So much to say here...
The typology bit's quite related to this, yes. It's not so much an excuse as an explanation for why different people struggle with different things. For those of us who are high Pe+Ji, the tendency in life is always to reconsider and re-evaluate. The Pe function (no matter what one's hierarchy is) is meant to present to the psyche new information via data absorption and seeking. And the Ji function (regardless of hierarchy) is meant to internally re-question the alignment of ideas to one's principle-framework.
What that means is that Pe-leads and Ji-leads, unless developed, are in this ambiguous or ambivalent state of flux. Reality is always "being discovered" in present tense and "being understood", synthesized and often from very first assumptions. To the point where the questions may seem stupid indeed.
When the person or situation at hand presents us with an immediate practical scenario, it can seem absurd to meet the situation with "What is school anyway?" or "Why do we even have 8 hr work days?" ....then go on a wikipedia binge to try to figure it out, instead of doing that boring paper or job.
The Pi+Je functions do the opposite. Pi, not being an external perception function, already has a perception in mind that is not in a dynamic/real-time transformation process. This itself greatly helps Je execute. If your map is constantly shifting terrain, it's hard to navigate or know where to go.
Pi: "Here's how the world's condition is"
Je: "And here's how you execute within it"
is entirely contrary to:
Pe: "Oh, I didn't know that. This changes everything!"
Ji: "I have to readjust my position back into perfection."
These two are a natural duality in human nature. Both in each one of us, but also on a macro scale between individuals who embody one of these more extremely. And each can certainly find reasons to consider the other stupid. Either for not thinking deeply enough about life/their-choices/their-entire-life-direction/purpose, or for not being able to have even very simple logistical talents and manage a basic job or apartment. c_c
But similarly i have been stupidly acting under a subjective premise and failed to acknowledge that its not appropriate for years. I have assumed that i could attain more social freedom one day and should invest all of my mental focus into this possibility of psychological change.
Yikes. You've had a lot of hard disenchantments lately...
I think perhaps one of the keys to wisdom is to be utterly disenchanted but not bitter and disheartened? Tho it's easier said than done.
It hardly ever happens, but when it does you see people who aren't irrationally chasing idealistic fantasies; who are grounded and yet still aspire for the same underlying ideas, in the small things.
Transformation ceases to be the magical and rapturous experience it was envisioned as being, but it happens in them nonetheless through temperance, patience and balance--- rather than extremes or diehard ambitions, which are themselves (and their urgencies) parts of the problems/damages.
Those who seek transformation with such fervor. Those who seek transcendence with diehard passion are those who need it most; for their spirit's sake. But they're also the most at risk of burning out in flames and coming down crashing. It's at once a desperate cry for deliverance, and a foolish, rash arrogance that leads one to believe all is possible if I just soar high enough. I may not be talking about you specifically anymore, but of the tendency in general.
But one must learn to walk before they can run or fly. Translating this into practical language, things like making friends, having meaningful family connections, being able to communicate with others. Those are the "walking" before the running. Those things (socializing) which often are belittled by the more spiritual people... --via chastisement of it as meniality-- are depreciated as a type of psychological concealment of their own frailties and inadequacies.
He who wishes to be enlightened at heart and mind can't possibly be someone who can't operate with basic emotional dynamics. And it's a very common but skewed rationalization to think that one has instead developed a far more sophisticated heart-dynamic that naturally alienates them from other people, thus disallowing connection. And that it's not due to their own shortcomings, but to those of others for failing to understand them and the concepts they hold.
In this sense --for the recluse-- growth really should take the form of an admission that the outer world isn't necessarily more false than their internal direction. But that other humans pay witness to the entirety of what it means to be human, to feel, to breath, to exist, to be happy -- and also what it means to have a heart. Their life flow has correctness in it. That bimbo blonde that's just obnoxiously happy and flirty is... at least able to experience joys that we might not be experiencing; however you dislike her, something she is doing is more right than what we are doing. So the audacity of believing that 99% of people are doing life wrong is what has to shift in these cases. Once again... not speaking of you directly, but of many friends and acquaintances I've seen chase the spiritual path in the past..
When the spiritualist has learned to integrate the mundane into their being, that's when they'll finally reach the peace they desire by flying through the air. To put it more practically, the heart (which is at the root of all this) heals through environment, to a great degree. Developing a sacred routine of going on forest walks every morning can do wonders for anxiety. Getting a job as a labor worker, farmer, gardener, etc. Caring for friends and family, and not making connection about an absolute intimacy/kinship (i.e. a symptom of desperate loneliness) are signs that their psychology is growing into health.
disclaimer: i don't always successfully apply much this in my own life. c_c
i'm a fumbling fool myself.