Regret

[Alexk]

Is it strange to not feel regret. There are plenty of things I've done that other people have said I shouldn't have, and maybe in retrospect I look at them as something I probably shouldn't have done. I always see it as, I made that choice at that time and as such I must have thought is was the best option, so why feel wrong about something, considering I can't change it now.

Even thinking, things might have been better now had I not done that, things are how they are, so why have such a negative emotion to it having happened.

I'm just curious if that has correlation to being an INTP or if I'm just a bit crazy.

 

[Sparrow]

Meh. Same for me, but depends on who the person I'm harming is :P. Thought process is like this:

1. Oh, I was just an ass.

2. So?

3. That's not very nice.

4. Make yourself think about the other person. Oh shit...perhaps I'm wrong.

5. Just apologize (it's been programmed into me)

I don't feel much...

 

[Jah]

Regret, no.
Experience and notes to self in regards to future situations, yes.


It's not that I don't recognize that I could have done things better if I had another go, but I never really regret. More like take what is to be learned and turn my focus back into the future.

 

[Words]

I believe it has a connection. Perhaps it has something to do with our abundant self-criticism of actions? We analyze things before and after, that is, in other words, thinking and reflecting. Our reflections(Si perhaps) is both a learning and a destructive trap that will try to disable us from moving on.

 

[s0nystyle]

Regret, no.
Experience and notes to self in regards to future situations, yes.


It's not that I don't recognize that I could have done things better if I had another go, but I never really regret. More like take what is to be learned and turn my focus back into the future.

^this. i prefer to move on than dwell on the past

edit: K K I FIX'T IT GRAMMER COMPLETE

 

[cheese]

^*dwell

 

[Sparrow]

^*dwell

Agreed. Though, that was only with my girlfriend.

 

[intuitivet]

I regret things when I start thinking about them i.e. I regret the fact I can't offer better advice to my friend right now (I have no idea how to help) and I regret having done some things in my past, but I move on fairly easily (apart from regretting it...)
I do seem to have an over developed Fe though from living with an Fe first. I find it harder to sympathise than to regret.

 

[asmit127]

I really used to dwell on the past, regretting and constantly running better versions of events and conversations when I felt I'd failed to explain my view with the requisite clarity. Then I read a couple of books on living spiritually (something I still don't get at all!) I'm convinced that having a positive mindset is beneficial, and dwelling on your (perceived) failings isn't positive.

Regret, no.
Experience and notes to self in regards to future situations, yes.

is the way to go. Experience, analyse for a couple of minutes - not what you could have done but what you did and the (lack of) consequences - and move on, it's so much easier.

You actually sound alot like those books were trying to convince me Alexk, whatever you do was right at the time because you did it. In a way this seems selfish, but if everyone was a nice person it would work...

Crazy not to waste time and mental energy on stuff that can't be changed? Definitely not, sounds like overcoming an INTP weakness (being overly self critical) to me

 

[shadowdrums4]

Eh I regret a lot.

Worse I go over the scenerios in my head, sometimes going "Why did I do that?"

For example I'm regretting actions I took last night. I was angry at my sister and ripped up a few books of hers (and unknowingly, one of her friend's) I also yelled things at her that I had been hiding from her to protect her as well as that I'd never do anything else for her.

Although now I'm going back on it, I said I wasn't going to pay for her book (though I would pay for her friend's) or buy her the chocolate like I told her before I would only to go back on it later. I just can't not help her out. I'm regretting the whole thing.

I've also regretted the actions I took with a friend that caused us to not be friends anymore. I know I shouldn't dwell on it because it doesn't help but I can't seem to help it.

I guess it's something I should work on.