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- ok so i got a deal with a company outside my country, not much money but they give me accomodation.
- i haven't finished uni, i'm supposed to retake 3 examns in september and it's done.
- i'm fucking bored at home with no friends nearby or chances to get a girl or meet new people.
- the place i'm going is quite small and not much happening there but i will meet new people for sure.
- i started going to psycologist last week without really understanding if it's a waste of time or not, if i leave now i might never know if there's a cure or not for me.
- i'm old.
- time won't wait for me.
- this would be my 3rd year in a row leaving my country and living outside, supposedly for at least 1 year, my parents think i'm a lost bullet and there's no hope for me.
- to stay would mean to deal with life as boring as it is, to leave would mean to keep splashing like a magikarp until it evolves into gyrados.

should i stay or should i go?
 

Reluctantly

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If it was me, I wouldn't go, since there's not much money and the company seems to be making you reliant on their "accomodations".

But I know nothing of the circumstances. I knew someone that did a similar thing for an internship as some kind of I think environmental technician. So she was very outdoorsy and liked it, regardless of the low pay and shitty boarding. But it wasn't permanent either.
 

Cognisant

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You sound very self defeated TMB
 
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I'm not experienced with these kinds of things bc I am just 16
But maybe finishing your exams would be smart? Like then that's done. Out of the way. You'll feel closure abt that and be able to move on freely.
Also you put the time and effort into whatever courses the exams are for, so don't just waste that.

Life is full of opportunities
Meeting ppl isn't as bad as it seems like if you have one outgoing friend and you just walk around and talk to strangers in a non malicious way you can meet lots of people and it's just fun af

Fun story I have a crazy awesome friend who will shout random stuff to strangers or just say hello and start talking to people and now she knows like every person who ever comes near our town and it's just rlly cool
We were crossing the street one day and she said hi to some random dude and started talking, I kept walking bc I wanted food lol but she caught up w me a few minutes later like "I just made a friend and drug dealer"

Y'all send some prayers to my friend she needs them but still she's fun to know.


Here are my babbles.

Also hey hey hey guess what
Hannibal is from Lithuania
Pretty cool
I've always had a weird draw to the place. Like it seems so mysterious
Hecc

Have fun

Have you gone through the nature hippie phase? U like sit outside and don't wash your hair and call children bad words but in a cool way
It's a thing
 
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have any of you seen lost? i feel exactly like jack after he comes back from the island.
when he starts taking planes and travelling from china to south africa just hoping the plane would crash so he comes back to the island.
that's the feeling.
i feel like taking planes and living whenever it would be just to turn off that thing bothering me for a while.

@reluctancy, i never cared much about the money, maybe because i always had everything i want. it's more about just walking around new stuff, it makes me not think so much about bullshit.
@cognisant, yeah, i am man. thinking how to work it out.
@nebulous, well i know that's the right thing to do. i should finish things.
i was never a hippie, if i didn't wash my hair was because i was lazy about it.
Lithuania was a cool place indeed, just simple things for simple people, a lot of dark artsy shit going on, a lot of mystical sex in the forest. my relationship with the hippy tribe over there was about killing or sexing them. And everyone was very polite and interested in hearing you / drunk. here everyone is like i don't have time, i'm listening to maluma, everyone is so loud, everyone is so fucking perfect at talking laughting about nothing. but yeah, actually Madrid is a really nice place to do whatever you want to do or find new things going on, so maybe i'm just a frustrated prick.
 
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I'm on a mission.
I made my decision
To lead a path of self destruction.

Hey wtf guys. Chester benington died.
I'm really touched by his death.
I have been listening a lot to first linkin park records these last days.
It only fills me with a desire of living to the fullest.

My dad asked me the other day who he was. And I played all the hits. Then I told him. Now u know who the great Chester Bennington was.
In the end that's all that matters. And it matters soooo much.
 

Pyropyro

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I'm on a mission.
I made my decision
To lead a path of self destruction.

Hey wtf guys. Chester benington died.
I'm really touched by his death.
I have been listening a lot to first linkin park records these last days.
It only fills me with a desire of living to the fullest.

My dad asked me the other day who he was. And I played all the hits. Then I told him. Now u know who the great Chester Bennington was.
In the end that's all that matters. And it matters soooo much.
RIP Chester
 
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I'm on a mission.
I made my decision
To lead a path of self destruction.

Hey wtf guys. Chester benington died.
I'm really touched by his death.
I have been listening a lot to first linkin park records these last days.
It only fills me with a desire of living to the fullest.

My dad asked me the other day who he was. And I played all the hits. Then I told him. Now u know who the great Chester Bennington was.
In the end that's all that matters. And it matters soooo much.
NOOOOOOoo wtf isn't he young??

