My experience between the two types is mostly in my family dynamic. My sister and I are INTP, and my Dad and brother are INTJ (Mom is ISFP). Nary a word was spoken when we were together, but when there were, it was usually my Dad attempting to assert his logical conclusions on the rest of us. My brother is softer, but tends to be rather inflexible in his own way. Neither of them can fully grasp the ability of my Ti-Ne, and I've never really felt inclined to assert it. Both my dad and brother view my sister and me as generally slow-witted and reckless in our lives. We both rebelled against the Te of Dad, but I'm pretty sure my brother reveled in it (though I think he eventually saw this as a flaw in our father and suppresses his toward his family).
My sister and I have very niche interests and pursuits and make a modest living in various jobs in our respective areas of art. What we do needs to be interesting, have variety, and be meaningful in a creative way. My dad and brother are more career oriented (dad is college professor and brother works in computers for a major corporation), and tend to be very reliable, predictable, and narrow in their goals. They have very few interests and hobbies outside of their work. In fact, when my dad retired, he had so few interests he started teaching classes again to fill his time. My dad and brother like to have nice things and are rather possessive of them. My sister and I are content with whatever but recognize and seek quality insofar as it serves our occupations.
My dad and brother tend to be more serious and to the point, while my sister and I tend to be more quirky and impulsive. My dad and brother tend to dress conservatively, orderly, and consistently (always well groomed), while my sister and I tend to wear more creative, hodge-podge outfits that match our mood for the day (for my sister this includes her monthly hair color).
In fact, the more I think about it, my brother is such a clone of my dad and my sister and I are so clones of each other.
My sister and I never really had many deep conversations, but it was always easy to follow the other's train of thought. It is easy for either of us to talk past my dad or brother in conversation or debate. I got along fine with my brother most of the time (he was the responsible one growing up who had the nice gaming consoles after all
), but I never had a good relationship with my Dad. That being said, and though our debates can get a little heated at times on points of contention, he is capable of having insights that I never would've seen coming and he is starting to realize the power of my Ti-Ne to ferret out his internal inconsistencies (same can be said of my brother). We get along much better now than when I was young.
Do I like INTJs? They have their moments, but usually not. Their views tend to be so linear, rigid, and narrow it drives me crazy. It's clear to me they don't have the natural gift of seeing from multiple perspectives, but that seems to turn out to be useful for them in regard to their careers and wealth accumulation. I might almost be jealous if I cared about such things...
But the worst has got to be when I bring a strategy board game to play with my brother and he decimates me while half paying attention on his first time playing. Gotta respect that Ni-Te combo.
as we can actually make conclusions about things, rather than just debate things.
but I don't see the two styles as primarily complementary, I see them as primarily competing against each other. Of course, in school assignments it's no big deal if someone tries to narrow down the scope of the work, making it a little more specific, or widen it, making it a little more fun to explore.
