Just did the test and realized belong to INTP...
Would like to say hi to every INTP here as our group seems to be one of the rarest type....
Amazingly the description is f*k accurate... esp for the part of trying to pursue to power over nature and being creative, visionary and strategic....
But as a female INTP, im always troubled as to feel lonely anti-social. Thought im actually a nice and easy-going person but ppl just like to gossiping behind me and rumoring around...i just cant afford to devote my time for caring their feeling but if they speak it out directly i will do it for them....why when it comes to friendship, becomes so complicated?! i would question my own ability sometimes when it comes to this inter-personal field.
do any of you have such problem?
Hello,
I was new a week ago also.
I think the problem you are having is really very common with a lot of people here.
Most non- INTP people really need to have a sense of how 'just like everyone else you are' so that they don't feel intimidated, or uncomfortable around you. This usually equates into talking talking and more talking. Plus , hanging out and (you guessed it ) even more talking. Especially if you're smart and offbeat somehow , and don't talk much, their perception of you will be that you're stuck-up or seemingly above it all in their view. What's the remedy?
Feel comfortable with yourself. You aren't weird or abnormal. You aren't in the majority of behaviors but you aren't a psychopath either. Other people's perception of you while extremely seemingly important when you're younger, are trust me, not that important at all. You decide how important someone is to you and strive to make a good impression on the people WHO MATTER TO YOU. One good thing I think people notice about INTP folks is that we aren't 'fake people'. We tell it like we see it, maybe too blatantly at times, but nonetheless. And we aren't drama queens. We don't seek to manipulate other's people's emotions or situations.
However, many INTP people don't feel the need for all this 'extraneous' talking in the first place and then to make things more awkward, they don't tend to be into doing group activities for the sake of doing a group activity. For a lot of us it can be awkward, boring, or just plain draining.
I know girls are socialized to be well, 'social creatures', and I do think it's harder for girls to be accepted for being more introverted and analytical, and less emotional.
Your best bet is to find maybe one or two other girls or boys who are similar, have similar interests to yours, and get to know them . I have 2 friends since I was 8 I still consider very close. If I call you a friend it MEANS something. Or 2) make friends with those people who can't shut up no matter who they talk to and really don't want to listen to you anyhow. Takes the edge off when you don't have to do any of the talking. Of course this kind of person will quickly become a drain, but as long as you hang out with them with at least one other person as a buffer, you can always shunt them off a little. The number of people I was friends with who wanted nothing more than attention is very funny in retrospect.
I hope that kinda answers you. Yes, it can be lonely if you LET it be. But being alone does not always equal being LONELY either.
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