It's very easy to calculate the ideal mate of INTP from INTP's functional preferences.
INTP has strong functions of Ti and Ne (depending on subtype
either one or the other tends to predominate).
INTP has weak functions of tertiary Si and "inferior" Fe where INTPs typically need some help and support from others (again, depending on subtype either one or the other function in INTP requires more help).
Mutual understanding is best when two people share all "cognitive perspectives" i.e. functions in common. Se will never understand the needs of Si. Fe and Te won't ever understand each other in relationships, and so on. That much is clear.
Taking a look at MBTI types that:
- Share all functions in common with INTP.
- Have their strong functions as their weak ones, and their weak functions as their strong ones for mutual help and support.
There are two types that fulfill these criteria of understanding and reciprocity: they are ESFJ and ISFJ
Socionics suggests ESFJ as the ideal match for the TiNe type. Though many INTPs reject this (usually on purely theoretical grounds, having no relationship experience with a mature ESFJ), it's the match that has the potential of being most rewarding to an INTP.
INTP and ESFJ are practically the same type "from different ends":
INTP: Ti Ne Si Fe
ESFJ: Fe Si Ne Ti
They have all the same functions but in different order. This layout perfectly matches the description of "the other half".
Second best choices include types that can partially meet INTP's needs i.e. supply the INTP with either Fe or Si: among the Fe-suppliers we have ENFJ and INFJ
; among the Si suppliers there are ISTJ and ESTJ
There are also two types that have all of INTPs functional preferences, but exactly same strong and weak points, types that understand each other well, but can't quite support or meet each other's needs: these types are ENTP and another INTP
In summary, good matches for INTP are: ESFJ, ISFJ, ENFJ, INFJ, ISTJ, ESTJ, ENTP, INTP.
Types like ESFP, ISFP, INTJ, and ENTJ
share no, zero, nada cognitive perspectives in common with the INTP raising the chances of feeling misunderstood, unsupported, and alienated in such a pairing.