Originally Posted by Cognisant
Well c'mon then someone else take the stand, you all seem content to sit around and titter condescendingly at me behind your hands but you can only do so because I spoke my mind, shared my feelings and thus made myself vulnerable.
Can any of you do the same?
I'll...take a stab? Not sure what about, but I can ramble.
It's pretty obvious that at least initial
human attraction may be
entirely off of physical appearance (by definition "superficial" - simply denotation). People aren't entirely (as far as I'm aware...well maybe some people LOL) their physical features. Which is why we get to know people after that. As for those who can't get past the initial stage? Meh, oh well. (lol jk).
Fuck, what am I rambling about?
As I've stated...I have never asked a girl out on a date, and the majority of my ex girlfriends were the one who asked me to be their boyfriend in the first place.
Am I just scared of rejection? ehh...not too much. Might I take an ego blow/hit if I was rejected, probably. But IMO I'm just...fucking lazy. (In my head it's like...fuck...too lazy to go ask her out), But I will admit I could simply be masking my being scared of rejection by rationalizing it with laziness, but this is almost besides the point,
I'm not bitter - but as @ESC brought up -> Most of your criticizers were people in relationships, and that includes me as well.
I've dated athlete-jock girls[FFS THEY HAVE THE TIGHTEST ASSES], nerdy girls[uhhh BRAIN SEX ANYONE?], some "bigger" girls[Who keeps you warm at night
and uh...doggy style??
], and even two girls taller than me
(I'm 5'7")[Could be some "power-dynamic" thing IDK]. Regardless of what charisma I may project over the forum, I'm more of a "loner" IRL, keeping to my own shit (IRL), if people want to talk to me, so be it, but I won't go *out of my way* to initiate.
Sure, I've tried to talk to "babes" (GodDamn 11 on a 10 scale!), and sometimes can barely get the time of day, but it's just "oh well." <- As previously stated, I don't fucking *go out of my way* for these things. I *hate and DESPISE*
games, especially social ones. If one wants to talk to me or another person, just fucking do it. I can't stand games. You want to play hard to get? Go fuck yourself. I'm not expending energy in games. I'm open and I expect others to be too. I *can't fucking STAND* neurotic people.
What exactly did I have to offer the girls that asked me out? It's not like I initially disclosed I've travelled the world, am super-duper-smartzies, and just plain out kool (lol ego stroking for a sec
so initial attraction I guess? Then we just got along after that.
But a question could be asked is that, would I be bitter if they hadn't come after me? I dunno.
uhhh...that's it i guezz.
Anyway, regarding superficiality, from your pictures @Cog, you seem both tall & attractive (and from other posts it seems you have $$$), and ur smartness, so honestly IDK what the fuckin' problem is.
(Sigh, unfortunately one *must* sometimes deal in the *social game arena,* and I choose to be the chasee rather than the chaser