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Non-substance methods of overcoming social anxiety

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I'm wandering what some of you do to make social interactions less of a pain in the ass. Particularly when in a situation where you have to speak with people you've never met before... and especially people who are less complex than you, for lack of wording it differently (you know when you throw something out there to test someone and the response you get is shallow or they just don't understand).

My small talk skill is limited without drugs or alcohol involved, and this isn't a healthy or sustainable option.
 
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listening is a good skill to learn.
This is the best way to become proficient at simplifying complex topics for the audience.
 

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I try not to have any specific aim with the interaction. To me it's just about chilling out and cracking some jokes. I rarely talk about anything "cerebral" with people unless there is some specific purpose to talking about it. I realized at some point that I don't even like to talk about such things with people. Like, what's the point? Even if someone knows what you're talking about, it's just gonna be "yeah, that's cool" and that's it. I often mention things that interest me, but that's usually in passing and mostly for my own amusement. I don't expect people to engage in a discussion about it.

In practical terms, I think the first step is to learn how to relax around people. Like, next time you're in a conversation, whenever they say something, take a pause for maybe 3 seconds or so and then say your response. Have a thoughtful face or whatever in the meantime. That will make the interaction nice and relaxed.
 
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pretend you are jane goodall performing important research on endangered primitive apes. let the gravity of your mission to save them steel your soul against the horrors of their absurd social rituals and endless banal drama/gossip cycles. you might even find some diamonds. diamonds!

alternatively just use the substances in a more temperate fashion
 

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Ask them about themselves. Why are they in (social event)? Who do they know? Do they like that other person over there? When was the last time they did (x)?

It's much easier if they do most of the talking and you don't have to spoon feed them a conversation they likely don't care about. It's often boring, but when faced with such a situation you just gotta deal with it.
 

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Ensure there aren't any nutrient/hormone imbalances/deficiencies (NutrEval + a comprehensive hormone panel). Meditation and brainwave entrainment audio. Better diet/nutrition. Slowly increased exposure. Watch videos on YouTube pertaining to interaction. Determine what's causing you to become anxious, then address it. Practice with and get advice from someone skilled in this regard.

There are safer supplements/nootropics that lower anxiety and increase verbal fluidity. For example, aniracetam. Aniracetam + alpha-GPC. Aniracetam + piracetam (+ alpha-GPC). Aniracetam + noopept (+ alpha-GPC). Etc.

And a multivitamin, D + K, and chelated/TRAACS magnesium supplement.
 
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There are safer supplements/nootropics that lower anxiety and increase verbal fluidity. For example, aniracetam. Aniracetam + alpha-GPC. Aniracetam + piracetam (+ alpha-GPC). Aniracetam + noopept (+ alpha-GPC). Etc.

And a multivitamin, D + K, and chelated/TRAACS magnesium supplement.
It's been some time since I've used nootropics. Usually piracetam with choline bitartrate (which I've heard is an inferior source of choline compared to alphaGPC, maybe that would give more noticeable affects), but if I remeber right aniracetam has anxiolitic properties so perhaps I could give that another shot. Never used it as much as piracetam.

As far as multi vitamins go, there is nothing I need to take more of that I'm not already getting my daily recommended intake from through my diet. I do take magnesium though.

alternatively just use the substances in a more temperate fashion
This could apply for alcohol, I'm not a heavy drinker and it hasn't been a major problem for me. However it would be inappropriate for some of the settings I'm in. Anything else that is as good or better of a social lubricant is problematic. If I have a shared interest with the person I'm speaking to, that really helps, but I often hit road blocks trying to find something in common.[/QUOTE]
 

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There are safer supplements/nootropics that lower anxiety and increase verbal fluidity. For example, aniracetam. Aniracetam + alpha-GPC. Aniracetam + piracetam (+ alpha-GPC). Aniracetam + noopept (+ alpha-GPC). Etc.

And a multivitamin, D + K, and chelated/TRAACS magnesium supplement.
It's been some time since I've used nootropics. Usually piracetam with choline bitartrate (which I've heard is an inferior source of choline compared to alphaGPC, maybe that would give more noticeable affects), but if I remeber right aniracetam has anxiolitic properties so perhaps I could give that another shot. Never used it as much as piracetam.

As far as multi vitamins go, there is nothing I need to take more of that I'm not already getting my daily recommended intake from through my diet. I do take magnesium though.

alternatively just use the substances in a more temperate fashion
This could apply for alcohol, I'm not a heavy drinker and it hasn't been a major problem for me. However it would be inappropriate for some of the settings I'm in. Anything else that is as good or better of a social lubricant is problematic. If I have a shared interest with the person I'm speaking to, that really helps, but I often hit road blocks trying to find something in common.
That's great. The multivitamin combo is usually added to support nootropic stacks. Also, unless supplementing, it's unlikely vitamin D is in the preferred 40-60 ng/mL range.

AOR Ortho-Core (or Life Extension Two-per-day if too expensive), Life Extension D + K, and Doctor's Best High Absorption Magnesium.

I like SEMAX + selank + alpha-GPC even more than aniracetam.
 

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Just be confident and imagine yourself more prepared for the interaction than they are (even if you are not).

I’m not sure how friendly or warm this actually appears . It usually intimidates the other in my experience.

If that’s not your speed though, just listening for 80% of the conversation works too.
 

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I'm wandering what some of you do to make social interactions less of a pain in the ass. Particularly when in a situation where you have to speak with people you've never met before... and especially people who are less complex than you, for lack of wording it differently (you know when you throw something out there to test someone and the response you get is shallow or they just don't understand).

My small talk skill is limited without drugs or alcohol involved, and this isn't a healthy or sustainable option.
Go to psychotherapist.
Or smoke cigarettes, take phenibut, drink alcohol, take some coffee...
 
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The goal is not to feel less nervous/afraid irt social anxiety, but to become braver when it comes to social anxiety. Taking small incremental steps towards any goal you might have is generally the best approach and social anxiety is no different. Obviously, this means you are going to have to push yourself out of your comfort zone, but no growth can happen without that.
 
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