I stopped making to-do lists a while ago and started keeping what I call a Register of Commitments, which is a list of commitments I’ve made to people. I only write down items I’ve said to someone that I will do. The difference is that with a register of commitments, I focus my time on doing things that are going to be measured, not things that I’ve fabricated in order to be ‘busy’ - i.e. the trap inherent in to-do lists.
All the other time is mine to spend as I please.
(I thought of this after I realised I was failing to deliver on commitments, despite always attacking my to-do list furiously and seemingly getting nowhere. It taught me to value my time more and only promise to do things if I was willing to write it in the register.)
I’ve found I don’t need it outside of work, so it lives on my desk only, which keeps me feeling more free.
I second what Minute Squirrel said. "Just do stuff", is definitely the very best advice that you can give to any one (or at least anyone who fits the general patterns of an INTP.)
For a lot of us, getting overly focused on lists is a recipe for disaster. It just leads to anxiety or procrastination or just generally getting stuck in a rut, or at worst you actually get stuff done but then burn-out because you haven't included downtime.