I never want my lil sister to find out oh no Linkin Park is her favorite band
 

Pyropyro

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NOOOOOOoo wtf isn't he young??

I never want my lil sister to find out oh no Linkin Park is her favorite band
Sadly, he committed suicide.

People that I know that lie within the 30-40 age group are quite devastated.
 
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i was a big fan of their 2 first records, then meh.
but they were soundtrack for a part of my life. and he always seemed to be a nice down to earth guy.
i saw them live in Madrid a few years ago, they were really good.
i think he and cornell had a gay relationship. i'm not trying to make an easy laugh, i do believe it.

On topic:

today i asked in a Facebook group for advise for stuff in my new city and this girl appeared and she replied then she added me and she has been talking to me on Messenger since 3 pm
it's 1 am

it can only mean this city is boring as fuck.
girl seems to be an ENTP. or ENFJ i can't quite tell. she's a graduated on medicine..
man wtf i'm no one, she literally asked me to take her out for dinner the same day i arrive there and to teach her how to dance, and a lot of stuff. anjd she looks cool u know, a bit heavy but quite pretty. i can handle it
wtf
wtf
man wtf

i am no one. iwhy so much attention?

but it is human Company, i should try to care!
 

Kuu

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Can you delay the company a bit? Get your university over with, otherwise it was a total waste. Then you can go, and if it fails you still have your degree as a fallback...

You will find your way soon enough.
 

Pyropyro

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On topic:

today i asked in a Facebook group for advise for stuff in my new city and this girl appeared and she replied then she added me and she has been talking to me on Messenger since 3 pm
it's 1 am

it can only mean this city is boring as fuck.
girl seems to be an ENTP. or ENFJ i can't quite tell. she's a graduated on medicine..
man wtf i'm no one, she literally asked me to take her out for dinner the same day i arrive there and to teach her how to dance, and a lot of stuff. anjd she looks cool u know, a bit heavy but quite pretty. i can handle it
wtf
wtf
man wtf

i am no one. iwhy so much attention?

but it is human Company, i should try to care!
Just enjoy the time with her rather than wallow on your lack of credentials and general "worthiness". You're just hanging out, educational attainment isn't that a big deal in that field.

Also squishy > bony, just sayin'
 
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The answer to this question and others like it is always "GO!"
 

onesteptwostep

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Tbh I didn't know the name of the lead singer until he died. RIP Chester.

CRAWWWWWWWLING INNNN MY SKINNNNNNN
 
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i think you know you should stay

often guilty of trying to change the outside circumstances, when the answer may be closer to home, or the change thats needed is you and not "out there"

just my 2 cents
 
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omg shit is going down

u know this girl i mentioned that added me in Facebook from the place i'm going to and who has been talking to me since the day she added me just told me that she's being blackmailed by someone she was dating for a while from the same town and that she's going to the pólice today cuz she feels scared as fuck.
i said: please tell me i won't get killed just because i'm the outsider talking to you cuz if so i won't take the plane.
HA.
now what?
 

washti

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JUST LIKE IN MOVIEEES...and you belived her? :eek: girls are BIG BIG BIG atention seeking whores.:rolleyes: Watch out for signs. When I read your posts I often feel that creepy need for drama in them. Did you have some past as an actor? But maybey its this latino thing, dunno. Nvm. I'm cold bitch and came here just to ...eeee :confused::elephant:
 
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but actually what can i do, i didn't expect her to say u know? i just deleted my Facebook there's a guy who's stalking me, i mean i comment it here cuz i thought it was funny, all this shit happening to me for some reason

an actor? XD
 
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^ that guy looks just like a friend of mine.
Cancelled, no reason actually, just i am feeling good at the moment where i am, there's no need to live in a lost town in a more unconfortable tight money, Little food way. I'll move again for sure but i need a bit more of time. Bad side is that the organization will pay someone to kill me for making them do all the procedures and now having to look for another person 1 day before the thing starts. Shit i'm feeling bad actually.
 

washti

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I hate warsaw. lived there over one year pretending study archeology and making ice-creams. Why you want job in Poland when you can earn euros in Spain?I guess you are big city guy so maybe Krakow, did you were there? Lots of tourists tho. I'm country girl and on state money for caring about my father and brother. Before this long time unemplyed. I love tiny towns and villages. I'm the last person who can find you any job. Sorry :-) Now send X-man :)
 
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give me a job in your farm then
look, i tell u what happens with the x man friend, he gets the girls quickly but in a week they leave him and come to me, just be smart and skip it already
 

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I hate warsaw. lived there over one year pretending study archeology and making ice-creams. Why you want job in Poland when you can earn euros in Spain?I guess you are big city guy so maybe Krakow, did you were there? Lots of tourists tho. I'm country girl and on state money for caring about my father and brother. Before this long time unemplyed. I love tiny towns and villages. I'm the last person who can find you any job. Sorry :-) Now send X-man :)
Spain is a third-world country that happens to have euros. It's good for vacation – for work not so much.
 

