empty of any intention). It wasn't until I was starving to death that I had to start using the butt ends of the bread. Even then, it hasn't changed my life dramatically, and I still play it on the safe side by not eating that much bread.
All my life I thought something was going to happen, but it's mostly what you make it.
smh my head
i just facepalmed my way through
this entire thread
Will you attend Adaire and I's wedding? Everyone here must go. The ceremony won't be as boring as this thread, if any do consider it so, as the real party begins afterwards, at the after party.
I can't wait for my marriage with Adaire. My life shall consist of showing her off to everyone everywhere I go, and making the people jealous and mad. From my experience, other people get mad when they see me out with someone who isn't them, so she'd have to exercise caution and be safe, although I'll be there protecting her too. She can't let her guard down, either, maybe not as much as I can't, or shouldn't. The rest of our life will be people trying to divorce us. Don't worry, we'll still post here and visit.
We've known each other so long, it's not surprising. This is the way things usually happen, in fairy tales or stories. We must have felt this way about each other forever but were too shy or scared to say anything, until recently, when we started talking for real. I'm studying more computer science and programming, so I'll be the ultimate bachelor for her, knowing everything about everything.
 

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I'll be the wedding photographer.

*calls the camera shop*
Yeah I'm going to need the one with the little windscreen wipers on the lens - it's not for a snuff film it's for a wedding - oh yes the warzone model sounds perfect - I won't need a vest - yes I'm sure, trust me I'm very hard to kill - okay I'll take the cup.
 

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defend myself or else look weak in front of other members, which I couldn't risk my reputation to do.
I sense a common trend. Why insist on making things about you instead of about the things?

I think most people here never understand what you're aiming for or where you're coming from and stopped caring a long time ago, since your writings are so vague and/or incoherent.
 

Niclmaki

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A wise man once said, “If everyone around you seems to be an asshole, YOU are the asshole.” The analogy being, if you encounter the same thing everywhere, it warrents some introspection. It is very tough to be objectively introspective though.

That being said, there are absolutely a lot of “toxic” environments one could find themselves in.

Say, a bunch of immature co-workers and boss. With a disfunctilnal family at home.

You, yourself, could be well adjusted, but everyone in your environment could be out to ‘one-up themselves, and put you down’. Like, if you’re right 90%+ of the time, they will really look for that other 10% and shove it in your face. I know, because I experienced that.

It’s not JUST on them to “grow up” you can alter your behaviour too. What worked for me was loudly announcing and owning all the mistakes you do. Willingly put yourself down a peg, and no one will be trying to strike you down.

For example, when I ordered Pizza for our table the other day, only after everyone ate did I realize I ordered too much. We had a long discussion on what to order, but I insisted to get that little bit more. I said I made that mistake at least 3 times before we left the restaurant, and no one got on my ass about it.

Edit: Admitting your ignorance on subjects often (when it applies anyways) works too.
 

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spoil my reputation
defend myself or else look weak in front of other members, which I couldn't risk my reputation to do.
I sense a common trend. Why insist on making things about you instead of about the things?

I think most people here never understand what you're aiming for or where you're coming from and stopped caring a long time ago, since your writings are so vague and/or incoherent.
It's better to hang out with your friends instead of searching for smart people, because even if you find them, you won't be able to understand what they're saying anyway.
 

higs

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Speaking of hands glued to faces, today I was submerged with memories that have occurred all throughout my life which cause me embarrassment, idk why. Just a combination of social faux pas and stupid crap I did as a kid/adolescent/young adult. Like my brain put together a torture for me by constructing some cringe slide-show entitled "this is how much you suck". Does anyone else get this ?
 

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Today I was submerged with memories that have occurred all throughout my life which cause me embarrassment, idk why. Just a combination of social faux pas and stupid crap I did as a kid/adolescent/young adult. Like my brain put together a torture for me by constructing some cringe slide-show. Does anyone else get this ?
You have to do stuff as fast as possible or other people'll take your idea, with no discretion on who was "first", let alone what's more valuable. Although, sometimes I wait just to see what happens, and usually, from the data I collected, it would appear as if not waiting is the best route... The longer you wait, the more time it gives to other people to think about stuff and let their minds wander, giving them ideas. It's the difference between practice/application and knowledge collecting.

