Re: Difficulty talking in certain situations?
I have that happen so often, people familiar with me are always haranguing me for not speaking louder. It's like a given, within two months of knowing somebody they spot it as a tick and try to fix it.
You're not stupid or strange. From what I understand / have seen, it's an overactive Fe function that kicks into gear when we're uncomfortable/stressed. INTPs often feel anxious in situations where we feel incompetent, and for many of us, that's the social arena. So instead of not caring and pushing past her, or saying "excuse me" like it's no big deal, the Fe function kicks into overdrive and you become hypersensitive to the prospect of negative social feedback.
My best response to that happening (and it's a major work in progress) has been to self-analyze and internally talk myself through it. What am I feeling? (Fear, usually.) What am I afraid of? (Disturbing the social balance, receiving negative social feedback.) What's the worst possible outcome? How likely is it? What's the most likely outcome? (The other person feeling embarrassed because they were the one standing in the way.) Self-analysis can be a really useful tool, as long as it's working for us instead of against us.
The other thing is to self-talk to reaffirm your presence in the situation. It's okay to take up space. You're a person, too. This is normal human convention. Reminding the hyperactive Fe that things are alright and you do actually know what you're doing can help a ton.
Anyway, I know that's a lot. Like I said, may not be applicable for everybody, but that's what I've found.
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