PumpkinHead
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ENFJs seem to want to know and be liked by everyone. So how do you really get to know an ENFJ and really be liked by an ENFJ? My theory is that if you try to be liked by everyone and to know everyone, then those relationships can't be that deep. That is not to say that ENFJs are not deep, but you can only be close to so many people, given that time is limited and that people only really click with select people.
I'm asking because I'm kind of fascinated by this ENFJ girl I met a few months ago. We don't run into each other often, maybe once a week on average. So we are acquaintances. There is just something about her that interests me from the first time I met her. But I'm an introvert and am slow to get to know someone. We have had s few short conversations, but they have gotten slightly more personal, like from things you have to say, to asking questions about each other.
Anyway, what I wonder about, is who does she really like? She seems to like everyone or wants to be liked by everyone. There was a short get together of 10 people and she didn't speak to me, which sort of confused me. I don't know if it was on purpose. But she has asked me questions about my life one on one. Maybe she is so social that she is just bouncing around from person to person in a group situations.
So I'm asking here in the INTP forum, because INTPs seem to be more analytical about such things and maybe you have had experiences with ENFJs. I'm an INTP also. I would like to get to know her more. I don't want to ask her out at this point. But I'd like to know better how she ticks for when I run into her later.
I'm asking because I'm kind of fascinated by this ENFJ girl I met a few months ago. We don't run into each other often, maybe once a week on average. So we are acquaintances. There is just something about her that interests me from the first time I met her. But I'm an introvert and am slow to get to know someone. We have had s few short conversations, but they have gotten slightly more personal, like from things you have to say, to asking questions about each other.
Anyway, what I wonder about, is who does she really like? She seems to like everyone or wants to be liked by everyone. There was a short get together of 10 people and she didn't speak to me, which sort of confused me. I don't know if it was on purpose. But she has asked me questions about my life one on one. Maybe she is so social that she is just bouncing around from person to person in a group situations.
So I'm asking here in the INTP forum, because INTPs seem to be more analytical about such things and maybe you have had experiences with ENFJs. I'm an INTP also. I would like to get to know her more. I don't want to ask her out at this point. But I'd like to know better how she ticks for when I run into her later.