I came from an intense Christian cultural background and generally also liked to control perceptions people had of me so I had avoided using overtly colorful spoken language. When I started participating a lot online about ten years ago, my friends would make fun at me at using asterisks in my swear words online.
At some point I left that physical environment and mindset and now swear quite a bit casually in writing, although not nearly as much in spoken language -- it depends on who I am with. When I'm alone, I swear a lot if I talk to myself.
Two of my friends at work (from our private conversations) drew me an "F-bomb Queen" award one day when our lead really pissed me off. I was dropping the bomb in our cube discussion without even realizing it, since I normally avoid that kind of thing at work lest I be overheard. workplace swearing = no no
In general, personally, I'm more interested in intent of language rather than the specifics, although they aren't necessarily 100% separable. Context matters. But swears can be pretty colorful and creative. I'd say my Scottish and Australian friends have the best swears, they put me to shame with their ingenuity.
In the United States, "cunt" is actually pretty vulgar and tends to be heard in the literal sense. I hadn't realized how casually it is used by some other countries and so doesn't meant quite the same in terms of intensity, so now it's not as bothersome to me although not a word that comes naturally to me.
I don't think "cursing" and "anger" are nearly the same nor have the same level of emotional discharge. You can curse without expending energy / angry energy, and it's the anger that is the issue, not the words you are saying.
Originally Posted by hogarth
I feel very uncomfortable cussing in front of people who I don't know very well. Somehow, it's just awkward...then again, I tend to speak in a somewhat formal and stilted manner with those people, so more relaxed, colloquial, and casual speech doesn't come naturally - and profanity falls into that category.
With people who I know extremely well, colorful language does an excellent job of livening up the conversation and expressing things clearly.
Kind of along those lines, I don't like stirring up needless shit with people or building animosity by accident, so if I don't know how they'll take vulgarity, I just avoid it until I get to know them better.
Needless to say, I avoid swearing around my sweet little 73-year-old xian mom.