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Old 28th-December-2016, 06:27 AM   #1
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Do you think it is possible to love anyone?

One time I did and then I saw God in a dream. Hint, God is a girl.

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Old 28th-December-2016, 06:39 AM   #2
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What's love? I think I tried it with an INFJ girl once and it scarred me for good. She still loves me though. We're supposed to be together and have kids and all that but she would get too heartbroken if I fucked someone else even though she did the same.
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Old 28th-December-2016, 06:54 AM   #3
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What's love?
Acknowledging the goodness(dignity) in another human being.
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Old 28th-December-2016, 07:07 AM   #4
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The moment a person has defined good, he has also made from that what is bad. When bad and good is realized, then we've made pain. And if there is pain, then there brings love.
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Old 28th-December-2016, 07:28 AM   #5
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Emotions are not whimsical mystical phenomena, they're the manifest biases of human instinct, we're compelled to be nice to attractive people and repel the unsightly, diseased and unstable because that serves the interests of our genes. Our biology cares nothing for our ideals, the euphoria of love exists to cripple the mind, an addiction that only lasts long enough to get the job done.
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Old 30th-December-2016, 01:01 AM   #6
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No, although there is the idea of loving everything, that is to say, acceptance. And really, no one knows what happens if you interfere with the love of two people; it took a long time for man to realize this oddly enough.
So I would say it takes a certain kind of crazy to choose to love anyone. There will be ulterior motive (2+2=5?). Clearly you would want to but relationship wise how could that work, good luck marrying the homeless lady on the corner for whatever reason seems logical. I don't make the rules. It's a lot harder than you'd think and obviously, people would want it to be easy.
It's the spiritual idea of wanting all to have what you may be fortunate to - it doesn't have to be literal. So if it doesn't make sense I would imagine two handicapped people to fit nicely together. In the end you still die but who knows what's after that?
God isn't a girl, it's both. Perhaps mostly woman but that is a man's perspective and I could only imagine the reverse.
J's seem a little more closed minded but still willing to see other perspectives and remain to the institutions of whatever is plausible, like a marriage. Things are already perfect but ego and some other forces always intervene. So you can try but why would you? I wouldn't focus on the details and don't know where to start, but you'd generally want to be an empathetic person doing good in the world, and things could just work out. That much is obvious. Either it happens or it won't and you can ask whomever as to why. I have a few questions regarding this and you'd be surprised where the answers probably don't come from.
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Old 30th-December-2016, 06:17 AM   #7
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So you can try but why would you? I wouldn't focus on the details and don't know where to start, but you'd generally want to be an empathetic person doing good in the world, and things could just work out. That much is obvious. Either it happens or it won't and you can ask whomever as to why. I have a few questions regarding this and you'd be surprised where the answers probably don't come from.
I am not always empathetic because I can get to a point where too many of my buttons are pushed. It's not that I don't try it's just I need to be calm. And I try to be as calm as possible because I actually want to try and consider others needs. Some people just don't give a shit but I do so I try not to let things bother me where I would intentionally hurt someone just because I want to. You would have to push me to the breaking point. And it's not that I don't have feelings. Feeling is why I remember all the bad things that have happened to me when I get into fights with my family. But even then I have to not get mad at what anyone has done to me because I have to be a good person because I don't want to be a bad person. If I start hating people what does that get me? If I start ignoring the fact that I should be empathetic what does that get me? If I cannot treat everyone with as much empathy as possible I will never overcome those feelings that tell me to treat others in the opposite way. And isn't it the ability to keep trying that will make me a better person in the end? If I don't try I will never be a better person. I think that to love others is to do my best have empathy even if I can't be perfect all the time.
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I am not always empathetic because I can get to a point where too many of my buttons are pushed. It's not that I don't try it's just I need to be calm. And I try to be as calm as possible because I actually want to try and consider others needs. Some people just don't give a shit but I do so I try not to let things bother me where I would intentionally hurt someone just because I want to. You would have to push me to the breaking point. And it's not that I don't have feelings. Feeling is why I remember all the bad things that have happened to me when I get into fights with my family. But even then I have to not get mad at what anyone has done to me because I have to be a good person because I don't want to be a bad person. If I start hating people what does that get me? If I start ignoring the fact that I should be empathetic what does that get me? If I cannot treat everyone with as much empathy as possible I will never overcome those feelings that tell me to treat others in the opposite way. And isn't it the ability to keep trying that will make me a better person in the end? If I don't try I will never be a better person. I think that to love others is to do my best have empathy even if I can't be perfect all the time.
Agreed. A lot of people who may not be introverts might have trouble understanding or practicing that, so I'd say it's easy to be manipulated into feeling bad there. Whatever works for you.
You can maybe sign up for classes on that kind of management and see how what you know compares to the establishment then recycle what may be necessary, which could be representative of behavior with too much sentience however. I think they all just want to help but are at a loss as to how and looking at the situation it seems bad like you really do need some consolation. Finding your type and seeing how it intermeshes with those around you's types can help if that's at all necessary plus you'd have to meet their expectations to make them happy as far as interaction goes. If it doesn't suit you you can always leave for more suitable friends and in the case of family, perhaps occasional visits are best. Group therapy is always an option. So it sounds like you know what to do but be your own judge on whether any change is what you need.
Sometimes calling someone a faggot and leaving it at that is what's necessary, and most would agree. There's no need to be afraid of being gay and it isn't about that. You're right - don't pick seeming targets out, and then hate them because it gets you nowhere, really. The best thing then is to just meet new people. And, it seems to be the same thing. I won't say extraverts can't get it but they'll have a hard time understanding.
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Old 30th-December-2016, 09:36 AM   #9
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I am not always empathetic because I can get to a point where too many of my buttons are pushed. It's not that I don't try it's just I need to be calm. And I try to be as calm as possible because I actually want to try and consider others needs. Some people just don't give a shit but I do so I try not to let things bother me where I would intentionally hurt someone just because I want to. You would have to push me to the breaking point. And it's not that I don't have feelings. Feeling is why I remember all the bad things that have happened to me when I get into fights with my family. But even then I have to not get mad at what anyone has done to me because I have to be a good person because I don't want to be a bad person. If I start hating people what does that get me? If I start ignoring the fact that I should be empathetic what does that get me? If I cannot treat everyone with as much empathy as possible I will never overcome those feelings that tell me to treat others in the opposite way. And isn't it the ability to keep trying that will make me a better person in the end? If I don't try I will never be a better person. I think that to love others is to do my best have empathy even if I can't be perfect all the time.

In my opinion, being empathetic and loving someone are two different emotions. You can be empathetic to a person but that doesn't really mean you love them, you just understand them a bit better. I have an Autoimmune disease called Lupus and I also work in the healthcare field. Having this disease has actually helped me be a little more empathetic with my patients because I can understand what their going through, but I don't really have love for them like I do my sister, mom, husband, or any other family member.
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