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@ TMB - I dont have a farm. :phear: And sorry but I just want to one shag with Wolverine. Dont blame me - I have boring life lately. Let girl had her mutated pleasures!

@Serac - So what Poland is? 19th-world country? :confused:Polish workers are named chinese of Europe, at least here where I live. But I'm surrounded by pesimists so I dont know about other perception really.
 
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Spain is a third-world country that happens to have euros. It's good for vacation – for work not so much.
Wow normally your posts are quite objective and all that, and even tho some show a bit of hatred I tend to agree but this is just plain ignorance.
I have been in several places, around 20 different countries and lived in 4 of them for long periods and I can tell you Spain has nothing to envy on them. At so many levels I would say our quality of life is far superior. Culturally we have so many different things going on, so many shows, art happening, music, so much. I would say we have a fucking superb public transportation system and a solid social health care. You feel safe everywhere you go. As for payments. Its good if u have a good degree and CV. As in everywhere. My sister has a normal/low kind of degree (nothing related to maths or physics) And she gets around 2500 euros per month.
For living that's more than enough.
Yeah if u compare to Norway ... Thing changes but then u need to think what do u really want.


The problem i have with Spain is how hot it gets in summer and most people are super loud. And I'm not even Spanish.
 

onesteptwostep

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Spain seems like a decent place to live. I want to see the architecture that's there..
 

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Wow normally your posts are quite objective and all that, and even tho some show a bit of hatred I tend to agree but this is just plain ignorance.
I have been in several places, around 20 different countries and lived in 4 of them for long periods and I can tell you Spain has nothing to envy on them. At so many levels I would say our quality of life is far superior. Culturally we have so many different things going on, so many shows, art happening, music, so much. I would say we have a fucking superb public transportation system and a solid social health care. You feel safe everywhere you go. As for payments. Its good if u have a good degree and CV. As in everywhere. My sister has a normal/low kind of degree (nothing related to maths or physics) And she gets around 2500 euros per month.
For living that's more than enough.
Yeah if u compare to Norway ... Thing changes but then u need to think what do u really want.


The problem i have with Spain is how hot it gets in summer and most people are super loud. And I'm not even Spanish.
I've also lived in a few countries at this point – including Spain. Maybe it was a culture shock coming from northern Europe, but geez – don't tell me they have good infrastructure and decent pay. I mean, I personally couldn't complain about my pay because I worked in an international business, but I heard about well-educated tech professionals who made 18k EUR per year. That's fucking crazy compared to the rest of Europe. And no, I wouldn't say they have good social health care. Most northern-Europeans who lived there used private doctors from their own countries. The public transport was useless. The bureaucracy looked amateurish at best – the kind of thing where you have to smooth-talk your way through it.

But maybe it depends on where you are in Spain, I don't know. I was, however, in the place with highest level of economic development in the southern region of Spain.
 
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I never has any issue with public health care, unless u want to see a certain specialist for some critical thing.
About transportation was how it useless? I live in Madrid I can get anywhere at any moment I can go to Barcelona, Galicia at any time, no delays, top quality trains and metro. Not like I'm Brussels for example.
Yeah I have also a friend who has a degree on physiotherapy and a doctor on smth related to it and he gets little. But he's making his way up. I think in a few years he will earn tons. My chemistry friend doesn't get that much but it is his fault for not wanting to move out of his town.
I don't know what u mean by amateur burocracy.
A side note: andalucia and Murcia are some of the worst places to live I think. Even tho they have cool places and history.
 

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I never has any issue with public health care, unless u want to see a certain specialist for some critical thing.
About transportation was how it useless? I live in Madrid I can get anywhere at any moment I can go to Barcelona, Galicia at any time, no delays, top quality trains and metro. Not like I'm Brussels for example.
Yeah I have also a friend who has a degree on physiotherapy and a doctor on smth related to it and he gets little. But he's making his way up. I think in a few years he will earn tons. My chemistry friend doesn't get that much but it is his fault for not wanting to move out of his town.
I don't know what u mean by amateur burocracy.
A side note: andalucia and Murcia are some of the worst places to live I think. Even tho they have cool places and history.
Well, this was indeed Andalucia, which, when I think of it, is probably in no way representative of places like Madrid.

So apologies to Spain – I have no fucking clue what I am talking about.