Originally Posted by DIALECTIC
Besides her looks / natural charm of course, what i found the most attractive in her were her polite assertiveness and her humour (witty and a bit childish).
Polite assertiveness ... yes, the ENFJ's also have that. They're more assertive than the INFJ's actually, who like all introverts tend towards neuroticism (IN's especially). INFJ's do love humor, I think it keeps their dark Ni daemons at bay.
INFJ's are attracted to INTP's Ti analytical which they have in their tertiary. They'll be worried about some woe or another - the poor in the US for example, and they appreciate hearing our analysis of it which helps put their Ni/Fe view in perspective (and not as scary). Another thing is physical capability - when you get to know her show you can fix your tire (or her's), fix stuff around her place, etc. They have Se in the inferior, and combined with the male-female dynamic this is extremely powerful for them. She was hugely attracted to me and loved our conversation, but I think it was when I changed her tire in the rain that she was mine for life.
Otherwise, especially initially, make her laugh. They eat that shit up.
See if she would like to go Trick-or-Treating with you for Halloween, or do something around then. I think that might be appealing (or not, I should check with her on that, I not infrequently come up with ideas like this I think are great that she just laughs at).
((checking)) she said she'd hate "to get hit up at work, unless that's your only option?" Yeah that makes sense, they're conscientious at work and might find it embarrassing to mix the two (though we met at work, but we both were working there so that is different). Don't know, but I think you'd have to be careful about emailing her work address.
Here you go, find out when the bank closes, hang out and catch up with her as she's leaving (hopefully it's not late and dark so she doesn't get freaked out), see if she'd like to stop nearby for coffee/whatever. If you're relaxed and confident that's romantic.