Limit on things

[Silent Fury]

I've noticed when I'm trying to help out or be nice I have somewhat of a limit before I become a motion sensing bomb per se.

For example, I went to help out my ISTJ father and and ISFJ sister at his job. I tried to be as efficient as possible for their sake, primarily my dads, but since I've been more offering of my help for 4 days already I feel my (Nice-Bar, or even Fe) is running low.
Today I helped but my efficiency levels plummeted, plus my dads jobs is all tedious simple crap which everyone knows that INTP's hate. So when I was told to sand the baseboard I kind of lost it. I didn't get angry or anything but I just became an unmovable force of immobility lol, if that makes sense. I parked myself right on the staircase and sat down. (It was the last thing we needed to do before we left but still)

This happens to me a lot. I have limits. I can't be to nice for a while, not necessarily be nice, but I can't sugar coat my words or talk sweetly to everyone for too long, I feel like I'll get diabetes handling so much sweetness.

I get meaner or cold when I've reached my limits.
However it could just be that I'm angry at my dad sister(and mom) for reasons unknown and can't embrace them for too long.

My dad did go overboard on his demands and started being a dick about it.



Anyways....

How bout it?

 

[Duxwing]

I'd leave if I were you, for if being 'nice' (just typing it makes me shudder) is causing you to shut down after a while, then there's no benefit in continuing. However, if you're doing this as a favor, simply tell your father that you'd like to keep going but are simply being overwhelmed by the emotional and detail-oriented nature of the job. Then, calmly stop helping him and you'll feel better.

Moreover, I too often feel like there's a limit to how nice I can be or how much sweetness I can experience before I explode or faint, respectively. It's a real bummer when dealing with people.

-Duxwing

 

[INeedToPee]

for me, i am the same way and i only stick around to help or be nice if there is some sort of "profit" for me, like money or keeping a close friend (even with close friends, if they expect too much of me they are probably not my friends in the first place). i stick around as long as i have to. and idk too much about your situation, but if i was volunteering to help someone and they started being pushy with demands, i would leave.

im glad i have that "limit" because it tells me "okay, you've wasted enough time. if there's nothing here for you, let's go"