No one cares about the right things you do, they only notice what's wrong. So there's no real proof or standard that people know what's going on or how the world works. When any new information comes out there's only so much time to take it in and digest it. Not everyone knows where people are coming from. Rofl, I did some dumb stuff as a kid too, everyone has. I think it all balances out. I don't really like acknowledging the way people think, because it makes me go off on tangents and forget the actual point I was trying to make, then I have to wait a few seconds to see if I can remember, it just gets awkward sometimes talking or explaining things to people, then they get jealous and envious on purpose, absorbing everything about your pesona to use for their own personal gain and family, attempting to start their own family or find their own hobbies.

Dwelling on that too much just makes you depressed. I'm getting way too busy these days. Jesus hung out with poor and homeless people, but I'd watch who you spend your time with because inevitably, depending on who you are, you'll likely get nothing out of some exchanges while they get everything, so it doesn't balance out nor make sense. I can't help anyone if I haven't helped myself first. So there's a point you get to, where you have to really think about the course your life is headed.
 

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Speaking of hands glued to faces, today I was submerged with memories that have occurred all throughout my life which cause me embarrassment, idk why. Just a combination of social faux pas and stupid crap I did as a kid/adolescent/young adult. Like my brain put together a torture for me by constructing some cringe slide-show entitled "this is how much you suck". Does anyone else get this ?
all the time. the only way I avoid cringing to death from it so realize that if one sees it as stupid shit, it means one has learned something

it also makes me appreciate how tolerant people have been of my stupid shit
 

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It makes me feel less lonely to hear others say they have this too.
 

Pizzabeak

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Welcome to this nightmare :rolleyes:
 

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I was trying to be nice to Adaire and care for her by saying that. I only meant to console her or begin a process of talking through her problems, to help her solve them. I'm on her side. I'd never hurt her feelings or do her wrong on purpose. She seemed mad, and I just wanted to make her happy again.
mmhm such warmth and support. I think I might swoon.

Let's get married Pizzabreak!
Okay. I might change my username to break instead of beak so it'd make more sense as it would refer to a communal act of inetivable human interaction instead of just something else.

omfg I've been reading your screenname as PizzaBREAK this entire time
 
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i've only ever read it as beak

=|
 

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I was trying to be nice to Adaire and care for her by saying that. I only meant to console her or begin a process of talking through her problems, to help her solve them. I'm on her side. I'd never hurt her feelings or do her wrong on purpose. She seemed mad, and I just wanted to make her happy again.
mmhm such warmth and support. I think I might swoon.

Let's get married Pizzabreak!
Okay. I might change my username to break instead of beak so it'd make more sense as it would refer to a communal act of inetivable human interaction instead of just something else.

omfg I've been reading your screenname as PizzaBREAK this entire time
Why is this such a common occurrence?! What is wrong with you humans???
 

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I could still date someone who said otherwise. I wouldn’t jump so fast into marriage, yet rather see each other as potential mates or boyfriend/girlfriend before tying the knot.
 

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[drunk post redacted]
 

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You know there's a French axiom, or at least from what I remember, that you have to swallow a toad everyday in the morning so you'd be up to confront anything that comes along the day. The forum is like that in that respect in that you have to have some kind of a caricature understanding of the people here through people you know in real life. Like for example, I would take Happy and think he's sort of the hard working friend who's in dental school at the moment, or Hado as a friend of mine who's really good at chess and is rational, but usually deals with frustration in the inside a lot of the times (no offense Hado :P). People aren't able to be systematized and controlled because they're individuals and persons. If you have a limited sort of experience with varying types of people, especially really good people, it's more challenging to empathize/sympathize. It's not just about differing individuals or persons either, (there's age, gender, nationality, generation, religiosity,) and so on. If you think you can somehow elaborate on a unifying system to determine all a person's actions, that's simply a case of being a vampire- not being able to know that you exist, not being able to see yourself in the mirror, trying to be an island to yourself.

Anyway hit me up with a blunt sometime Pizzabeak, you'd be a fine gentlemen to talk to.
 
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