people hate me! or do they? introverted question

[Ghost1986]

for about 70% of my life, i have always assumed people hate me. this belief is based on little facts and mostly over analyzing things that may or may not be there. i can start a new class and before midterm comes, ill begin assuming the professor hates me. all though i must say i dont think their plotting against me so that good! lol!

any how, if this negative way of thinking simply due to my upbringing or because of my introvertedness?

 

[Ermine]

I actually assume that people don't know about me. And if they know more about me, it can be assumed that they like me to a degree since I'm good at not making enemies.

 

[Artifice Orisit]

*resists urge to feed paranoia*

Being an introvert in an extrovert’s world it is possible that you have some resentment towards extroverts which in turn is reflected back at you when they mirror your facial expressions and mannerisms (an extroverted habit for seeking acceptance).

Or perhaps humans are just hateful creatures who plot against each other in typical Darwinian style.

@-Ermine
The right way of making enemies is not to let them know your their enemy untill after you've set them up for a crushing defeat.

 

[cheese]

I think it's probably an introverted thing (I feel the same way, even here) and also partly a result of the mirroring effect Cognisant mentioned. Taking this into account, one solution might be to be extra friendly and nice. This will probably come off as normal to extroverts. They will then mirror your friendliness back to you, creating a positive cycle.

 

[Inappropriate Behavior]

how can anyone hate cheese? does not compute.

@Ghost- I think the hatred thing is probably just in your head. Unless you are speaking up a lot and challenging their assertions (showing them up) you're probably little more than an unknown quantity to people. Your demenour may be offputting (depending on how you carry yourself) and you get the mirror effect staring back at you. If you furrow your brow and frown when you look at people, expect the same returned. That doesn't translate to hate as it can be turned around. I would recommend a slower pace than a sudden transformation. Ease into attempts at friendliness with casual smiles and motions of greeting. A sudden reversal of character would look either disingenuous or downright scare people.

 

[Ghost1986]

how can anyone hate cheese? does not compute.

@Ghost- I think the hatred thing is probably just in your head. Unless you are speaking up a lot and challenging their assertions (showing them up) you're probably little more than an unknown quantity to people. Your demenour may be offputting (depending on how you carry yourself) and you get the mirror effect staring back at you. If you furrow your brow and frown when you look at people, expect the same returned. That doesn't translate to hate as it can be turned around. I would recommend a slower pace than a sudden transformation. Ease into attempts at friendliness with casual smiles and motions of greeting. A sudden reversal of character would look either disingenuous or downright scare people.

i try to smile a lot. dosent always work, but when it does, it hurts. so ust to not smiling that mt facial muscles get sore lol! i get this feeling a lot less now that i moved away from home. the people here are the university are so much nicer. dont know if it makes a differance in human interact, but i always walk like a soldier. stright back, chin up long strides, i pretty much walk like iam in the army.

 

[Inappropriate Behavior]

That walk might be intimidating to others although I guess only if you are of average or above size. Whatever your size, it might be looked upon as you don't relax. Try slouching!

People have always gotten on me for walking with my head down. They think I look either sad or lost in thought.

 

[Artifice Orisit]

People have always gotten on me for walking with my head down. They think I look either sad or lost in thought.

I can relate to this, but I also hunch my shoulders.

While visiting Japan I picked up the habit of compressing my frame to avoid constantly knocking stuff over and hitting my head on ceilings. As a result when I stand with a correct posture I can seem to "grow" by about 5-6inchs.

Honestly if you're tall and heading to japan, invest in a soft helmet or something; I swear I left an impression in the support beam of one house.

 

[cheese]

IA:
Emotions have a way of getting around logic. As does paranoia.

*edit
Not that I have emotions!

 

[Perseus]

In a group of peope I may have difficulty in working out where emotions are coming from. Somebody who hates me may be masked. They may even be plotting against me (Camelheads ESFJ with a higher toxic T). Or it could be a wife who like me with an angry (ESFJ) husband. Danger. This will happen mostly in my extrovert (ENXP) Lizard (cf. Turtle INXP delightful) mode. Therefore, I become introverted for my own safety. Another serious problem is people who like me and I don't like them or want to be part of their world, especially Cats (ISFP). Or I might like them, but I don't trust them: Pony girls (ESFJ): they will sell all my possessions.

 

[Perseus]

The Wolfman (ENTJ) has gremlins in his computer. He is getting paranoid. Then he discovers (somebody ISFP told him) that his *** (heart: interior part of his computer) * had been invaded by a virus. The repairman (ISTJ) won't come and he opens up the back of the computer and is bitten on the hand by a Krait (ENTP), (for stealing ideas and not giving people credits).