You are more emotional than most on this forum. You don't have as detached of an orientation than many on this forum have. That doesn't mean you are not INTP. If you find value in identifying yourself as such, that all fine and well, just don't lie to yourself. I am guessing you are in college or highschool or something. I say this because you have somewhat of an immature outlook on romantic relationships, no offense. Maybe immature is the wrong word. What I should say is that this is an aspect of your life which you struggle with as a whole. That is not to say you cannot develop this part of yourself, but just be aware that thinking you are changing and changing are not the same thing. You will know you have changed/are changing when your behaviors change. Changing your behaviors is much easier on the ego if the change is coming from getting to know who you are on a deeper level as opposed to going about it by simply changing the behaviors alone. Sometimes we need our worldview to get the shit kicked out of it for real change to happen. That happens when we are trying to discover something. This is generic advice, but you should try and get to know yourself well before deciding to look for a romantic interest.I feel like at this point everybody on this thread is thinking I'm changing my natural self to be with a guy. I will always be a INTP at heart I will always be analyzer in my head that is just the way my brain works some people hate and very few love it. I honestly just want to bring out more of my feminine side that's been pushed down a lot because after all automatically being born a woman does not make you feminme and being born a man does not always make you masculine.
I just think I want to change the way I use my over analizying especially in relationships. I will still have my uniqueness about the way my mind works no one can take that away from me. I now just want to use my analytic nature for getting closer to people and my creative ideas not mainly using to always correct people or win arguments. So I guess I'm switching my focus