Does no one care?

[lightspeed]

Or: Does Anyone care? I prefer the pessimist version.


At what age did everyone figure out that no one could truly care about themselves, better than themselves?

It's a fact. If you die, people might mourn. However, no one cares as much if you die, besides yourself. Shouldn't you put yourself first then?

I felt this way until I had children. I would give my life for them, but that goes on too. Your kids can dearly care about you, but never as much as themselves. So on..so on. Am I right?

If you don't take care of yourself, who will?


Maybe my mentality comes from being brought up in an 'every-person-for-himself' location.

Is this the mentality of everyone?

 

[Da Blob]

Or: Does Anyone care? I prefer the pessimist version.


At what age did everyone figure out that no one could truly care about themselves, better than themselves?

It's a fact. If you die, people might mourn. However, no one cares as much if you die, besides yourself. Shouldn't you put yourself first then?

I felt this way until I had children. I would give my life for them, but that goes on too. Your kids can dearly care about you, but never as much as themselves. So on..so on. Am I right?

If you don't take care of yourself, who will?


Maybe my mentality comes from being brought up in an 'every-person-for-himself' location.

Is this the mentality of everyone?

Alas, we cannot care for ourselves as well as other could 'potentially' care for us, it is a fact of life. There is a spot in the middle of one's back that serves as an example of that, it is out of our own reach - as many of the solutions to personal problems seem to be. The old truism, "I'll scratch your back if you will scratch mine" has so many applications in RL. However, we in this modern society are not educated in how to actually care at all, for our own selves or for others. It seems to be a 'hit or miss' or 'trail and error' process instead.

The Golden Rule really can only be efficient if a number of 'neighbors' try to live by it. Many of us Believers are derided for our belief in God. However, if One is ever fortunate to meet Him, as "The One That Cares", the comments and actions of those who do not care lose any meaning.

 

[warryer]

Alas, we cannot care for ourselves as well as other could 'potentially' care for us, it is a fact of life. There is a spot in the middle of one's back that serves as an example of that, it is out of our own reach - as many of the solutions to personal problems seem to be. The old truism, "I'll scratch your back if you will scratch mine" has so many applications in RL. However, we in this modern society are not educated in how to actually care at all, for our own selves or for others. It seems to be a 'hit or miss' or 'trail and error' process instead.

I can reach every part of my back. Yes I like to defeat analogies. I do understand your point though.

There are only a few people who will care enough to help you out of a crappy situation. These being family and close friends who you would call family. I would say you are right.

If we are being honest with ourselves, nobody is going to go out of there way to inconvenience themselves unless you have a personal bond with said person. However there are a few good people in this world that can look beyond themselves. I have had the good fortune of witnessing acts of pure kindness. When you see it, you can't help but feel hope for humanity.

You are probably right in saying that it's a product of society as Blob is saying. I don't know where you live light but in the states its very me-this and me-that. I would go as far as saying that its manufactured by media/advertising to stimulate buying materials.

 

[Rebacur]

Funny that my care is for all, even those dressed in black or wearing glue. The apathetic bunch are sickly to me, caring for their own things only. We wouldn't be where we are today with abundant selfishness

 

[le roi]

It's a fact. If you die, people might mourn. However, no one cares as much if you die, besides yourself. Shouldn't you put yourself first then?

yessiree, bob

Is this the mentality of everyone?

no, some people are motivated to literally die for others.

 

[citrusbreath95]

You are probably right in saying that it's a product of society as Blob is saying. I don't know where you live light but in the states its very me-this and me-that. I would go as far as saying that its manufactured by media/advertising to stimulate buying materials.

I agree with this, or maybe this spotlight on one's self and ignoring other's needs is a result of historical events that have occured both in the U.S. and globally, and because advertisement just advertise based on to the current events and plays on people's emotions (advertisers don't start trends, but rather promote them) they are just adding to the atmosphere created by these historical events. Also, over the years we lose trust for people. No one trusts one another and it's obvious in today's society, we are all paronoid as to why something is happening or who is causing this to happen, so without trust there comes fear, and this fear causes us not to help others for fear of getting hurt, or for fear of messing up. I don't entirely know how trust for fellow human beings declined in years, perhaps just because of the timeline of events, but I do think it plays a major role in how we act towards others and how much of an "outstretched, welcoming, hand" we have towards others. I'm not sure if long ago people were just more nieve, or maybe there was just not as much reason not trust others. Or perhaps because we don't trust we're nieve as we aren't wise enough to figure out and analyze a situation without jumping to conclusions and instead just forget about that person. (It's the easiest way out, and today everything has to be easy. Fast food, transportation, communication, etc. Everything is simple, easy, accesible, so we don't want to make things complicated, and getting involved in other's lives and trying to improve it we actually forget about our own, and thus that could resort to a more complicated time on focusing on it (If that makes sense) so yes, I think our lack of generosity and kindess is based on today's society.

 

[Tyria]

Or: Does Anyone care? I prefer the pessimist version.


At what age did everyone figure out that no one could truly care about themselves, better than themselves?

During my teens.

It's a fact. If you die, people might mourn. However, no one cares as much if you die, besides yourself. Shouldn't you put yourself first then?

I guess it depends on your outlook on life. I'm also not sure that I agree that someone else could not care about you as much as yourself. Maybe not all the time, but that someone else can have your best interests in mind.

I think people tend to put their own survival first, although there are self sacrificing types.

I felt this way until I had children. I would give my life for them, but that goes on too. Your kids can dearly care about you, but never as much as themselves. So on..so on. Am I right?

If you don't take care of yourself, who will?

I am somewhat confused with the prospect of your children caring for you, yet not 'caring' as much as you than yourself. Would it be fair to say that people do care, but in different ways for someone?


Maybe my mentality comes from being brought up in an 'every-person-for-himself' location.

Is this the mentality of everyone?

I wouldn't say everyone. I would say that many people might have this mentality as a result of instinct and basic biology. We are also free to act against our instincts though, and to think logically and rationally.

I must admit I am curious as to what you define care as, and what are the criteria behind the word.

I really like this thread though. Thank you for posting